I'm black and my girlfriend is white (this is important info for the rest of the story).
It pisses me off! They literally surprise attacked us one day and i've lowkey had a phobia of her parents ever since (which just makes me upset at myself cause i'm so fucking tired of being afraid of white people).
Anyway, being lesbian I always figured I'd date women who weren't out and we'd have to keep our relationship a secret. I don't mind that cause I knew it came with the territory, but I never thought I couldn't even be introduced as a "friend" because the parents wouldn't approve of me being black (they got mad at her when she was younger cause she had friends of color ).
I've reached the point to where I legit want NOTHING to do with her parents...
But I feel bad about that because I really like her and am serious about her. I don't want to hurt her by telling her I honestly want nothing to do with her parents. And if we got super serious in the future, how fucked is it that her parents (no matter how fucked up they are) couldn't be a part of anything. Also, I feel myself being super PETTY. She uses her family car and I refuse to even get near it cause I don't even want to touch their car. Her mom comes to me and my girlfriend's job (we work together) and I wont even touch or look at my girlfriend.She asks me if I want to say hi to her mom and I flat out am like, no i don't, I see her mom and I look the other way or hide. Whenever they're mentioned I get so upset and sad.
It's just really draining.
I just feel like I can't really tell her any of this. Not because I think shes going to be upset or anything (actually I think she'd 100% understand) but because it just bothers me to even feel like this.