Whiteknight 142 Posted December 26, 2015 Share Posted December 26, 2015 Topics such as in managing finances and whether to bring in children or not. I think the ideal time is after the first date, when the relationship gets kind of serious. When do you think these values should be discussed? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
♥SNS-Shinomiya♥ 420 Posted December 26, 2015 Share Posted December 26, 2015 I think maybe 6 months in the relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
양 지 10,015 Posted December 26, 2015 Share Posted December 26, 2015 When u say the big three words? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VodkaPepsi 354 Posted December 26, 2015 Share Posted December 26, 2015 When you are engaged Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Little Eight 6,542 Posted December 26, 2015 Share Posted December 26, 2015 Who gets serious after the first date? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Serenee 3,730 Posted December 26, 2015 Share Posted December 26, 2015 Serious finances and children talks? Maybe after marriage or at least start to live together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trixbox 2,982 Posted December 26, 2015 Share Posted December 26, 2015 Try to live together first, you will be talking about it every single day to the point that you will actually hate to hear that topic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted December 26, 2015 Share Posted December 26, 2015 After the first date is a bit... too early in my opinion. Couple of months is usually a good idea, that's if you're looking to get married. Then again, if you look into arranged marriages, usually discuss these things on the "first date or meeting" too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hyun. 4,120 Posted December 26, 2015 Share Posted December 26, 2015 Whenever you know that person is someone you're going to be a long time with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sunny_ 1,308 Posted December 26, 2015 Share Posted December 26, 2015 Definitely not right after the first date or during it. Instant turn off. Once it actually gets serious and I can see us having a future. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wiaraewiwiarae 6,637 Posted December 26, 2015 Share Posted December 26, 2015 Doesn't it just come up naturally somewhere along the way? Children as well as working/not working are life goals, not relationship goals, so that can be discussed somewhat early. Ususally people who firmly don't want children at all will state that early to not waste their time. Financial issues other that working/not working depend more on situation, so I'd say it's good to discuss that before engagement/moving in. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A Boy Like Troy 3,333 Posted December 26, 2015 Share Posted December 26, 2015 Stuff like that is typically discussed in the beginning lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whiteknight 142 Posted December 26, 2015 Author Share Posted December 26, 2015 Definitely not right after the first date or during it. Instant turn off. Once it actually gets serious and I can see us having a future. But once it get serious is like when usually? If you were to give an estimation? I feel like it would be bad to talk about those stuff later on, because disagreement on those values can pretty much break a relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sunny_ 1,308 Posted December 26, 2015 Share Posted December 26, 2015 But once it get serious is like when usually? If you were to give an estimation? I feel like it would be bad to talk about those stuff later on, because disagreement on those values can pretty much break a relationship. 6 months, maybe a year? Money would probably come up when we move in together, so maybe a year or so? Children would probably come up naturally at some point. I'm in my 20s and still trying to find out what I like and don't like in a relationship and I don't expect most of my relationships to get that serious yet so I don't really think of these things. And if it does get serious and we disagree on something, we would figure something out, that's part of being in a relationship. And if we can't agree on something, break up I guess. But if you feel like you need to talk about those things, you should, at any point you feel is right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted December 26, 2015 Share Posted December 26, 2015 But once it get serious is like when usually? If you were to give an estimation? I feel like it would be bad to talk about those stuff later on, because disagreement on those values can pretty much break a relationship. When it gets serious...personally I would say longer than a year. If its not serious, it wouldn't really last that long. You would also have to consider what your partner is like too. Hmm you make a good point, disagreements later on especially on children can break up a relationship. I guess it depends a lot, on what you want out of the relationship. If you're looking for a long term relationship, and you know they are too, then I suppose you could bring it up generally. For example, where they see themselves in 5-10 years? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chocolate Cake 193 Posted December 26, 2015 Share Posted December 26, 2015 Not on the first date lol. Definitely before getting engaged though. If you and your partner are planning on getting married but want different things in life, things are gonna end in heaps of heartbreak. I think the best time to talk about it is when you move in together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daok 1,978 Posted December 26, 2015 Share Posted December 26, 2015 discussing that after the first date doesn't seem like a good idea to me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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