LGBTQIA Community Thread! If you're queer come here~

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oh crap i didn't know this thread existed!! aye your bi user just joined the thread

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I've been wondering, does anyone else sometimes feel like they're not really gay (or bi) and faking their sexuality? Sorry if I'm phrasing myself badly. But lately I've been getting those "what if" questions, albeit I'm sure of my attraction towards the same sex, I keep thinking that way.

 

aw honey we've all been there, and still are. it's okay to question and think this things when you're being educated in a sociaty that raises you like you're cis and het. i'm sure every lgbt person has questioned themselves, wondering if they're not faking it, wondering if that's okay i hope you feel better soon

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hi, i'm new here and i have a question for y'all

 

i came out as bisexual to my mom like a year ago but she acts like it never happened. whenever we talk about relationships or whatever she always just talks about guys and acts completely ignorant towards the fact that i'm actually more into girls. and whenever i mention that i think a girl is cute or hot she gets super uncomfortable and changes the subject. it's really starting to annoy me and i feel like she doesn't accept me for who i am.

 

did anyone ever face the same problem? and did you do anything about it?

 

i haven't because i'm not outta the closet yet lmao but i have this friend who came out to her mother because she had no other way, adn her mother is a huge homophobe (she's a lesbian) so she pretends like she never told her anything and talks about guys. i've told her to talk about it with her. what i would've done is being like 'but... i like girls...?' _{(if i was out of the closed tho i dtill don't have the guts)} i'm sure she wouldn't know what to do

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i'm going through phases like that sometimes (i'm bi) and i'm pretty sure it's just me prefering a certain gender at the moment. that doesn't mean you're faking your sexuality though

 

yeah prefering a gender doesn't make you less bi than a person who likes both genders equally. i had a hard time accepting i was bi and idk why to be honest, it wasn't not a long ago. i thought i was a lesbian but i actually am bi and have a huge preference over girls. taht doesn't mean you guys are not bi thought.

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that seems like a rational thing to say but i'm really afraid to bring my sexuality up again idek. i feel like my mom is kinda mad at me because of my sexuality? but i guess i will try and tell her calmly again. thanks for your reply.

 

and btw, don't pressure yourself to come out of the closet, take all the time you need ♥

 

aw i understand, i would be too tbh. it's natural to think that way. i think the best thing you can do is talk to her calmly and tell her that it bothers you. stay strong, i hope it turns out okay!!

 

also, thank you sm!! wishing i could upvote you, but i wasted them already :( 

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Hi  It's been a long time since I've posted here, or anywhere in Onehallyu afaik, but I guess things have reached a point where I am again confused and afraid of myself and my own future.

I think... I might be trans? Idk, I mean... there are so many memories that lead to this, and I think I have felt dysphoria throughout my whole life. I remember than when I showered as a kid, I would feel like I wasn't in my body, as if this wasn't reality, idk how to describe it.

I think I've always been in denial, because it is far more difficult to deal with the fact that I've never felt like a woman, not really, than to deal with just sexual attraction to girls. What could I say to my family? My friends, old ones and new ones? How could I live as a man?

I feel depressed again, and I don't know what to do... I want to go to a psychologist, but my parents "don't believe" in psychology.

I feel trapped.

 

wow reading this gave me goosebumps. first of all, i'm proud of you because you accepted that you might be trans and considered it as possible. that's one huge step so you should feel proud about that. being trans is something super difficult in society, and wwith what's happening in the world rn it's very difficult. i would really love to give you personal advice, but i'm cisgender, and i have no experience with trans people. maybe you could seek help online or call a hotline for lgbt youth, and talk to other trans people and know aboutb their experiences. i want to write more but i gtg right now  

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I haven't been on this forum in a year or so...

But I figured I would come and lurk for some advice if that's okay. 

As a bisexual I have been often told that you cannot like both male and female or that it's invalid. 

I find this very disheartening and I imagine many others also deal with alike problems. How would one go about handling those types of situations? 

 

yeah, i experience that too, as i am also a bisexual. i comfort myself realizing that they know nothing about how it feels to be bi, and how hard it can be. they have not been in the situations you were, and they don't realy know how you feel, so they shouldn't really say anything about you and your sexuality. biphobic people are stupid, and they are absolutely NOT right, so it shouldn't discourage you. you know you are bisexual, and as long as you know and accept it, nobody can tell you otherwise, because they're not you. so if you're sure you're bi, don't mind those comments. a lot of people haven't experienced what you have. i hope this helped ^^

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Hey I need advice

 

 

How do I come out? I really don't know lol everyone irl assumes I'm straight and I had a hard time accepting myself so I always pretended to be straight, so no one sees it coming (even tho I try to hint more lately)

 

I thought I should just keep it secret untill I actually get a gf, but I realize I need to be more open about it to get one in the first place. That and it's so frustrating when people ask me why I still have no bf or try to ship me with guys...

 

I'm at the stage now where I can talk about it with online friends, which was already a big step bc yes even online I pretended to be straight at first. But I wanna be out and proud irl as well. Idk what to do...

 

 

 

yeah i think everyone out of the closet's been there, i personally ain't out of the closet, i don't think it's necessary yet tho i also don't have close friends irl so i just keep it to myself. i really wish i could give you advice i've used but i can't. i think everyone out of the closet is proud of being out of it and even if it's hard at first, it's better than pretedning to be something you aren't. i'm not rushing anybody to come out tho, it's okay to be in it as long as you're not really struggling there. ways to come out? there are many. if you're a funny or sarcastic person you can do a few jokes like creating a group called 'closet' and leaving, or a 'what's the difference between .. and ,,?' regarding a closet or something idk. if you wanna be more serious you can take yout time and breath in and out and have a serious talk with them. good luck! i hope this helped