LGBTQIA Community Thread! If you're queer come here~

[Destined2bebossy]

Why is there no bicurious option in the pool? Or is bicurious the same thing as questioning? :derp: Anyways add me to the OP, please! :) I'm pansexual.

 
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Hello~ I'm relatively new to this forum and I'm glad I stumbled on this thread. I'm a homoromantic bisexual. I'd love to be added onto the list  :smile:

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[Destined2bebossy]

I've been so fucking MIA.
 
Welcome to all my new babies!!!!!

 
My life has been such a whirlwind. Me and the guy I was telling you about still kinda flirt but I don't think it's going to go anywhere (although I am still hella head over heels). He works in a higher position in my same department on campus and its forbidden to date/fuck/kiss etc. anyone you work with. Which kind of brings me to a second dilemma. Two of the girls I work with are bisexual and are clearly attracted to me (I to them). But the stupid dating ban!!!

[Destined2bebossy]

Ever consider secretly dating? Not like secret secret that you hide everything, but like show affection outside of work? Then again, maybe you shouldn't take the chance since your boss might find out from others (those snitches!!)

I would love to but its just such a high risk. We are obligated to report anything we see (and if we don't its our asses on the line) so if someone sees us I don't want to have to put them in that situation. But omg one of the girls was chilling in my room at like 1am and we were talking and the tension was through the roof! I had to hold back soooo much.

confess to him, be a rebel girl
does he know you really likes him more than friend?

Yeh we both have feelings (nothing too deep if im being honest) but we seriously just can't do anything about them

[Destined2bebossy]

is it just me or does whenever a girl stares at you you're just like "are you secretly judging me or do you want to make out with me"  :rlytearpls:

 
LMFAO!! bruh. I feel like its the oposite with me though. I'll be hardcore checking a girl out and she'll give me a "bitch don't judge me" look and i'm just like, if only you knew what I was thinking.
 
OK! OK! OK! The girl I told you guys about (the coworker with the sexual tension) just basically confessed on snapchat about liking me!! She made it cryptic so she didn't outright say my name but omfg I am freaking out!!!!

[Destined2bebossy]

hi! please add me to the list, OP ^^ fluid represent here, but I introduce myself as bi because it's easier for people to understand. I'm generally into girls more than guys though. lgbtq are still pretty heavily stigmatised where I live, so I'm out to only few close friends. I don't think I will come out to my family until I'm completely financially independent. being a feminine girl I mostly get past people's gaydars, convenient for staying safe but invisibility is frustrating sometimes.

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[Destined2bebossy]

Hey my lovely people! Sorry I have been so MIA. I will get to adding everyone on the list (as soon as I get on my laptop lol).
Sooooo much has been going on in my life, might have to do an update post.

Hope everyone is well!

[Destined2bebossy]

Hello ^^ I'm very bisexual. Nice to see a thread for support. 

 

Hello!

 

omg i haven't been on this thread in AGES.

i'm honestly surprised y'all haven't replaced me as op lol

[Destined2bebossy]

 

SO i wanted to ask the creator of this forum if they could make a poll for different genders

 

cause there r so many and im transgender and also asexual

 

and im totally open to help witht he poll too if thats needed

 

 

 

that sounds cool. DM me

[Destined2bebossy]

hey, is the poll working for you all? its not working for me 

[Destined2bebossy]

It's not working for me either. Also, cisgender, transwoman, transman, and intersex aren't really genders..

 

Welp, i asked someone about that 

ok i think im just gonna delete it for now and try again

[Destined2bebossy]

I'm gay but Idk if I should've said that here, this country has a strong law against LGBTQ. 

 

which country are you in?

[Destined2bebossy]

I'm in the process of finding myself. I recently came out as bisexual. Since I came out Ive been having more fantasies about girls, having an emotional and physical relationship with girls, flirting with them, etc. My attraction to my male crushes have lessened. I dont find boys that appealing anymore. I stopped getting off. to boys. Wtf is happening to me? I thought my confused phase has ended. Am I actually gay not bi? Help.

 

Embracing and admitting your sexuality prob is letting you really open up mentally. Don't stress too much about WHAT you are, enjoy WHO you are in the moment

Edited March 22, 2017 by Destined2bebossy

[Destined2bebossy]

Advice needed 

 

I'm black and my girlfriend is white (this is important info for the rest of the story).

 

Her parents are EXTREMELY racist and homophobic. They are the type of people who want gay people to die and think black people are genetically inferior. She was recently outed and they've just been AWFUL. They super flipped shit when they found out not only is their daughter gay (they've been trying to make her go to conversion therapy  ) but that she also is dating a black girl. She recorded conversations they've had and they said some pretty nasty stuff about me being black. Her being gay was almost forgotten cause they were so heated that I am black. Her dad even met me and stated "she seems nice, but those people..." 

 

It pisses me off! They literally surprise attacked us one day and i've lowkey had a phobia of her parents ever since (which just makes me upset at myself cause i'm so fucking tired of being afraid of white people). 

 

Anyway, being lesbian I always figured I'd date women who weren't out and we'd have to keep our relationship a secret. I don't mind that cause I knew it came with the territory, but I never thought I couldn't even be introduced as a "friend" because the parents wouldn't approve of me being black (they got mad at her when she was younger cause she had friends of color  ). 

I've reached the point to where I legit want NOTHING to do with her parents...

But I feel bad about that because I really like her and am serious about her. I don't want to hurt her by telling her I honestly want nothing to do with her parents. And if we got super serious in the future, how fucked is it that her parents (no matter how fucked up they are) couldn't be a part of anything. Also, I feel myself being super PETTY. She uses her family car and I refuse to even get near it cause I don't even want to touch their car. Her mom comes to me and my girlfriend's job (we work together) and I wont even touch or look at my girlfriend.She asks me if I want to say hi to her mom and I flat out am like, no i don't, I see her mom and I look the other way or hide. Whenever they're mentioned I get so upset and sad. 

It's just really draining.

 

 

I just feel like I can't really tell her any of this. Not because I think shes going to be upset or anything (actually I think she'd 100% understand) but because it just bothers me to even feel like this. 

 

Edited March 22, 2017 by Destined2bebossy

[Destined2bebossy]

what the hell, i can't believe that people like her parents still exist

i don't think you're being "petty" at all, i actually think that you're handling this pretty calmly. i probably would've started a huge fight with everyone already

have you had a real talk with her about it? like, what is she planning to do in the future? does she want to keep close contact with her parents? she seems to take this a bit too lightly from the way you described :/

 

I spoke with her about my feelings and we've worked out somewhat of a resolution (basically when it comes to the stupid shit her parents say, we don't talk about it).. so far thats all we can really do.

Thats what i'm saying!!! Waaaayyyyy too lightly. but i think she's just been fighting this battle for so long that she is juust numb to it now

[Destined2bebossy]

so, i have a question, sort of haha

how long into a new friendship do you usually wait to bring up your sexuality and/or gender identity?

i'm always a bit on the fence about this tbh... on one hand, i am not ashamed of being bisexual, and i'd rather not waste time trying to befriend someone who turns out to be a bigot or something like that; on the other hand, i don't want to be defined by my sexuality, or to have them think i'm hitting on them, or even to feel like i have to be out to absolutely everyone i know

it's kind of a mess, basically lol

so for me, i usually wait until the person has made it clear they're not homophobic or biphobic or whatever, and then try to mention it as casually as i can

 

I never tell my friends my sexual orientation unless they ask. But I don't hide it either. It's a part of who I am so if I think a girl is hot i'll openly check her out or say how hot she is. Or if i'm discussing exes with a friend i'll talk about my ex, who just so happens to be female, so its on them if they pick up on me using the 'she' pronoun. Most people will give you an answer about their prejudice just by their response (verbal and physical) to those actions, without you having to have a dragged out conversation coming out (which is so tiring after you do it a thousand and one times). At the end of the day they're either going to be ignorant or not so you might as well be yourself.

Edited September 23, 2017 by Destined2bebossy

[Destined2bebossy]

Hello! I am gay!

 

Not sure if this is the right topic here, but I am needing some helpful advice (for anyone willing to provide)

 

Yesterday, I was at the club with my closest friends having a very good night. I met somebody (we will call him C) that I had been speaking to for some time and we started dancing together, one of my closest friends (we will call him A)  knows everything about this, we are almost like brothers. So during the night I ended up making out with C, I opened my eyes as I noticed that the way he was kissing me seemed a bit off, and I then noticed that he was busy eyeing the gogo dancer. So I pulled away and said, "You seem distracted, I mean, you could stare all you want but really? While I am kissing you?" and stormed off. I ended up getting pretty drunk after that cause I was feeling depressed.

 

A short time after all that, I caught A dancing with C and getting pretty close (I never saw them actually kiss though) and they were doing it around me. It made me feel even worse about myself. So when the club was over, a majority of us were sitting outside, chatting and sharing stories and I saw A and C cuddling nearby. As I was saying my goodbyes I completely ignored A. In doing so, A called out to me and I said in hand gestures "You broke my heart." And continued to walk away, he came chasing after me and I told him exactly how I felt.  C ended up coming over and the both of them apologized to me, I in turn said, "This is how it is nowadays. The majority of our community fails to have much of an understanding what it means to hurt somebody else.

 

Everyone thinks with their d***ks while I have to be the idiot who thinks with his heart," they both stood around listening to me and trying to explain themselves to me. Eventually, C ended up walking away to make a phone call and I talked to A a bit more. He said he would never want a man to come in between us and we hugged it out. And while I am hurting and I forgave him to an extent, he and C were still lingering around each other and when I eventually left, I am pretty sure they went home together. I do not know what to do now. I feel so hurt and betrayed and I am honestly at a loss of what step to take next, because clearly, no matter how it made me feel, none of what was said to them mattered at all.

 

Drop em both. If they don't have basic respect for you AFTER you explained how you felt (even before since they should have known to not cross that boundary), then they aren't people you want in your life. Unfortunately you can't make them have concern, so its best to just stop associating with them. Your feelings are going to be hurt, have a good cry, and remember this if they try coming back to you.