LGBTQIA Community Thread! If you're queer come here~

[Faette]

Can we still sign up to be added to the list? If so, please add me.

[Faette]

I spoke with her about my feelings and we've worked out somewhat of a resolution (basically when it comes to the stupid shit her parents say, we don't talk about it).. so far thats all we can really do.

Thats what i'm saying!!! Waaaayyyyy too lightly. but i think she's just been fighting this battle for so long that she is juust numb to it now

(((Hugs))). I feel you, it's hard enough to make a relationship work without having to deal with the baggage/stress that bigoted family can heap on top of you.

 

 

I don't know how old you guys are, or where you live, so please forgive me if I'm missing parts of the puzzle since I obviously don't know either of you or your situation, and I'm neither a POC nor in an interracial relationship. But speaking only as someone who did allow a previous girlfriend to entertain her family's severe homophobia for way too long, that alone is enough to eventrually wear you down and make you start to question whether or not your love is real, and feel guilty for expecting to be treated like a real person whose feelings matter. I let my ex treat me like that for too long because I loved her and hated to see her stressed out/hurt/etc by her family...and it eats at your sense of self-worth more and more as time goes on to see her not value you and your feelings and the life you are building together in return.

 

I would say to remember that you've got the right to demand that she not force you to expose yourself, your home, your family, any kids should you have them, etc to people who would treat you like your humanity and personal integrity are matters of politics or debate, or even up for discussion. This is a dealbreaker for a lot of people for a reason, and because it's hard to expect someone to give you more care and consideration than they are able to give themselves.

[Faette]

There are some right-wing LGBT forums, you might want to ask there https://www.reddit.com/r/RightwingLGBT/

This. Generally speaking the overall political makeup of a queer community tends to reflect that of its region. If you live in a more conservative area, you're likely to be more easily accepted than if you say, live in Seattle. I'm kind of assuming you're an old school middle of the road fiscal republican. Obviously a fringe rightwinging teabagger is going to receive a poor reception from most queers who are out enough to be an active part of a queer community.

 

Even heavily left leaning large queer communities will have some amount of conservative members (most of whom probably being refugees from nearby conservative regions). Queers may tend to be left leaning (some communities much more so than others), but the actual extent of that is not as far left as the media hype would tell you, unless you're hanging out exclusively in the activist end of the community. Most queers aren't (for example) throwing around terms online like heteronormative, white or cis cis privilege, fat shaming, etc, though a decent amount probably know and are familiar with the terms.

 

So drawing examples from CA where I grew up, a fiscal republican would fit right into the queer community of say, Sacramento and even San Diego (to an extent). But they would also be able to find some amount of likeminded folks in SF or LA, even though those communities will be much more to the left as a whole. Outside those heavily involved with politics, most folks in the gay community are probably middle of the road democrats and would probably have more in common with a middle leaning fiscal republican than an ultra left wing vegan socialist animal rights activist.

 

Along with the right wing gay groups, most gay Christian groups will also tend to fall a little more to the right as well. And most communities of any notable size will likely have organized Christian groups, if you fall under that religion.

 

For the record, this is really only reflective of my personal experience in the areas I've lived, and I'm very liberal (i.e. Bernie Sanders not HRC).

[Faette]

I'm actually center-left myself (like Bernie, Social-Democrat), but supporting LGBT rights for me, means to support even those I don't necessarily agree with politically. People have a sexual identity distinct from their political identity, and making people choose one or the other like this will have negative effects on their self-perception and mental health.

 

Beside, the sooner we have enough right-wing support, the sooner our orientation will stop being politicized. Gay is not the only thing about my identity, I have other characteristics, --some that I was born with, some values I grew up with, and some that I worked hard towards-- that make me, me. I'm sick and tired of LGBT rights being a wedge issue.

 

You probably meant kyngri, though, not me.

Sorry I was being confusing, I meant to say that I agreed with your post, and then gone on to address the OP.