caro_89 427 Posted December 30, 2015 Share Posted December 30, 2015 i have been thinking a lot about idols and their relationship with fans In Kpop, fans seems to be very dedicated to their bias and while I like it, I find few behaviour quite odd and the idols too, go overboard in my opinion. here are the situation, i am not very fond of. 1. Fans are my girlfriend! Many fans, the youngest ones in particular, are very delulu some times, asking their idols to be single, in order to fantasize about them (which is innocent and cute at a certain level, but not the please stay single issue, cause they deserve a life). Fans get jealous sometimes when their bias are too touchy with backup dancers, or seems to look too much towards certain female colleagues. I want to think that younger fans will grow up and this behaviour will lessen normally (i was crazy too about boybands when i was a 13-15). Over 25+ fans who still think in this way should get a hold of their lives. (i am talking about the ones that really suffers, like crying and be depressed over their bias being connected to some lady) At the same time, idols do incentivize their behaviour by saying "Fans are my girlfriends, you're the only females in my life, apart from mom and sis" etc. Do you think it's right for them to do so? I know it's pure fanservice, but it feels like giving drugs to an addict... 2. No lovestagram please!! this is connected to the previous one. I read many netizens comments saying "i am fine if oppa is dating someone, but please don't do lovestagram!" I feel so sorry for the idols and their girlfriends, cause when you're in a relationship, some people really want to share their happiness, and supporting fans are just like lifelong friends sometimes. I find cute that my friends share pics of their life with their SOs, and while it's over cheesy in few occasions, i like their pics. If fans are fine with their idols dating, why not allow them to share it? It seems like a wife saying "i am fine if he cheats on me as long as i don't know it" I would like my bias to let me know if they're dating, cause pretending the opposite will feel like lying and i like honest idols-fans relationship 3. Expensive fan gifts this is something that just came up on my mind. I love when fans get together to collect money and donate them to NGOs in their bias names or send small gifts like peluches, posters, small and cheap items like socks and so on. I also like that they collect money to buy more expensive gifts for special occasions, just like normal friends do. But there are some fans that are very rich and just with their own money can afford to send expensive gifts like over 10k dollars and so on, in watches, shoes etc. When gifts are coming from a single person, isn't it burdensome to receive them and use them for the idols? Just like someone is crushing on you and instead of giving you a candy, goes overboard and gives you a candy store... what do you think idols think when they receive such expensive gifts? not accepting them is rude as well, i guess... well, i wrote a lot... forgive me for my lack of synthesis... i just wanted to know other people opinions as well Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dhjxjcjjxj 2,768 Posted December 30, 2015 Share Posted December 30, 2015 Yes it is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiramisu. 2,064 Posted December 30, 2015 Share Posted December 30, 2015 Way too much, over the top. Especially idols who say they won't get married or have a love life for their fans i will immediately have a different view on them because they obviously can't get their priorities right Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bb4 25,058 Posted December 30, 2015 Share Posted December 30, 2015 3. Expensive fan giftsthis is something that just came up in my mind. I love when fans get together to collect money and donate them to NGOs in their bias names or send small gifts like peluches, posters, small and cheap items like socks and so on. I also like that they collect money to buy more expensive gifts for special occasions, just like normal friends do. But there are some fans that are very rich and just with their own money can afford to send expensive gifts like over 10k dollars and so on, in watches, shoes etc.When gifts are coming from a single person, isn't it burdensome to receive them and use them for the idols? Just like someone is crushing on you and instead of giving you a candy, go overboard and give you a candy store...what do you think idols think when they receive such expesive gifts?not accepting them is rude as well, i guess... Lately, this bothers me so much. Especially for idols who are rich enough to buy their own stuff. Like there's no point in giving gd prada shoes lol. I think making donations as a gift is so much better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
breadstal 5,261 Posted December 30, 2015 Share Posted December 30, 2015 Preach it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
caro_89 427 Posted December 30, 2015 Author Share Posted December 30, 2015 Way too much, over the top. Especially idols who say they won't get married or have a love life for their fans i will immediately have a different view on them because they obviously can't get their priorities right ikr. they can't really complain when fansite close down as soon their relationship is revelaed. i appreciated a lot jackson talking about the dating ban and his desire to go back to his ex Lately, this bothers me so much. Especially for idols who are rich enough to buy their own stuff. Like there's no point in giving gd prada shoes lol. I think making donations as a gift is so much better. i am particularly worried about younger idols cause it feels nice to receive expensive gifts in the beginning and they will probably use them, but will these fans request something in return like attention, or will they feel entitled to be more invasive in their private life (i don't know much about sasaengs, so i don't know if there's a correlation) as for rich idols, it's just a waste of money, cause they probably already have them, it's not their taste, they already have too many things etc etc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bb4 25,058 Posted December 30, 2015 Share Posted December 30, 2015 ikr. they can't really complain when fansite close down as soon their relationship is revelaed. i appreciated a lot jackson talking about the dating ban and his desire to go back to his ex i am particularly worried about younger idols cause it feels nice to receive expensive gifts in the beginning and they will probably use them, but will these fans request something in return like attention, or will they feel entitled to be more invasive in their private life (i don't know much about sasaengs, so i don't know if there's a correlation) as for rich idols, it's just a waste of money, cause they probably already have them, it's not their taste, they already have too many things etc etc http://www.allkpop.com/article/2015/07/former-yg-trainee-and-now-cube-trainee-yang-hong-seok-apologizes-and-explains-the-private-sns-posts-fans-dug-up Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lipslocked 3,780 Posted December 30, 2015 Share Posted December 30, 2015 Yes, I do agree that sometimes idols might say things that is over the line. Hyukjae had addressed his fans as 'lao po' aka 'wife' several times at different countries but I'm sure most didn't take it seriously because everyone was busy shouting Lee Donghae, lol (unless there were some who think otherwise) Well, that actually happened to Sungmin & his wife (some fans went on her insta and posted nasty things) and honestly speaking, there is nothing wrong proclaiming your love on insta. However, there would be some fans who well, are still in their own world and not facing the reality. It's frustrating but there is nothing we can really do. Oh yes, expensive gifts. Fans often want their oppas to know that they love them a lot by giving them extravagant gifts. Its really not necessary because honestly, oppas have the money to purchase it themselves. However, fans tend to think otherwise and often spoil them with gifts. If it's some kind of group contribution, I wouldn't say that it's bad because at least each member of the group contributed a certain amount of money. If its individual, I admit that it's kind of burdensome for the receiver because other fans might think that you like that certain person (aka favoritism) over the rest of the fans, which is not the case but it is tend to be misunderstood. Not using them would be a problem because that particular fan would think that he/she doesn't like or appreciate it but perhaps, the idol could thank that person and probably advise the fan to donate to a local charity next time rather than spending lavish gifts on him/her. I think this way, fans would understand the intentions of the idol better and would donate or do a good deed instead. Okay, this is long. Sorry about that, haha. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
holywater hyung 5,718 Posted December 30, 2015 Share Posted December 30, 2015 I'm still okay with Idol saying "i love you *insert fandom name here*" but when it comes to stuffs like saying that we are his girlfriend or something like that i can't help but feeling weird because i know it's not and let's just be real, it won't come true in the future. Even if i ever have the chance to have a relationship with my bias i'd rather be their friends, it's more long lasting than being a couple. It's understandable tho when fans spend a lot of money on fanmeets, idol's birthday gift etc. I understand the needs to be recognised by our bias (heck, i want Dongwoo to recognize me too lol). For me i stan my bias group for their music and performance so i mostly spend my money on albums/concerts, stuffs like photobooks, season greetings etc are super tempting but that's not what i'm here for. In the end it's all about moderation, if you have the financial power then go ahead do it, if you don't, don't force it. Don't forget we still have our life out there beside fangirling on our bias, we still have our loved ones who are closer than your bias are that need to be cared too. Personally i just think of my bias as my motivation, if they're working hard for their works then i have to work hard too so i could stan them proudly as a fan. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boonon_otl_rap 284 Posted December 30, 2015 Share Posted December 30, 2015 i agree with the fans are my girlfriends it feeds a disgusting fantasy not to mention some ppl take it waaaaay to far...like till pluto Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
8ternity 302 Posted December 30, 2015 Share Posted December 30, 2015 Yes, indeed. I roll my eyes each time baby says things like this. And true enough, some fans didn't take it very well when he tweeted this in response to Eli's marriage. Though for me, I'm proud that he's finally speaking like a human rather than an idol lolol~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hiraishrimp 5,413 Posted December 30, 2015 Share Posted December 30, 2015 it's just feeding their delusions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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