KinkySanta 1,073 Posted January 29, 2016 Share Posted January 29, 2016 Me and my boyfriend were at Disney and he was being super annoying. He was dancing randomly for no reason, he was doing obnoxious poses on the rides, saying inappropriate stuff loudly and in front of kids. I just started to think, "wow, when were just going to normal places he's just fine, but I can't see a future with a guy that is this way." I then talked to him about our relationship and how I can't see it being marriage material. He said he really does love me, but he just knew there was something missing. He still said stuff about still meeting up and I said we should probably break up. He said I guess so, so we don't waste each other's time. I don't think I ever really LOVED him, but I liked him enough to where I'm still a little sad. So basically he thought we were wrong for each other, but that dude was still driving out an hour and a half to see me. I think I know why this pussy be yankin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ETB5 4,512 Posted January 29, 2016 Share Posted January 29, 2016 Lol, your lovelife is a mess. I hope you find the right one soon . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
denizen mars 5,911 Posted January 29, 2016 Share Posted January 29, 2016 I mean it's a good idea to not waste peoples' time in general, but aren't you like 17 or 18 or something? why are you throwing around words like 'marriage material' already, are you trying to make 24 year old old maids like me feel even worse lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hiku 762 Posted January 29, 2016 Share Posted January 29, 2016 Here I am, virgin and no girlfriend at the age of 18. :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KinkySanta 1,073 Posted January 29, 2016 Author Share Posted January 29, 2016 I mean it's a good idea to not waste peoples' time in general, but aren't you like 17 or 18 or something? why are you throwing around words like 'marriage material' already, are you trying to make 24 year old old maids like me feel even worse lol I'm 21 he was like 22. I'm obviously not thinking of marrying anyone anytime soon, but why would I date someone I couldn't imagine a future with Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buntunbois 84 Posted January 29, 2016 Share Posted January 29, 2016 my head hurts trying to understand this good for you for breaking up with him, best of luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Meth Krystal 18,630 Posted January 29, 2016 Share Posted January 29, 2016 · Hidden Hidden lmfao that spoiler gorl... im sorry to hear that tho Link to comment
✨ Ass Fat ✨ 9,598 Posted January 29, 2016 Share Posted January 29, 2016 yaaaaaaaaaaas girl. ugh I can't believe you're 21 already I still remember when you were 17 and made that iconic troll on H8 well I mean there are more dicks out there in the world! GOOD ON YOU Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeeYaWithYou 4,415 Posted January 29, 2016 Share Posted January 29, 2016 I'm sorry to hear that. I personally don't think randomly dancing around is that bad, but if my SO started saying inappropriate things in front of children, then it would be a problem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lurker in the Abyss 3,269 Posted January 29, 2016 Share Posted January 29, 2016 Well. If you could have just told him what you think about his antics during your date then it might have been avoided.Relationship are about compensating each others fault.Since you liked him enough for you to be sad and he drives half an hour just to get to you then its something. You just need to point each others flaws and tell him about what you think and what you feel about it. Theres no such relationship that you will find a person that you dont find anything wrong with him. You will always find flaws in a person and how you guys deal with that flaws will help your relationship grow. I kinda pity the guy, like he's spending time with you, making it to the fullest, as he thought that he was spending his time with his loved one then suddenly dropping a bomb like "I cant see myself being married with you".And you just purely based your decision with his actions at that Time? At One time? Really?Relationships are not supposedly to be clear. Like you see yourself marrying someone and so.There's Ups and Downs and compensating each other will put you guys in one end or another making you feel satistfied with the experiences that you have. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KinkySanta 1,073 Posted January 29, 2016 Author Share Posted January 29, 2016 Well. If you could have just told him what you think about his antics during your date then it might have been avoided. Relationship are about compensating each others fault. Since you liked him enough for you to be sad and he drives half an hour just to get to you then its something. You just need to point each others flaws and tell him about what you think and what you feel about it. Theres no such relationship that you will find a person that you dont find anything wrong with him. You will always find flaws in a person and how you guys deal with that flaws will help your relationship grow. I kinda pity the guy, like he's spending time with you, making it to the fullest, as he thought that he was spending his time with his loved one then suddenly dropping a bomb like "I cant see myself being married with you". And you just purely based your decision with his actions at that Time? At One time? Really? Relationships are not supposedly to be clear. Like you see yourself marrying someone and so. There's Ups and Downs and compensating each other will put you guys in one end or another making you feel satistfied with the experiences that you have. It's been something I've been thinking about for a while to be honest. He always had little obnoxious moments and it's nothing he could change it's his personality. We've broken up once before for this exact same reason. We're too different. He says I'm too "chill" and I think he's too silly. he said he can't see a future with me the first time we broke up Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CookieMxnster 326 Posted January 29, 2016 Share Posted January 29, 2016 Here I am, virgin and no girlfriend at the age of 18. :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lurker in the Abyss 3,269 Posted January 29, 2016 Share Posted January 29, 2016 It's been something I've been thinking about for a while to be honest. He always had little obnoxious moments and it's nothing he could change it's his personality. We've broken up once before for this exact same reason. We're too different. He says I'm too "chill" and I think he's too silly. he said he can't see a future with me the first time we broke up You are not supposed to change someone in a relationship. You are supposed to accept what his flaws are and put up with you. Im sure you yourself have a flaw or somehow, you just need someone to put up with you. TBH, Guys like that are worth it in the end. Being silly and being fun. Those are the kind of guys that wont let you down, he will find simple things just to make it fun for you two. If you go someone that is "chill" like you, cant help to imagine how fun would it be for your kids in the future. These type of guys that you are saying "silly" are the type of guys that can put up with you till the end. Its going to be worth it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ringo 4,146 Posted January 29, 2016 Share Posted January 29, 2016 Your dating life is a trainwreck. Never stop posting about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pink Shadow 727 Posted January 29, 2016 Share Posted January 29, 2016 my ex was like that too lmao it was so annoying and embarrassing cause he acted like a child everywhere we went. I played along for the most part cause it made him happy but eventually I was like bitch fuk this I wanna be the hot puta i was born to be, none of this lame ass childish shit so i said annyeong goodbye adios Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MidnightEXO 12,909 Posted January 30, 2016 Share Posted January 30, 2016 I mean it's a good idea to not waste peoples' time in general, but aren't you like 17 or 18 or something? why are you throwing around words like 'marriage material' already, are you trying to make 24 year old old maids like me feel even worse lol Fuck Marriage... My ex asked I dipped..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MidnightEXO 12,909 Posted January 30, 2016 Share Posted January 30, 2016 So, I read one of your comments. In my last relationship, my EX and I were different as well. He never really went out much and I did sometimes every now and again but he didnt like that I went out. I'd say he was pretty controlling but I was more so blinded by his sweet side and smile and I gave him more chances then one after telling him to calm down. We discussed a lot and I mean a whole lot about the future and I would always derail the conversation with saying I don't see myself getting married for a while and I don't know about kids and he never said much but it was clear I wasn't thinking like him. He has this whole plan to be married by 26. I'm 24. He's older then me by a month. I just wasn't thinking like that. He was working at a restaurant and moving with his bother so our relationship got rocky and weird so he would think about the future way to much and he'd be paranoid about alot and we would fight more then say I love you and then we talked it we just a fight. I'm more like your ex. I'm goofy I love making people smile and all I ever tried to do was make him smile.. We were literally watching a drama together... and he just fucking flipped. We fought and the next day he wanted to break up... I was devastated but... I was content and we talked our future out and he was chill about it.. so while he was moving, we took a break.. and then we talked after that week and I told him I love him after I was coming home for the weekend before winter break and my aunt talked to me and said... what do I know about love.... and how long we were together so she picked my brain none the less... and I realized he wasn't for me. I only said I loved him because he said it first. I only stayed with him because I didn't want to be lonely and I realized that nothing he could do or say could make things better but some how some way that night I talked to him I just left that behind and give it go.... to have it 3 day later him ask me once again what future I saw in us and he want on said he saw no future after I finally said I saw it. Did it hurt? Yes, I cried but then after we broke up I realized how much of an ass he was and how much I changed myself just to fulfill his happiness without concerning myself with my own. I stopped being the carefree care bear that I am and cold hearted person like him not saying he was awful but If you knew him you'd know what I mean. More of less. I realized alot about myself and realized I can take some much till I snap... I called him after Christmas and I told him I cared about him and apologized for some things that I said... and he was just god awful to me. He basically was telling me to fuck off and move on. I then said words to him that I regret but... now I realize that I would have ultimately married a guy that would have treated me awful. Love sucks. It does its better to know now then waste 6 years of your life or even marry someone you arent happy with. Communication is always key and if you EVER I mean EVER feel you aren't happy. Tell them don't waste day, minutes or seconds of your time or theirs if you aren't happy. It's better to pull the bandaid off fast then keep it on. If I didn't force him to break up with me well basically tell him to I would have some way convinced him we should retry. I ignored him and he ignored me and if I would have called him the next day after we broke up to apologize I probably would be in the endless circle of make up to break up. It's not worth it. Not worth your happiness or his. If you can be friends one day. Attempt it. If you enjoy his company go for friends. Not now but when your ready. Just because you break up doesn't mean the friendship had to end. Me and my ex had a awful fight and I said she terrible hateful shit and I don't blame him for not wanting to be friends. I'm better off not being friends anyways. It was a lesson learned for sure tho. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil 139 Posted January 31, 2016 Share Posted January 31, 2016 It's better to drop a relationship if you feel like it's going nowhere, it saves you time for the future, yes you did like each another but if you see nothing in the future why stay? It's unfair to the both of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lynnie 1,207 Posted February 1, 2016 Share Posted February 1, 2016 best wishes bae Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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