My Everything 23,399 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 A confused reddit user is seeking advice because he thinks there is something wrong with him because he’s has a crush on a ‘male friend.’ User KittiesToTheMax writes:I’m straight for the most part but I do have feeling for this one guy I know, he’s kind of like my foster brother in a way, or at least that’s how we met. My mom met his dad and we started to hang out, the relationship didn’t last long enough to mean anything but me and him stayed in contact even though our parents didn’t. It didn’t become sexual until very recently, at first I just kinda looked up to him and wanted to be more like him. Then I wanted to be in his company because he made me feel cool and normal when I was around him. I started becoming quite jealous of the girls he showered affections on and at that point I realized what was going on. I’m very much straight, I love girls, have sex with them often and there has never been any other guy that I’ve been into in any way. This guy is different for some reason, I’ve started thinking about him a lot and I actually jacked off thinking about his body I’ve seen a few times during showers after we’ve gone swimming. I feel pretty perverted, ashamed of how I’m feeling. One commmenter, writes: “This sounds really feasible. I can imagine myself having this relationship with a girl that I spent a lot of time around. I don’t think this makes a person gay, I think this just reveals that we’re all a little flexible. You’re not necessarily even bi. It’s a spectrum. You’re just at 99 instead of 100.†Another writes. “Well when I met my bf, I realized that I wanted him a lot. I had liked girls before and don’t recall ever being attracted by boys. We’ve been together for almost five years and I haven’t been attracted to anyone since, boys or girls. So sometimes I am iffy to identify myself as gay since I don’t feel attracted to guys except my bf. But since I’ve only been with him and no one else, it’s easier to be gay because he’s the only one I could ever want.†Another user writes, “I think sexuality is weird, you’re probably not 100% straight but that doesn’t make you gay if you have feeling for a dude. If the feeling is mutual, i woulds say go for it : Worst case scenario ? You realize that you’re absolutely not into dudes and you know a lot more your sexuality. Best case scenario ? You’re into dudes and girls.†- See more at: http://www.thegailygrind.com/2016/02/22/can-you-be-gay-for-just-one-guy/#sthash.4ZoX3kYL.dpuf Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sephiroth 3,892 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 you can be attracted to only one guy but that wouldnt make you gay ever like bi people are not "gay for some people" thats just a weird way to put it idk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Buns 3,767 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 My boyfriend claims he's that but we've together for 2+ years and he's gradually gotten queenier as time goes by as awful as that is to say nnnn so I don't believe him for a second but I don't doubt it could happen, I don't want to tell anybody what their sexuality is Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YNRA 1,082 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 No they're just in denial Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kw_ 8,023 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 I thought I was just "gay for Moonbyul" then I found out I'm actually bi lol Y'all in the closet you just don't know it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
愛��る 627 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 No they're just in denial Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rapmon's Ahjussi Husband 2,299 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 It's that the chinese web serie ( Heroin) you'r talking about ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
palechibi 2,748 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 i thought i just had a gay spot for barbara palvin but then i realized as time went on i'm pretty much bisexual so yeah Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caiii 1,420 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 I've only really been gay for two people and those were both my best friends, but at the same time I had those feelings I was also in a relationship with a girl lol. Y'all bi you just don't know it yet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpriteVodka 755 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 Whatever, just don't call yourself a straight MAN because you aren't one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
愛��る 627 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 This could be a misplaced guy-crush too. Something like this was discussed in the gay k-idols thread. You can't be 'gay for someone'. You're either gay or you're not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trinity 773 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 If he's in love with a guy he's not straight. He's bi but leans more towards women. Exactly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laiceps 822 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 You’re just at 99 instead of 100.†lol i like this one, i'll use it to explain my love for japanese girls being gay or bi isn't his problem, being homophobic is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oltre Luna 1,299 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 That's called being bisexual,he just has a preference for women Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yeokdae 3,324 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 that's actually almost exactly what happened to me...then i just embraced it and thought maybe I was simply bi. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dandelion Wine 1,540 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 Sliding scale of homosexuality. It's a thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mariabell 575 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 I see a lot of foreign straight males with Asian she-males and transgenders on facebook. I don't know if that answers any questions but... oh well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shugwi 12,550 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 that person is at least bi if he is sexually and emotionally attracted to a guy imo it doesn't matter if it's just one he probably didn't realize it until now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tarted 378 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 This labels always mess everything up! If you don't consider yourself as bi, or think you're gay for only one guy, well that's your life! Only you can define yourself! Do it in any way you feel like it! That's called being bisexual,he just has a preference for women Loved this infographic tho, I'm saving it for future discussions! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Somnia 983 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 No? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldmine 2,849 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 gay means attracted to the same sex exclusively, so... no and he's obviously not straight lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrystal 1,256 Posted February 22, 2016 Share Posted February 22, 2016 This is why sex ed should be mandatory for kids after a certain age (don't care if they are in public, private or home school), and parrents shouldn't be allowed opt them out. Too many kids grow up confused thinking there is only straight and gay. Not to mention that there is that whole hormonal phase in the teen years where everything can turn someone on, which doesn't really mean anything but is perfectly normal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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