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Selina recently announced plans for divorce from 5 year long husband, Ah Diong, on her fb.

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因為我們已經失去了愛情
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在我最痛苦最脆弱的時候
是他陪著我渡éŽä¸¦ä¸”給我全心全力的支æŒ
雖然隨著我回到正常的軌é“後
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最終沒能跟他牽手到生命盡頭
我很抱歉

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也會為我們的決定負責

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讓你們擔心åŠå¤±æœ›äº†
請相信我們
我們會努力
讓自己活得更好

https://www.facebook.com/himselina/photos/a.100721163389357.286.100686060059534/849867511808048/?type=3&theater

 


Translation by melovestage on OH:
Ah Diong and i decided to get a divorce.

Marriage requires the effort of two parties. We need to be frank to each other and we need to be frank to ourselves.

We did not try hard enough.

I did not play the role of a good wife.
I still enjoyed working and concentrating on my career even after i got married, which caused me to miss out on the time and effort required to manage a marriage and a family. I became a wife, but i did not become a good wife.

Moreover, the current 'me' is different from the 'me' before i got married. In the past i set love as my utmost priority. But in recent years, my viewpoint in life started to change. I am no longer the girl who lived for love, therefore, our love started to disappear.

We were not happy as husband and wife. Problems that existed continued to trouble us. And we can't try to force ourselves or the other party to change.

We have known one another for nine years. It is not only love that is between us. It is also friendship and kinship. So we know that this decision is necessary.

Since we have already lost the love between us, we cant afford to lose the friendship and kinship too.

I can only say that i am full of gratitude towards Ah Diong. He was there to give me his support during times whereby i was the most vulnerable. And ever since my life returned back to normal, the problems between us started to appear. Thankfully, the both of us are reasonable. We are willing to look into the problem and face it.

I am sorry that i cant be with him till the very end.

Divorce is our conclusion after discussing and thinking carefully. We don't want to be the most familiar strangers, but to be as friends for the rest of our lives.

We will try our best to get used to this change, and will take responsibility of our actions.

To the parents who loves us as well as those who gave us your blessings, i am very sorry. I caused disappointment and worries to you. But please believe in us that we will try our very best to live life to the fullest.

Ah Diong also made a post:
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失敗的婚姻,我應負最大的責任。
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我們ç¾åœ¨é–‹å§‹Reset !

https://www.facebook.com/permalink.php?story_fbid=1709951385908945&id=1582141898689895&substory_index=0


Translation by me:
Nine years ago, we got together because we understood one another; nine years later, we're getting divorced because we treasure one another.

It is not in my nature to be romantic and thoughtful, nine years ago, to some extent, she accommodated me, chased after me, I had grown accustomed to her treating me better. For a long time, we were in a critical period, things have changed. At that time our goal was different from typical marriages, we just wanted to return to normal people. Later, I busied myself with this and that and ignored the normal operations of life, ultimately ended up taking my marriage for granted.

She appreciates good food and travel in life, I'm the pragmatic workaholic, she loves watching arts and drama programs, I follow the news and sports channels, slowly we became two parallel lines. When we couldn't find a suitable solution, spending time together became a pressure, plus our love quietly dissipated with time, everything crumbled. Marriage requires adjustments, I didn't realize and didn't accommodate; people change, we changed.

A failed marriage, I must bear the responsibility.

We were once trapped, helpless, lost, once wanted to try and find common ground again but failed, once communicated but still had blind spots. We want to break free of our current reality, when she brought up divorce I blanked, when I brought up divorce she became silent, we both became scared at the mention of this word, scared of making the wrong decision, the process was upsetting. Who knows what the future holds, at least for now it will be good to give each other space, our relationship with each other has actually improved now. We are sorry for worrying our family and friends.

Nine years of sour sweet bitter spicy, full of memories, others cannot understand our history, there are deep feelings between us. We are still understanding, caring for each other, not willing to have each other disappear from the others' lives. We've decided to start our relationship anew in a different form, Selina is a friend as intimate as family.

A failed marriage, I've lost a wife, but gained a sister closer than a blood sister.

We considered filing the paperwork in a low-key manner, but the reality is we probably won't be able to do so quietly, it would probably end up alarming many people. To prevent rumors, shock, and guessing, we might as well openly and sincerely make this announcement. Our story was a topic of focus in the past, thank you for everyone's past blessings and well wishes; the two of us have made a selfish decision, sorry for surprising or disappointing everyone. Please do not feel regret, becoming brother and sister will make us happier.

Let's reset now!

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I was so shocked when I saw her post on her official fb... I wasn't really paying attention yesterday but it kept coming up on my timeline and saw this post by S.H.E page saying "We will support you forever, Selina." and that's just when I started wondering what actually happened. 

 

It's really sad, but it's great that they do still care for and respect each other. And despite the circumstances being unfortunate, I think it's great that the two of them still matured and learned things from this relationship. I wish them the best.  :rlytearpls:

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I was sad, but after reading their statements I just can say that it's the best decision for both of them. I really hope Selina and Ah Diong find what they want and have great success and happiness.

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I still remembered that proposal at the concert, it still so fresh in my memory.

Time really past.

Their statement toward this decision is actually quite touching. Becuz they treasure each other in their lives as friends and family (not just lover or husband/wife) that they need to go through this to keep the relationship and have each other in their lives be4 it's too late, it's sad and unfortunate but is necessary to both of them atleast  :._.:

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