LGBTQIA Community Thread! If you're queer come here~

[exoticinspirit]

I'm doing well how are you?

That's good 

I was fantastic till I saw that picture and now my eyes burn, but other than that I'm great!~ 

[Jarad]

That's good

I was fantastic till I saw that picture and now my eyes burn, but other than that I'm great!~

Ah I know what you mean. Something's can't be unseen.

[Tee]

Can you link me to the Lesbian k drama :D

http://www.dramacrazy.net/korean-drama/nailshop-paris-episode-06/

It's not a lesbian drama. Just a character.

She's the girl that hates her friend's boyfriend. Joonyoung I think.

Beware of sub-par plot and acting.

 

MY EYES!!!!!

THEY  BURRRRNNN!

[exoticinspirit]

Ah I know what you mean. Something's can't be unseen.

 I'm gonna have nightmares 

[exoticinspirit]

To those who haven't watched it WATCH REPLY TO ME 1997!!!

Hoya acts as a gay guy in it and it's fantastic! <3

Currently my favorite drama of all time.

[Jung�Ha�Sang]

wow me and someone ;) were just talking about this.

I've been in this situation. I really hated it cause when someone is in the closet every little thing they maximize to not try to show to their family. I would be with her and just try to fix her clothing or take something out her hair and she'd get all upset about it worrying if people saw and if they knew. It puts a strain on a relationship. I wouldn't put any pressure on someone cause coming out is something they have to be prepared for but I couldn't last long in the relationship with the awkwardness of not being able to be affectionate towards them because they are hiding this side of them. 

Yup. Your experience definitely sums up part of mine as well. It put a huge strain on our relationship and was a factor in out break up. For this situation, there has to be a compromise from both partners. The one who isn't out fully has to considerate of the partners feelings. 

 

Oh there is no coming out for me. My family wouldn't accept me at all. I had a cousin that was outed and now everyone treats him differently. I wouldn't be able to deal with that. Yes me and someone ;) were just talking about this. But for me, my mom is the most relaxed mom ever, so it wouldn't be weird for her if we were affectionate. Just not like, him hugging me or something. And I have a whole floor of my house to myself, (I call it my loft lol) and my mom never EVER comes in my room. So I don't think it'd be that bad for the other guy. But idk.

 

We just graduated and drifted apart. No one bothered to keep in touch after graduation.

 

That is so horrible your cousin to be treated that way. No matter who he chooses to love, that is still your family. Now if your cousin kills himself because of the way his family treats him everyone will feel guilty. Its bad enough bi, gays and lesbians have to go through enough trouble in this so called equal rights justice for all place.  Question, are you going to just marry a woman to appease your family? In a sense, live a double life because you want acceptance?

 

Hello, I'm Anny ^^

I hope you like it here!~

 

Hi~

Oh hell yeah, girl power!~

 

 

Pussy Power!

i'd be the understanding kind of person, since im not out to my full family yet, i wouldnt push you to meet the family at all really, unless you wanted to.

i am often the one to not engage in public skinship, he'd have to make the first move,if so then i usually go along with it. im not the pushy kind of person to, although i'd make them do all the work lol

 

but if we couldnt be ourselves around our own friends then i wouldn't stick around long.

 

Gno you lazy ass lol I guess everyone has their limitations with it. I couldn't take it even though she was a great girl.

[exoticinspirit]

Pussy Power!

Making a banner for this.

brb.

[Jung�Ha�Sang]

http://www.dramacrazy.net/korean-drama/nailshop-paris-episode-06/

It's not a lesbian drama. Just a character.

She's the girl that hates her friend's boyfriend. Joonyoung I think.

Beware of sub-par plot and acting.

 

well then, guess that is good enough

 

NICK AND KEN DO BOYFRIEND TAG #2!!! LOOK AT WARDEN!!!

 

 

 

 

     

Depressing, its always the handsome men that is gay. 

[exoticinspirit]

Alright Done. Lazy af so it's not good, but whatever.

 

 

[Jarad]

That is so horrible your cousin to be treated that way. No matter who he chooses to love, that is still your family. Now if your cousin kills himself because of the way his family treats him everyone will feel guilty. Its bad enough bi, gays and lesbians have to go through enough trouble in this so called equal rights justice for all place. Question, are you going to just marry a woman to appease your family? In a sense, live a double life because you want acceptance?

Well, he's really bad into drugs. So I'd say if something happened to him it'd be that. But he really doesn't care what people think of him. My family has said that they don't love him any less, but they don't want to see it. I would never ever live a double life. I am still attracted to girls, so it wouldn't be like I was living a double life.

[gno]

Gno you lazy ass lol I guess everyone has their limitations with it. I couldn't take it even though she was a great girl.

 

i really am, only time i would engage first is if I REALLY wanted him at the time....im spoiled that way lol

[Destined2bebossy]

Well, he's really bad into drugs. So I'd say if something happened to him it'd be that. But he really doesn't care what people think of him. My family has said that they don't love him any less, but they don't want to see it. I would never ever live a double life. I am still attracted to girls, so it wouldn't be like I was living a double life.

 

I understand that you are still attracted to girls but if you were to just completely fall head over heels for a guy would you still try to be with a girl just for "normalcy" sake?

 

 

Alright Done. Lazy af so it's not good, but whatever.

 

 

 

is this for all the chicas in the thread?

Lesbians Unite! hehe

 

[Jarad]

I understand that you are still attracted to girls but if you were to just completely fall head over heels for a guy would you still try to be with a girl just for "normalcy" sake?

No I wouldn't. I still wouldn't come out to my family. But I'd never be able to fake a relationship. Not telling my family something, and lying to them are two different things you know?

[Destined2bebossy]

No I wouldn't. I still wouldn't come out to my family. But I'd never be able to fake a relationship. Not telling my family something, and lying to them are two different things you know?

 

lol its right on the line. but I get what you're saying

[Jarad]

lol its right on the line. but I get what you're saying

Yea I know lol. It's just hard to even comprehend how my family would act when I know they won't be supportive and disown me. And even if I did come out, he wouldn't be allowed to come around anyway.

[Jung�Ha�Sang]

Alright Done. Lazy af so it's not good, but whatever.

 

 

 

lol, its not that bad. Try again when you aren't being lazy lol! I like it though.

Well, he's really bad into drugs. So I'd say if something happened to him it'd be that. But he really doesn't care what people think of him. My family has said that they don't love him any less, but they don't want to see it. I would never ever live a double life. I am still attracted to girls, so it wouldn't be like I was living a double life.

Maybe he turns to drugs because he feels down about the way he is being treated. As his family member, I'm not sure how close you two are but look out for him you know. Because its hard. 

 

i really am, only time i would engage first is if I REALLY wanted him at the time....im spoiled that way lol

 

I'm lazy too lol I admit it. Unless I have the hots for you, I'll be a sitting duck lol

I understand that you are still attracted to girls but if you were to just completely fall head over heels for a guy would you still try to be with a girl just for "normalcy" sake?

 

 

 

is this for all the chicas in the thread?

Lesbians Unite! hehe

 

Yeah, I was going to ask him this question too! Lesbianos Unite well Bi's too herro lol

 

 

No I wouldn't. I still wouldn't come out to my family. But I'd never be able to fake a relationship. Not telling my family something, and lying to them are two different things you know?

 

I really wish you luck with your gay relationships. Its a total different ball game. Maybe you cold help your family come accepting of it? idk, its a long shot but who knows.

[Destined2bebossy]

Yea I know lol. It's just hard to even comprehend how my family would act when I know they won't be supportive and disown me. And even if I did come out, he wouldn't be allowed to come around anyway.

 

yeh I get it. I was that way when living with my grandparents a few years ago. My gramps straight out said to me "if you told me you are gay im going to kick you out of the house" (which means he knew but was just being a douche)

[Jung�Ha�Sang]

Yea I know lol. It's just hard to even comprehend how my family would act when I know they won't be supportive and disown me. And even if I did come out, he wouldn't be allowed to come around anyway.

Damn. That sucks. I wouldn't want to lose my family and be shunned by everyone. Thats a scary thing, but at the same time since family is such a high value they should be supportive.

 

yeh I get it. I was that way when living with my grandparents a few years ago. My gramps straight out said to me "if you told me you are gay im going to kick you out of the house" (which means he knew but was just being a douche)

 

Ouch. Do does your grandparents know?

[Destined2bebossy]

 

 

 

Ouch. Do does your grandparents know?

 

yeh. Once I moved out I didn't give a f* lol

They are still the type of out of sight out of mind people (pretty much as long as im not checking out a girl or kissing in front of them they are gonna act as if they don't know).

 

Lucky for me my mom is really open (shes the one who asked me straight out and was pretty chill when I told her the truth. Of course I think my mom was a bit bi-curious back in her college days so that plays a part lol)

[Jarad]

Maybe he turns to drugs because he feels down about the way he is being treated. As his family member, I'm not sure how close you two are but look out for him you know. Because its hard.

 

 

I really wish you luck with your gay relationships. Its a total different ball game. Maybe you cold help your family come accepting of it? idk, its a long shot but who knows.

No he got into drugs way before that ever came out. He hung out with the wrong crowd in school. We really aren't close at all. But when we were younger we were kinda close. When we have family get togethers (which is quite often) I always make sure to hug him hi and bye, and I always hold him a little bit longer then other people. But idk if he even notices.

 

I haven't had any yet so we'll see lol. But I don't think there's any hope for that. My mom has made sure I know she doesn't like gay people.

 

Damn. That sucks. I wouldn't want to lose my family and be shunned by everyone. Thats a scary thing, but at the same time since family is such a high value they should be supportive.

Yea you'd think. They're supportive of most things, but being gay is not one of them. I try to make my mom accept them more, but I didn't think I'm making much progress.

[Jung�Ha�Sang]

yeh. Once I moved out I didn't give a f* lol

They are still the type of out of sight out of mind people (pretty much as long as im not checking out a girl or kissing in front of them they are gonna act as if they don't know).

 

Lucky for me my mom is really open (shes the one who asked me straight out and was pretty chill when I told her the truth. Of course I think my mom was a bit bi-curious back in her college days so that plays a part lol)

 

lmao!!!!!  Your mom liked that pootang pie huh! lol Well at least she is okay with it. 

No he got into drugs way before that ever came out. He hung out with the wrong crowd in school. We really aren't close at all. But when we were younger we were kinda close. When we have family get togethers (which is quite often) I always make sure to hug him hi and bye, and I always hold him a little bit longer then other people. But idk if he even notices.

 

I haven't had any yet so we'll see lol. But I don't think there's any hope for that. My mom has made sure I know she doesn't like gay people.

 

 

Yea you'd think. They're supportive of most things, but being gay is not one of them. I try to make my mom accept them more, but I didn't think I'm making much progress.

 

Damn. Talk about peer pressure and watch the company you keep! Maybe your mom will come around one day. I don't see the reason why people hate others for their sexual preference. Its not harming anyone else. I think the reason why some people have trouble accepting that their loved ones are gay, lesbian, bi, trans, etc is because they ;painted a picture and ideal image of their loved ones lives. They expect them to be a certain way, so when its not what they want it to, especially when its a situation thats taboo with society, its drastically hard for them to handle.

[Jarad]

Damn. Talk about peer pressure and watch the company you keep! Maybe your mom will come around one day. I don't see the reason why people hate others for their sexual preference. Its not harming anyone else. I think the reason why some people have trouble accepting that their loved ones are gay, lesbian, bi, trans, etc is because they ;painted a picture and ideal image of their loved ones lives. They expect them to be a certain way, so when its not what they want it to, especially when its a situation thats taboo with society, its drastically hard for them to handle.

That's exactly how my mom is.

[Destined2bebossy]

lmao!!!!!  Your mom liked that pootang pie huh! lol Well at least she is okay with it. 

 

Damn. Talk about peer pressure and watch the company you keep! Maybe your mom will come around one day. I don't see the reason why people hate others for their sexual preference. Its not harming anyone else. I think the reason why some people have trouble accepting that their loved ones are gay, lesbian, bi, trans, etc is because they ;painted a picture and ideal image of their loved ones lives. They expect them to be a certain way, so when its not what they want it to, especially when its a situation thats taboo with society, its drastically hard for them to handle.

 

 

LMAO xD

 

exactly!

I don't understand what me liking females has ANYTHING to do with someone else who has never met me and will never be affected by me in any way.

And I think that is exactly what it is. People see this white fence and grandkids and husband who does this and talk about sports with the dad while the wife helps the mom cook sunday dinner in the kitchen blah blah, and then all of their dreams are ruined when their child is at a place where they know that dream isn't going to come true so they get upset not realizing they are holding their loved ones back from their own happiness.

[Jung�Ha�Sang]

That's exactly how my mom is.

>.< I'm so happy my brother is gay and my sister is bisexual. They did all the work for me lol Paved the way.

 

LMAO xD

 

exactly!

I don't understand what me liking females has ANYTHING to do with someone else who has never met me and will never be affected by me in any way.

And I think that is exactly what it is. People see this white fence and grandkids and husband who does this and talk about sports with the dad while the wife helps the mom cook sunday dinner in the kitchen blah blah, and then all of their dreams are ruined when their child is at a place where they know that dream isn't going to come true so they get upset not realizing they are holding their loved ones back from their own happiness.

 

Yup, that idea that is brought into everyone head of how humans should be. Its the worst enemy I swear it is. Families have to realize, its not about them. It is about their loved one. Do you really rather be so selfish to the point of denying them the right to love and live their life freely just so you can sleep at night because it makes you comfortable while they are suffering? I think not. My biggest pet peeve is people who object to LGBTQIA's and want to throw the damn bible in it to support their reasons. Like stop it because you know you've been getting that cherry popped long before you was married >.< lmao goes for men too lol

[Mr. Squirrel Princess]

yeh. Once I moved out I didn't give a f* lol

They are still the type of out of sight out of mind people (pretty much as long as im not checking out a girl or kissing in front of them they are gonna act as if they don't know).

 

Lucky for me my mom is really open (shes the one who asked me straight out and was pretty chill when I told her the truth. Of course I think my mom was a bit bi-curious back in her college days so that plays a part lol)

 

that's how my family is. i compare it to DADT. they don't ask and i don't tell. it's just that thing, that in their mind, doesn't exist. they know i live my life but they delude themselves in to ignoring it.