giacc 196 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 And I think he is going to break up with me because of them. I am from Mexico and I just came back for vacation, I go back to Seoul on February. He told me all of this by message like 3 days ago. They don't even know me in person. I don't know what to do, I am just so sad. Should I just let him go if he wants to break up? He is my first bf and I really really like him but I feel he will obey his parents on whatever they say to him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Den Enda 8 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 nice excuse to break up he got there Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupipoo 1,619 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 he ain't fucking his mom, he's fucking you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deea 6,754 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 I have the same problem not bc of race tho,my bf is in med school and im not lmao so his mom doesnt like me at all its annoying af Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Haus of Tzu:Lai 5,450 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 I'm sorry to hear that, but I'm not surprised by it tbh. I think it's better to know now than later, when things would have developed/progressed even further - thus making it even harder. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oliver 22,442 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 pretty sure hes using that as an excuse.. dump his ass first Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suzya 727 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 Ugh that really sucks, but a lot of Korean parents seem to be quite conservative? This makes me quite uneasy about dating Korean guys to be honest. I feel your pain. Try to talk to your bf and figure out how he feels and if he is willing to stay with you. One of my friends is in a similar situation, but her bf is amazing and sticks by her, despite his parents dislike towards her saddening him. Your best bet is to have an open talk with your bf and hopefully meeting his parents. Good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yerowan 1,006 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 And I think he is going to break up with me because of them. I am from Mexico and I just came back for vacation, I go back to Seoul on February. He told me all of this by message like 3 days ago. They don't even know me in person. I don't know what to do, I am just so sad. Should I just let him go if he wants to break up? He is my first bf and I really really like him but I feel he will obey his parents on whatever they say to him If he can't manage to stand up to his parents just to DATE you, he's not going to stand up to them for anything else - which means you'd be in a relationship with a spineless guy AND his overbearing, meddling parents. GET OUT. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NORIKIYO 5,087 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 spare yourself the incoming mess and dump him because his parents sound xenophobic Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wiaraewiwiarae 6,637 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 Dump him, save yourself from terrible parents-in-law and wimp of a husband. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coordi_Oppa 458 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 Leave him better for you honestly Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
burenbayar 105 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 spit him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScarletWhimsy 2,203 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 That's really sad, I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this. Honestly, if it's a serious relationship and parents are hugely against it, you have to decide whether it's worth putting yourself through so much pain. First boyfriends will always be special, but hang in there. Even if you two don't work out, whether because of the parents or something else, there will always be others. <3 Wishing you best of luck for a happy ending. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cat of The Canals 8,842 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 It could be true that his parents don't like you and they're giving him problems because of your nationality/ethnicity. From what I've been told, Korean parents can be picky about whom their children date. I guess you could talks more about it with him. If he's not willing to stand up for you, dump his ass. He could be just using it as an excuse to get rid of you. If that's the case, dump his ass Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
loeyeol 3,808 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 Either try to talk to your boyfriend and see if there's anything that both of you can do to solve this matter, like bringing you to meet his parents (and you will have to try your best to make the parents like you), or just leave him, you wouldn't want demanding in-laws >< Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
palechibi 2,748 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 spare yourself the incoming mess and dump him because his parents sound xenophobic Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gummybear_dragon 1,695 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 If he can't manage to stand up to his parents just to DATE you, he's not going to stand up to them for anything else - which means you'd be in a relationship with a spineless guy AND his overbearing, meddling parents. GET OUT. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LUNE 879 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 Dump him, save yourself from terrible parents-in-law and wimp of a husband. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barack Oppama 5,738 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 Dump him, save yourself from terrible parents-in-law and wimp of a husband. If he can't manage to stand up to his parents just to DATE you, he's not going to stand up to them for anything else - which means you'd be in a relationship with a spineless guy AND his overbearing, meddling parents. GET OUT. THESE TBH Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PoshLuxe 689 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 If he breaks up with you, let him go. I believe that people can have their own opinions on a relationship, but at the end of the day it's not their relationship. If he dumps you because he cares a bit too much about his parents' opinion, then forget him. An outside opinion, especially with a reason like "She isn't Korean," shouldn't be paid attention to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
g-dragons girlfriend 5,749 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 Leave his ass, he clearly has no mind of his own if he feels his parents can rule over his dating. You deserve better, boo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
black pearl 802 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 oh.. that's rough. not much you can do to change the parents minds cuz they probably real old fashion. And there's not much he can do to change their minds cuz most kids brought up under those strict rules will be under their power well into their adulthood. So.. either end it now or the both of you could just not give a sh*t and continue seeing each other without their blessings. first loves are hard but you'll have many more to come so don't stress out so much on this one person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiramisu. 2,064 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 If he can't manage to stand up to his parents just to DATE you, he's not going to stand up to them for anything else - which means you'd be in a relationship with a spineless guy AND his overbearing, meddling parents. GET OUT. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
juleezy 131 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 Yeah, this is the same case with me as well, except my dad doesn't like my boyfriend because he's white (I'm Vietnamese). In the beginning, he was somewhat tolerable ("just be friends; don't be anything serious.") to straight up insane ("i better not see him again; next time i'll shoot him). This guy is also my first boyfriend, and I also am really into him. He's aware that my dad does not like him and so he tries to do anything he can to make my dad like him (not dropping me off late, etc.), but it is not working. He has not met my dad yet, and he probably won't (since I'm scared of what my dad would do and plus maybe us breaking up due to different problems). So, right now, I'm in the same boat as you. First, I would say to make sure that what he is saying is true. I've seen and heard lots of people use their parents as an excuse to end a relationship. And if it is true, I would figure out the extent of the dislike. And if his parents are xenophobic (my dad only is when coming to dating partners or i guess marriage potentials), then you probably will have no choice but to either LEAVE or be ready to FIGHT. Because, man, it is so hard trying to get my dad to like him and get past his white (he's actually half Vietnamese and half white but looks 90% white) genes. I am fighting for him, but sometimes it is scary and hard because of what my dad says and does. But if your boyfriend really likes you, then he will try no matter what to keep you. Because honestly, there will be SO MUCH mess from keeping you because it seems like Asian cultures REALLY like to keep marriage within the race and disown children who don't from second hand experience and stories. It's really not that easy at all as these other posters are making it seem. I am so scared of what my dad would do that I lie when I've been out with him. So, hopefully, his parents aren't aggressive/physical like my dad is. If they aren't and don't turn into that, then I think that you and your boyfriend will stay together if he truly likes you. Now, I don't know if any of that made sense and was actually helpful, but I typed it all up. Sooo I'm just gonna post it, haha. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Belle. 3,407 Posted January 4, 2016 Share Posted January 4, 2016 Well if that his reason then let him go he doesn't deserve your love He didn't even give any effort Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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