Have you ever used a friend as a thinspo, and if so how did you do to stop seeing them like that?

[sapphicsunmi]

SO about two years ago i started getting really obbsessed with how i look and bla blah blah but the point is i used to use one of my bestfriend as thinspo, someone to look at and think, thats my goal

 

And i feel really gulity, cause now still i just look at her and i feel like a failure, and i also hate myself cause of how ive used her

 

COuld someone tell me ways of stop thinking like this, cause our friendship is becoming shit, cause i look at her and i feel jealous, i just feel like fat cow around her, when really im underweight

 

pls help

[denizen mars]

eh one of my friends in high school was really thin and pretty and I sort of envied her, but it was actually more for her hair color (natural redhead) than anything else. I was more or less okay with my body.

I don't know what to say to you, OP...I hope you can get to a place where you can both love yourself and admire your friend.

[Senpie]

Ive used my friends as fitspos or thinspos (but it was never really serious).

 

Never been in that sutation before, and I would have said it wouldn't be wrong to view someone as your thinspo as long as it doesn't consume you, but it seems those thoughts do consume you - and you're underweight too.

 

I think you should start developing a positive self image and embracing yourself for who you are (way easier said than done, sometimes I see myself in the mirror and I'm like wow fat cow. And I'm near the lower end of the normal BMI range). This will help you stop seeing her as thinspo because you're already satisfied with yourself.

[MyCookiessNicerThanYours]

honestly to stop doing anything you should do it gradually, slow and steady, so for a first change you thinspo to someone that u probably wont ever meet so that u wont "feel really gulity" and "cause of how ive used her" like a celebrity. choose someone that a bit bigger than her then gradually change to someone a bit bigger and keep on doing it till u reach your size. The reason why i underline a bit is because u don't want to instantly change to someone twice the size of her because u will in the end go back to her, so chose someone a bit bigger.

[sapphicsunmi]

Ive used my friends as fitspos or thinspos (but it was never really serious).

 

Never been in that sutation before, and I would have said it wouldn't be wrong to view someone as your thinspo as long as it doesn't consume you, but it seems those thoughts do consume you - and you're underweight too.

 

I think you should start developing a positive self image and embracing yourself for who you are (way easier said than done, sometimes I see myself in the mirror and I'm like wow fat cow. And I'm near the lower end of the normal BMI range). This will help you stop seeing her as thinspo because you're already satisfied with yourself.

 

The thing is that im alot better with my body today, but its just when i see her the thoughts come back and i hate it cause she`s such an amazing friend but everytime i see her i want to cry

 

 

I hate it when underweight people say that they feel like fat cows. How do you think that makes overweight people feel?

 

Could you please stop you dont know what goes on in my mind

[Rokujou-sama]

a long time ago when i was in my 15 and snowflake emo phase

[Mariabell]

I hate it when underweight people say that they feel like fat cows. How do you think that makes overweight people feel?

THIS tbh^

 

It's a bit insensitive and sometimes it can come off as if you're fishing for compliments. 

[sapphicsunmi]

THIS tbh^

 

It's a bit insensitive and sometimes it can come off as if you're fishing for compliments. 

 

im not fishing for compliments im trying to see i someone can give me edvice on how to get over this

 

you dont know how shitty it is to go trough these kind of stuff and have your head take over

[nancy mcflurry]

I hate it when underweight people say that they feel like fat cows. How do you think that makes overweight people feel?

 

THIS tbh^

 

It's a bit insensitive and sometimes it can come off as if you're fishing for compliments. 

Preach!

I agree the majority of the time they just want people to say they're hot. I hate when people do that.

 

(I'm not saying OP is fishing for compliments tho)

[Mariabell]

 

im not fishing for compliments im trying to see i someone can give me edvice on how to get over this

 

you dont know how shitty it is to go trough these kind of stuff and have your head take over

 

Oh. I don't mean you. I was just replying in reply to ElectricShocked's post in general