LGBTQIA Community Thread! If you're queer come here~

[Messy Oppa]

This thread is so dead /sad  :cry:

[theidolcyborg]

Can I be added to the list?

[pH5-4]

Is there anyone else on this entire forum that's trans? :x

 

Me! Bi as well, it was hard to choose which to answer in the poll

[Eunseo]

Def add me

[Solfa]

I appreciate the effort to make the rainbow so nice. I'm actually wondering how you did that, did you use any special code or something? Does OH provide the means? Or did you do this all manually? Does it mean you will redo much of the rainbow if you add Solfa over there? I wanna see.

[eunwoo]

I like this thread please add me.

Edited August 28, 2016 by eunwoo

[eunwoo]

I can only hope that since university in general is a more open-minded space where you can meet different people I will be able to get friends who I can feel comfortable with

Nah sounds like you accomplished something really cool. I've found having similarly open-minded people around who are accepting helps me feel much more comfortable, so I wish the same for you.

Edited August 28, 2016 by eunwoo

[Iovelinus]

Add me, please <3

[hailanal]

question: if you're on a first date with a guy, would you ask him what he is (in bed)? 

 

i was watching a dating show with my mum, and we both began laughing as this topic came up between two guys. she said "how embarrassing!" and i said it was romantic.

 

WOULD YOU?

[invisiblecc]

Nah sounds like you accomplished something really cool. I've found having similarly open-minded people around who are accepting helps me feel much more comfortable, so I wish the same for you.

 Thanks  :chu:

 

Edit:

 

I know that I wrote about a month ago about me entering university, and, tbh, it has been better than expected! Found myself much more comfortable wearing whatever I want without feeling anybody judging me or anything. I fastly became friends with two girls. However, since I had already decided to have no pretenses about who I was (read: I wasn't going to hide I'm a lesbian), I had decided to tell them someday. Well, today was the day I told one of them about it.

 

I was really nervous, since here not everyone is accepting (though I know in most places nobody is), and I didn't want to be left alone with no friends, but today my friend and I had just come back from the opening ceremony at the school's gym, and we were at the classroom. I don't know why, but I felt that that was the moment I should tell my friend, as it would be better to deal with just one rejection rather than two.

 

"Can I tell you something, and you won't be weirded out by it?" I remember saying,my heart beating out of my chest. This was my first telling anybody else other than my parents that I liked girls. She told me, "Sure", and I could only prepare myself.

 

I didn't know how exactly to say it without sounding too out of the blue, so I just said that I didn't like boys at all, knowing that this would be very easy to understand. 

 

Her reaction was seriously what surprised me the most. She didn't act disgusted, not even surprised. She told that she was totally okay with it, and that she thought that it was totally normal, that I just had a different preference. She talked about a gay friend she had and how inhuman it seemed to her that most people wouldn't accept somebody they love for who they are.

 

In that moment, I opened myself with a honesty I had never even had when talking about it with my parents. She listened to me attentively, and at the end of the conversation, she told me, "thank you for telling me. I know this kind of confessions are very hard to make, and I'm grateful you trusted me enough to tell me."

 

I seriously felt like crying, you guys. I was shaking badly, and I could only think of crying in relief. She also told that whenever I wanted to talk about anything, problems, crushes, etc., I could talk to her about it.

 

After our last class, I confessed I had an eye on someone from theater class (I know, I know, I get crushes real easy), and she seemed eager to know who she was. I felt like a fourteen year old girl, going for the first time to talk about my crushes with my friend. For the first time, I could talk honestly about liking someone and being attracted to someone. I gave her a (platonic) complement, and she didn't care! In fact, she was a little flustered!

 

I'm so happy tonight, I feel like crying. 

 

Sorry for the wall of the text, though.

Edited September 2, 2016 by EnergyPear14

[Joji.]

question: if you're on a first date with a guy, would you ask him what he is (in bed)? 

 

i was watching a dating show with my mum, and we both began laughing as this topic came up between two guys. she said "how embarrassing!" and i said it was romantic.

 

WOULD YOU?

 

I would tbh, just to get it out of the way.

[janiedee]

are any bisexuals here sort of intimidated to come out? especially the bisexuals who lean a bit more towards heterosexuality? there's sort of a delegitimization of it/stigma against it from straights as well as lesbian/gay folk even though it's commonly accepted that sexuality is often fluid or on a spectrum

Edited September 2, 2016 by sevaug

[krystalsgirlfriend]

I'm glad I'm not the only one who voted underneath the "questioning" option...  :unsure:

[krystalsgirlfriend]

 Thanks  :chu:

 

Edit:

 

I know that I wrote about a month ago about me entering university, and, tbh, it has been better than expected! Found myself much more comfortable wearing whatever I want without feeling anybody judging me or anything. I fastly became friends with two girls. However, since I had already decided to have no pretenses about who I was (read: I wasn't going to hide I'm a lesbian), I had decided to tell them someday. Well, today was the day I told one of them about it.

 

I was really nervous, since here not everyone is accepting (though I know in most places nobody is), and I didn't want to be left alone with no friends, but today my friend and I had just come back from the opening ceremony at the school's gym, and we were at the classroom. I don't know why, but I felt that that was the moment I should tell my friend, as it would be better to deal with just one rejection rather than two.

 

"Can I tell you something, and you won't be weirded out by it?" I remember saying,my heart beating out of my chest. This was my first telling anybody else other than my parents that I liked girls. She told me, "Sure", and I could only prepare myself.

 

I didn't know how exactly to say it without sounding too out of the blue, so I just said that I didn't like boys at all, knowing that this would be very easy to understand. 

 

Her reaction was seriously what surprised me the most. She didn't act disgusted, not even surprised. She told that she was totally okay with it, and that she thought that it was totally normal, that I just had a different preference. She talked about a gay friend she had and how inhuman it seemed to her that most people wouldn't accept somebody they love for who they are.

 

In that moment, I opened myself with a honesty I had never even had when talking about it with my parents. She listened to me attentively, and at the end of the conversation, she told me, "thank you for telling me. I know this kind of confessions are very hard to make, and I'm grateful you trusted me enough to tell me."

 

I seriously felt like crying, you guys. I was shaking badly, and I could only think of crying in relief. She also told that whenever I wanted to talk about anything, problems, crushes, etc., I could talk to her about it.

 

After our last class, I confessed I had an eye on someone from theater class (I know, I know, I get crushes real easy), and she seemed eager to know who she was. I felt like a fourteen year old girl, going for the first time to talk about my crushes with my friend. For the first time, I could talk honestly about liking someone and being attracted to someone. I gave her a (platonic) complement, and she didn't care! In fact, she was a little flustered!

 

I'm so happy tonight, I feel like crying. 

 

Sorry for the wall of the text, though.

 

OKAY BUT THIS IS BEAUTIFUL AND I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU

[invisiblecc]

OKAY BUT THIS IS BEAUTIFUL AND I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU

Thank you, and welcome to the thread!  :chu:

[blackocean]

Whoa, I had no idea this group existed! Hey everyone!


My friend just started a LGBTQIA chat on LINE. PM me if you wanna join. Edited September 5, 2016 by BlackOcean

[Proxima Midnight]

Can I be added to the list?

[Starscall]

Hi hi! I'm grey A and also an older fan here. :)

 

Which can be really awkward in k-pop circles on tumblr where it's apparently very common for people to say you can't like groups if you're older than them. Apparently it's creepy because a lot of fans attribute sexual feelings to biases and things like that? Which confuses me on a number of levels and I'm honestly not sure how many of those are tied into the whole "I'm ace and wtf is sexual attraction idgi" thing. (Not that I judge people who do.. I just don't understand it for obvious reasons.)

 

Honestly I tend to just stick to my own little corner or find clusters of similarly aged (25-35+) fans to hang out with because of it. 

 

Thought I'd branch out a little and see how Onehally was. Try something new. Jupiter's in Libra so why not, right? Apparently now's a good time to make new friends for me or something like that. I'm a little fuzzy on how that works. Not that into astrology.

 

PS: @Deep River - The youtube vid in your profile is gorgeous! Her voice is amazing! *o*

[Messy Oppa]

Hi hi! I'm grey A and also an older fan here. :)

 

Which can be really awkward in k-pop circles on tumblr where it's apparently very common for people to say you can't like groups if you're older than them. Apparently it's creepy because a lot of fans attribute sexual feelings to biases and things like that? Which confuses me on a number of levels and I'm honestly not sure how many of those are tied into the whole "I'm ace and wtf is sexual attraction idgi" thing. (Not that I judge people who do.. I just don't understand it for obvious reasons.)

 

Honestly I tend to just stick to my own little corner or find clusters of similarly aged (25-35+) fans to hang out with because of it. 

 

Thought I'd branch out a little and see how Onehally was. Try something new. Jupiter's in Libra so why not, right? Apparently now's a good time to make new friends for me or something like that. I'm a little fuzzy on how that works. Not that into astrology.

 

PS: @Deep River - The youtube vid in your profile is gorgeous! Her voice is amazing! *o*

 

I know that feel. It is so stupid! Kpop is after all catchy music with aesthetics mv and nice choreos. That's it. You don't have to stop enjoying it because you have a determinated age. I don't understand why "sexual feelings" it's so important on fandoms. And yes, I like my bias, but that doesn't mean I want to have sex with all the members, even those underages WTFFF??In fact I'm gay male and 90% the groups I stan are girls so... 

 

Just have fun, enjoy kpop!  :ohbi:

[Starscall]

 

I know that feel. It is so stupid! Kpop is after all catchy music with aesthetics mv and nice choreos. That's it. You don't have to stop enjoying it because you have a determinated age. I don't understand why "sexual feelings" it's so important on fandoms. And yes, I like my bias, but that doesn't mean I want to have sex with all the members, even those underages WTFFF??In fact I'm gay male and 90% the groups I stan are girls so... 

 

Just have fun, enjoy kpop!  :ohbi:

 

When I got into kpop I was 100% girl groups 100% of the time. Now I'm 10000% about guy groups and it's been a weird switch.

 

I'm definitely a lot more passionate about guy groups than I ever was girl groups though, so it's this weird casual fan/hardcore fan divide almost. It's kind of weird.

 

I've never understood why the correlation between bias and sexual desire is there. i asked someone about it and they basically just said "because that's how it is,  you know?". Let me tell you, not the most helpful answer I've ever been given. Ace and all. So no, I don't know. Because I don't have that sort of experience. 

 

My mother's 50 and is like "Pah, just ignore them and come coo about how good this vocal is and how cute this other guy is with me". I hope one day I'm even half as self assured and able to ignore other people's judgement as her someday, that'd be cool.

[My Everything]

[Messy Oppa]

 

LMAO! #GrowingUpGay is so funny 

[My Everything]

[tweet]https://twitter.com/bellathorne/status/778026063200866304[/tweet] Edited September 20, 2016 by Crystal Realm

[sapphicsunmi]

ok so i remember writing here six months ago saying i had a crush on someone and i was afraid to tell them im ace and genderfluid

 

well weve now been together for almost 5 months, they r genderqueer but have alot of dysphoria, so i gave them some of my bra`s to feel more femenine and they let me use more masculine clothing^^

 

 

Click here to view the Tweet

 

yas preach

[dazzlingpaw]

Hey, can you add me to the list? I'm bi.

 

I currently have a crush on my co-worker, wish me luck on this journey