Would you talk about sex with your child?

[D a n t e]

And this is a serious question. I've noticed a lot of parents avoid the discussion all together when their child asks them something regarding gender or sex. Why can they not educate their child about these things. The only thing that avoiding the discussion will do, is have their children go and find out by themselves, and become less open to their parents about the subject of sexuality.

 

People are so scared to talk about sex. Even on OH I've noticed it. There's only a couple of users who don't mind speaking the truth about 1, their sexuality and 2, admit that they even enjoy it. A lot of times I just see people posting gifs that insinuate you 'need jesus' or ' '. What's the deal? I know a lot of times it can be  a joke, but there's also people who'll say 'eww'. If you're not interested in sex, why shame others for it?

 

A lot of parents are too ashamed to talk with their children about sex and it honestly pisses me off. This is why teenage pregnancies are getting out of hand. The continuous shame that has been put on sex for centuries is still preventing people from being open about it. 

 

And at the same time, society loves sex, because you see it everywhere and it sells. Creating a huge cognitive dissonance within people, especially women, thinking that when they like sex they're a slut, but can't help enjoying it. 

 

The first step to changing this issue in my opinion, is to start educating your fucking children. Better have them find out through you, than have the internet 'educate' them.

 

I just needed to make this thread because recently my niece asked her mom why boys are different down there and she immediatly averted her eyes and avoided the question. Which fucking pissed me off, but I'm not gonna tell a grown woman how she should raise her child.

 

So, will you talk openly about sex/sexuality with your child? Or are you the type to start giggling when you say the word 'penis' and 'vagina'?

 

 

TL;DR stop being a pussy and start talking.   

 

 

 

 

[Callum]

Definitely. I'd want them to provide them with the correct information as early as is appropriate so they don't develop any misconceptions or insecurities around it.

[Athena]

Yes, once they turn 11 the whole talk maybe.

But I'll answer questions whenever.

[Venom Rose]

Of course. It's better for a child to learn it from their parent rather than learning it from the internet or television.

[╯SHIwol╰]

I think parents should teach their children more to listen during class because I'm sure sex education are being taught in schools now. I remember learning about it when I was in 4th grade up to 6th grade. (Deeper knowledge about it -- those difficult terms and shit in high school)

[pr0chicken007]

How am i suppose to teach her ? 

"Hey, honey"
"yeah mom"
"this is my pussy"
"oh, i have 1 too ? Does dad have 1 ?"

[Jiraishin]

I'm all for talking to kids and try to explain them how the world works. But the capacity of child's' understanding is limited depending on the age, so even if you tell something, it won't necessarily have the effect you wish for. So it really is a complex situation, because one question can lead to another one and another one and as some adults don't have everything figured out, there will be a dead end in discussion at some point. There are so many things to take into consideration, like social perceptions of what is normal. I suppose everyone wants their child to grow up being able to accept other people and other ways of life, have individual outlook on the world instead of the built in perception of "how it's supposed to be". Much more important part of the "talk" is to explain how to use this information and implement it in life.

[Cho]

Yes I would. It's important for a parent to explain to their child these things so they don't learn about it from the internet

[jaehyun]

Of course. Better know the basic things from me than found out by themselves 

[Clover.]

My parents discussed with me and even gave me condoms. I don't see why I wouldn't do that. Sex is a natural thing but it requires responsability. So if I don't want my kids to be pregnant teens or infected with stds, I must be sincere and talk with them. 

[Nowhere Boy]

When they're old enough

[widwit]

Yes. My parents were super open with me so I'm totally comfortable talking about it.

[iamayam]

In my country we learned it through friends and porn.

[Jihyo's Heart Shaker]

Yes. I will be honest as hell, just like my mom did.

 

No harm. They would have found out about it eventually, anyways.

 

When we all had the talk, there was no filter. It was explicit as hell, but we didn't care.

 

A casual conversation.

[KnottyBalloon]

Of course 

[RoyeoI]

yes

[xar]

Yes its just sex, its human nature.

[Goose Fantasy]

Yup, when my child is 12 years old.

[Rapmon's Ahjussi Husband]

Yes, it may be different in terms according the age : the bees and flowers, and latter the real talk at 11, but I think is not a question if I would but more of I have to, teen pregnancy and STDS are no joke so of course I would talk about it

[Big Stupid Jellyfish]

Yes

[Miyami]

Dunno.. it has always been a taboo for me. My parents never talked about it. I never talk about it. I dont think i would talk about it to my future child? It doesnt seem appriopate.

[buntunbois]

yes i would, my parents never taught me so i had to go on the wonderful world of' the internet and research myself

 

and stuff, that..i wish i never saw

[Strawberryheavens]

i don't have one

[mamichan]

mmmmmmmmmm 

[RedVelvetTrash]

Yes of course I would if I have any children. My parents never sat me down for "the talk".