hess 3,578 Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 Selina recently announced plans for divorce from 5 year long husband, Ah Diong, on her fb.Original post: æˆ‘è·Ÿé˜¿ä¸æ±ºå®šè¦é›¢å©šäº†å©šå§»æ˜¯éœ€è¦å…©å€‹äººçš„努力我們å¦èª é¢å°å½¼æ¤ä¹Ÿå¦èª é¢å°è‡ªå·±æˆ‘們都åšå¾—ä¸å¤ 我沒有扮演好一個賢妻的角色婚後的我ä¾èˆŠäº«å—我的工作專注於我的事æ¥ä¹Ÿå› æ¤æˆ‘å¿½ç•¥äº†ç¶“ç‡Ÿå©šå§»èˆ‡ç¶æŒä¸€å€‹å®¶éœ€è¦ç›¸å°çš„æ™‚間與付出我æˆç‚ºäº†ä¸€å€‹å¦»åä½†æ˜¯å»æ²’有æˆç‚ºä¸€å€‹çœŸæ£çš„賢妻å†åŠ ä¸Šç¾åœ¨çš„æˆ‘跟婚å‰çš„æˆ‘也有了很大的轉變以å‰çš„æˆ‘是一個åªä»¥æ„›æƒ…為主的人但是這幾年我的人生觀漸漸改變我ä¸å†åƒä»¥å‰ä¸€æ¨£å…¨å¿ƒå…¨æ„åªç‚ºæ„›æƒ…而活所以我與阿ä¸çš„æ„›æƒ…也一點一滴消失了當夫妻的我們真的ä¸å¿«æ¨‚已經å˜åœ¨çš„å•題ä¾èˆŠå˜åœ¨ç¡¬æ˜¯è¦æ”¹è®Šè‡ªå·±æ”¹è®Šå°æ–¹æˆ‘們都沒辦法相è˜ä¹å¹´çš„æ™‚間我們之間ä¸åªæ˜¯æ„›æƒ…æ›´å¤šäº†è¦ªæƒ…èˆ‡å‹æƒ…我們知é“這個決定是必è¦çš„å› ç‚ºæˆ‘å€‘å·²ç¶“å¤±åŽ»äº†æ„›æƒ…ä½†æ˜¯æˆ‘å€‘ä¸æƒ³é€£è¦ªæƒ…ã€å‹æƒ…éƒ½å¤±åŽ»å°æ–¼é˜¿ä¸æˆ‘åªæœ‰æ»¿æ»¿çš„æ„Ÿè¬åœ¨æˆ‘最痛苦最脆弱的時候是他陪著我渡éŽä¸¦ä¸”給我全心全力的支æŒé›–然隨著我回到æ£å¸¸çš„軌é“後我們之間的å•題æ‰ä¸€ä¸€æµ®ç¾ä½†æ˜¯å¥½åœ¨æˆ‘å€‘éƒ½æ˜¯å¾ˆç†æ€§çš„äººæˆ‘å€‘é¡˜æ„æ£è¦–å•題é¢å°å•é¡Œæœ€çµ‚æ²’èƒ½è·Ÿä»–ç‰½æ‰‹åˆ°ç”Ÿå‘½ç›¡é æˆ‘很抱æ‰é›¢å©šæ˜¯æˆ‘們å覆æ€è€ƒèªçœŸè¨Žè«–çš„çµæžœæˆ‘們䏿ƒ³è®“å½¼æ¤è®Šæˆæœ€ç†Ÿæ‚‰çš„陌生人我們想當彼æ¤ä¸€è¼©å最é‡è¦çš„æœ‹å‹é¢å°é€™æ¨£çš„æ”¹è®Šæˆ‘èˆ‡é˜¿ä¸æœƒåŠªåŠ›é©æ‡‰ä¹Ÿæœƒç‚ºæˆ‘å€‘çš„æ±ºå®šè² è²¬å°æ–¼æ·±æ„›æˆ‘們的父æ¯ä»¥åŠæ›¾ç¶“給我與阿ä¸ç¥ç¦çš„ä½ å€‘çœŸçš„å¾ˆæŠ±æ‰è®“ä½ å€‘æ“”å¿ƒåŠå¤±æœ›äº†è«‹ç›¸ä¿¡æˆ‘們我們會努力讓自己活得更好 https://www.facebook.com/himselina/photos/a.100721163389357.286.100686060059534/849867511808048/?type=3&theater Translation by melovestage on OH:Ah Diong and i decided to get a divorce.Marriage requires the effort of two parties. We need to be frank to each other and we need to be frank to ourselves.We did not try hard enough.I did not play the role of a good wife.I still enjoyed working and concentrating on my career even after i got married, which caused me to miss out on the time and effort required to manage a marriage and a family. I became a wife, but i did not become a good wife.Moreover, the current 'me' is different from the 'me' before i got married. In the past i set love as my utmost priority. But in recent years, my viewpoint in life started to change. I am no longer the girl who lived for love, therefore, our love started to disappear.We were not happy as husband and wife. Problems that existed continued to trouble us. And we can't try to force ourselves or the other party to change.We have known one another for nine years. It is not only love that is between us. It is also friendship and kinship. So we know that this decision is necessary.Since we have already lost the love between us, we cant afford to lose the friendship and kinship too.I can only say that i am full of gratitude towards Ah Diong. He was there to give me his support during times whereby i was the most vulnerable. And ever since my life returned back to normal, the problems between us started to appear. Thankfully, the both of us are reasonable. We are willing to look into the problem and face it.I am sorry that i cant be with him till the very end.Divorce is our conclusion after discussing and thinking carefully. We don't want to be the most familiar strangers, but to be as friends for the rest of our lives.We will try our best to get used to this change, and will take responsibility of our actions.To the parents who loves us as well as those who gave us your blessings, i am very sorry. I caused disappointment and worries to you. But please believe in us that we will try our very best to live life to the fullest.Ah Diong also made a post:Original post: ä¹å¹´å‰ï¼Œæˆ‘å€‘å› äº†è§£å°æ–¹è€Œåœ¨ä¸€èµ·ï¼›ä¹å¹´å¾Œï¼Œæˆ‘å€‘å› çæƒœå½¼æ¤è¦é›¢å©šäº†ã€‚æˆ‘å¤©æ€§ä¸æµªæ¼«ä¹Ÿä¸é«”貼,ä¹å¹´å‰ï¼ŒæŸç¨‹åº¦ä¸Šç¹«æ–¼å¥¹é·å°±æˆ‘ã€è¿½è‘—æˆ‘è·‘ï¼Œæˆ‘æ›¾ç¿’æ…£å¥¹å°æˆ‘比較好。有好長一段時間,我們處於éžå¸¸æ™‚期,都變了,那時我們的目標與一般夫妻ä¸åŒï¼Œåªæƒ³è®Šå›žæ£å¸¸äººã€‚後來,我æ±å¿™è¥¿å¿™å¿½ç•¥äº†ç¶“營生活,竟把婚姻當æˆç†æ‰€ç•¶ç„¶ã€‚她是懂生活的美食旅éŠé”人,我是閒了就慌的務實工作狂,她愛看綜è—與戲劇節目,我鎖定新èžåŠé«”è‚²é »é“,慢慢地我們æˆäº†å¹³è¡Œç·šã€‚找ä¸å‡ºè§£è—¥æ™‚相處變æˆäº†å£“åŠ›ï¼ŒåŠ ä¸Šæ„›æƒ…éš¨è‘—æ™‚é–“æ¼¸æ¼¸æ·¡äº†ï¼Œä¸€åˆ‡æ–æ–欲墜。婚姻是需è¦èª¿æ•´çš„,我沒發ç¾ä¹Ÿæ²’æ‡‰è®Šï¼›äººæ˜¯æœƒè®Šçš„ï¼Œæˆ‘å€‘éƒ½è®Šäº†ã€‚å¤±æ•—çš„å©šå§»ï¼Œæˆ‘æ‡‰è² æœ€å¤§çš„è²¬ä»»ã€‚æˆ‘å€‘æ›¾å›°ä½ã€ç„¡åŠ©ã€å¤±è½ï¼Œæ›¾æƒ³å†æ‰¾å…±åŒé»žå»å¤±æ•—,曾æºé€šå»ä»æœ‰ç›²é»žã€‚我們想掙脫ç¾ç‹€ï¼Œå¥¹æé›¢å©šæ™‚我呆掉,我æé›¢å©šæ™‚å¥¹æ²ˆé»˜ï¼Œè¬›åˆ°é€™å…©å€‹å—æ™‚我們都很怕,怕作錯決定,éŽç¨‹ä¸å¥½å—。未來如何ä¸çŸ¥ï¼Œèµ·ç¢¼ç¾åœ¨çµ¦å½¼æ¤ç©ºé–“是好的,ç¾åœ¨é—œä¿‚åè€Œæ›´å¥½ï¼Œåªæ˜¯ï¼ŒæŠ±æ‰è®“æˆ‘å€‘çš„å®¶äººè¦ªå‹æ“”憂了。ä¹å¹´é…¸ç”œè‹¦è¾£ã€å›žæ†¶æ»¿æ»¿ï¼Œæˆ‘們的經æ·å¤–人無法體會,感情ä¾ç„¶æ·±åŽšã€‚æˆ‘å€‘ä»äº†è§£ã€é—œå¿ƒå°æ–¹ï¼Œä¸é¡˜å½¼æ¤å¾žå°æ–¹ç”Ÿå‘½æ¶ˆå¤±ï¼Œæ‰“算以å¦ä¸€ç¨®å½¢å¼é–‹å§‹ï¼ŒSelina是如家人般的摯å‹ã€‚失敗的婚姻,我少了一個è€å©†ï¼Œå»å¤šäº†ä¸€å€‹æ¯”è¦ªå¦¹å¦¹é‚„è¦ªçš„å¦¹å¦¹ã€‚æˆ‘å€‘æƒ³éŽæ˜¯å¦ä½Žèª¿è¾¦æ‰‹çºŒå°±å¥½ï¼Œä½†ç¾å¯¦ç’°å¢ƒææ€•䏿œƒå®¹è¨±æˆ‘å€‘é»˜é»˜ç™»è¨˜ï¼Œå¤§æ¦‚ä»æœƒé©šå‹•很多人å§ã€‚為å…è¬ å‚³ã€é©šçˆ†ã€çŒœæ¸¬ï¼Œä¹¾è„†å¤§æ–¹èª 懇交待。我們的故事曾被關注,è¬è¬å¤§å®¶æ›¾ç¥ç¦èˆ‡é—œå¿ƒï¼›æˆ‘倆ç¾åœ¨ä½œäº†è‡ªç§çš„æ±ºå®šï¼ŒæŠ±æ‰è®“å¤§å®¶é©šè¨æˆ–失望了。請勿惋惜,åšå…„妹讓我們更開心。我們ç¾åœ¨é–‹å§‹Reset ! https://www.facebook.com/permalink.php?story_fbid=1709951385908945&id=1582141898689895&substory_index=0 Translation by me:Nine years ago, we got together because we understood one another; nine years later, we're getting divorced because we treasure one another.It is not in my nature to be romantic and thoughtful, nine years ago, to some extent, she accommodated me, chased after me, I had grown accustomed to her treating me better. For a long time, we were in a critical period, things have changed. At that time our goal was different from typical marriages, we just wanted to return to normal people. Later, I busied myself with this and that and ignored the normal operations of life, ultimately ended up taking my marriage for granted.She appreciates good food and travel in life, I'm the pragmatic workaholic, she loves watching arts and drama programs, I follow the news and sports channels, slowly we became two parallel lines. When we couldn't find a suitable solution, spending time together became a pressure, plus our love quietly dissipated with time, everything crumbled. Marriage requires adjustments, I didn't realize and didn't accommodate; people change, we changed.A failed marriage, I must bear the responsibility.We were once trapped, helpless, lost, once wanted to try and find common ground again but failed, once communicated but still had blind spots. We want to break free of our current reality, when she brought up divorce I blanked, when I brought up divorce she became silent, we both became scared at the mention of this word, scared of making the wrong decision, the process was upsetting. Who knows what the future holds, at least for now it will be good to give each other space, our relationship with each other has actually improved now. We are sorry for worrying our family and friends.Nine years of sour sweet bitter spicy, full of memories, others cannot understand our history, there are deep feelings between us. We are still understanding, caring for each other, not willing to have each other disappear from the others' lives. We've decided to start our relationship anew in a different form, Selina is a friend as intimate as family.A failed marriage, I've lost a wife, but gained a sister closer than a blood sister.We considered filing the paperwork in a low-key manner, but the reality is we probably won't be able to do so quietly, it would probably end up alarming many people. To prevent rumors, shock, and guessing, we might as well openly and sincerely make this announcement. Our story was a topic of focus in the past, thank you for everyone's past blessings and well wishes; the two of us have made a selfish decision, sorry for surprising or disappointing everyone. Please do not feel regret, becoming brother and sister will make us happier.Let's reset now! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeeTee 1,719 Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 Sounds like a well thought out decision. I wish them both good luck in finding happiness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
�5150 1,513 Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 An amicable decision, good luck to them both. "A failed marriage, I've lost a wife, but gained a sister closer than a blood sister." - Don't think I've seen such a beautiful perspective come out of a divorce. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blazeaire 5,629 Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 Wait whaaat?? I remember the proposal at the concert omg this is so sad Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blank_stare 2,217 Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 At least she knows what she's lacking. Good on her. Good luck to her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abra 40,910 Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 :( Well I hope it works out fine, atleast they part on very good terms and they don't have any kids that can be affected. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MangoKiwi 116 Posted March 5, 2016 Share Posted March 5, 2016 This makes me sad TT_TT but I'm glad they're both able to leave before resentment grew Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Serechan 1,482 Posted March 5, 2016 Share Posted March 5, 2016 At least they parted in good terms. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rayellaz 1,221 Posted March 5, 2016 Share Posted March 5, 2016 damn i definitely didn't see this one coming. at least they parted amicably Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craptelly 702 Posted March 5, 2016 Share Posted March 5, 2016 I was so shocked when I saw her post on her official fb... I wasn't really paying attention yesterday but it kept coming up on my timeline and saw this post by S.H.E page saying "We will support you forever, Selina." and that's just when I started wondering what actually happened. It's really sad, but it's great that they do still care for and respect each other. And despite the circumstances being unfortunate, I think it's great that the two of them still matured and learned things from this relationship. I wish them the best. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehebe330 9 Posted March 5, 2016 Share Posted March 5, 2016 I was at school when I saw this and so I was shocked.. really shocked as I didn't expect anything like this to happen all of the sudden. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hemlock 1,537 Posted March 5, 2016 Share Posted March 5, 2016 It's a good thing if they will both be happier after this at least. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melovestage 2,568 Posted March 5, 2016 Share Posted March 5, 2016 I was shocked at first, but is able to stomach this well. It was really nice to see them parting on good terms and diong's words really touched my heart. "I gained a sister who i am closer than my blood sister" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LeaveMeAlone 326 Posted March 5, 2016 Share Posted March 5, 2016 omg~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
31415 38 Posted March 6, 2016 Share Posted March 6, 2016 I was sad, but after reading their statements I just can say that it's the best decision for both of them. I really hope Selina and Ah Diong find what they want and have great success and happiness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
llamaswag 8,571 Posted March 6, 2016 Share Posted March 6, 2016 I still remembered that proposal at the concert, it still so fresh in my memory. Time really past. Their statement toward this decision is actually quite touching. Becuz they treasure each other in their lives as friends and family (not just lover or husband/wife) that they need to go through this to keep the relationship and have each other in their lives be4 it's too late, it's sad and unfortunate but is necessary to both of them atleast Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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