darkishreality 227 Posted December 25, 2015 Share Posted December 25, 2015 so .... i have a crush on a guy intern at work. Yay Problem is though, i only realised it on my last week of work. And I'm 17 while he's 24. We never really communicated with each other via text messages since there wasn't a need to and we see each other at work almost everyday. Besides, i never really ask him for help since I would usually look for other interns first before looking for him. As i wanted to continue talking to him after i left the workplace permanently, i had to look for reasons to chat him up. I finally settled on the farewell session we had for me on my last day. We talked to each other for about 2 days before he stopped replying to my messages. He has told me he's busy with his uni projects and all but like, are you that busy to the point where you would check your whatsapp messages several times a day (based on his last seen) and not reply to it? I wished you a merry christmas and as a friend, shouldn't you at least say a thankyou back? I'm trying my best to forget him and it's just so difficult. I faced the same situation back in May with a different guy (he's 24 as well) and it's just so painful. The different thing was that for that May guy, I had work to distract me so it was okay. For this guy however, i had close to zero distractions since my contract at this workplace has ended and i chose not to extend it since i disliked the bosses there. I'm really curious as to why he's behaving like this. Is he really that busy? Or is he simply ignoring my messages? tl:dr had a crush on a 24 year old guy, hasn't texted me back for like days as he claimed he's busy with his projects despite his last seen on whatsapp saying otherwise, tried to forget him but it's so difficult I know we are incompatible even without the age difference. He's a uni student with a bright future whereas I'm a school dropout with a hella bleak future and he's at the age where he should be getting married. I've been using these reasons to help me to forget about him but it doesn't seem to be working ... i need to stop having irl crushes it sucks thank you for taking your time to read this rambling mess i needed somewhere to vent. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MyCookiessNicerThanYours 229 Posted December 25, 2015 Share Posted December 25, 2015 how often did u talk to him for the 2 days before he stopped replying to your messages? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lolopeepeefafa 117 Posted December 25, 2015 Share Posted December 25, 2015 :o Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovingu2 1,959 Posted December 25, 2015 Share Posted December 25, 2015 oh i feel you so much i'm 18 and i have a crush on a 24 year old guy as well..........it's has been ages my family knows his family so since i was a baby i've known him i guess he sees me like a sibling or a cousin or something but then there are all these moments when i catch him looking at me and when i catch him he doesn't even look away (it sounds creepy but it's not lmao) he sometimes is EXTREMELY nice to me and he isn't like that with the other girls around us it just confuses me so much i can't get over him ugh and yeah he is also in the age to be married..... i'm honestly jealous of anyone that gets to be so close to him and whenever i hear he's coming over i just freak out and it's like someone told me i'm going to have a puppy lmao in other words: EXTREMELY happy!! ugh it hurts knowing nothing will ever happen edit: i forgot to talk about your situation LMFAO tbh i sometimes get too busy to read other texts in whatsapp he may not be lying he may be actually busy college is a bitch and i'm only in my first semester and it's like hell also, i don't want to make you upset but maybe he noticed you kinda like him and he didn't so he thought it's better to push himself away? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catlixle 4,066 Posted December 25, 2015 Share Posted December 25, 2015 i think you should show an action that you cares about him, maybe bring him a lunch or something similar like that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
darkishreality 227 Posted December 25, 2015 Author Share Posted December 25, 2015 how often did u talk to him for the 2 days before he stopped replying to your messages? Late night and afternoon oh i feel you so much i'm 18 and i have a crush on a 24 year old guy as well..........it's has been ages my family knows his family so since i was a baby i've known him i guess he sees me like a sibling or a cousin or something but then there are all these moments when i catch him looking at me and when i catch him he doesn't even look away (it sounds creepy but it's not lmao) he sometimes is EXTREMELY nice to me and he isn't like that with the other girls around us it just confuses me so much i can't get over him ugh and yeah he is also in the age to be married..... i'm honestly jealous of anyone that gets to be so close to him and whenever i hear he's coming over i just freak out and it's like someone told me i'm going to have a puppy lmao in other words: EXTREMELY happy!! ugh it hurts knowing nothing will ever happen family friend??? damn that's v sweet ;;; Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovingu2 1,959 Posted December 25, 2015 Share Posted December 25, 2015 Late night and afternoon family friend??? damn that's v sweet ;;; it's not at all you don't know whether he likes you or he's treating you like a sibling :( btw i edited my post Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MyCookiessNicerThanYours 229 Posted December 25, 2015 Share Posted December 25, 2015 Late night and afternoon the reason i ask is because i have a male friend that is really kind and theres this girl that keep texting him but since he is so kind he just keep on texting her back since he do not want to be rude and ignore her text, he just keep on texting back and the girl thought that he is interested in her but he isnt. but i guess for you that is not the case Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
darkishreality 227 Posted December 25, 2015 Author Share Posted December 25, 2015 edit: i forgot to talk about your situation LMFAO tbh i sometimes get too busy to read other texts in whatsapp he may not be lying he may be actually busy college is a bitch and i'm only in my first semester and it's like hell also, i don't want to make you upset but maybe he noticed you kinda like him and he didn't so he thought it's better to push himself away? It's okay! hahah i think the same too but after 2 or 3 days ... really? is he that busy? then again he's always burning midnight oil for his projects and stuff I thought about that too, but then when i told the girl intern who's always with him she's like 'he's too dense to realise stuff like that so it's okay' it's not at all you don't know whether he likes you or he's treating you like a sibling :( btw i edited my post oh yeah.. right ]]: /patpat a and yup i saw it! i think you should show an action that you cares about him, maybe bring him a lunch or something similar like that? i suck at cooking lol and people are gonna suspect ... which i really want to avoid Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
darkishreality 227 Posted December 25, 2015 Author Share Posted December 25, 2015 the reason i ask is because i have a male friend that is really kind and theres this girl that keep texting him but since he is so kind he just keep on texting her back since he do not want to be rude and ignore her text, he just keep on texting back and the girl thought that he is interested in her but he isnt. but i guess for you that is not the case that just sucks, and im here wondering if i had texted him too excessively Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
♡SEOLO♡ 2,773 Posted December 25, 2015 Share Posted December 25, 2015 you're very young, don't say things like that! you will have a bright future if you want so and work for it, also, school isn't everything and if you really really like him i think maybe tell him? and see how he responds, it is better than not saying anything and liking him for years and then the dude gets married (it happened to me ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
darkishreality 227 Posted December 25, 2015 Author Share Posted December 25, 2015 you're very young, don't say things like that! you will have a bright future if you want so and work for it, also, school isn't everything and if you really really like him i think maybe tell him? and see how he responds, it is better than not saying anything and liking him for years and then the dude gets married (it happened to me ) i know school isn't everything, and the government here tries to make it clear that it isn't, but in workplaces .... it shows. if i text him that i feel like he's not going to read it ... I'm hoping these feelings will go away soon because it only got intense right after i realised I won't be able to see him everyday again.. oh man that sucks I'm so sorry for you. I hope you are able to find someone someday <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Haunted 5,365 Posted December 25, 2015 Share Posted December 25, 2015 No 24 year old is looking to date a 17 year old. It's best to move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluesclues 5,048 Posted December 25, 2015 Share Posted December 25, 2015 Some people just aren't as interested as we hope they are. You are definitely not below his "level" so please rid yourself of that thought. However, University is very difficult and you'd be surprised at how often you can read a text out of habit and then completely forget to respond. Now I'm not saying that is definitely the case here but it is a possibility seeing as he's a student + working and who knows what else is going on in his life. Aside from that, you are still a minor (even if it's by a few months maybe) while he's been passed that stage in his life. Crushing on him and being "friends" is fine and all but that's bordering a crime if you expect him to reciprocate your feelings. Hell, he may be into older girls or guys even. What do you really know about him? Don't personalize it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xiaodery 2,194 Posted December 25, 2015 Share Posted December 25, 2015 I feel you. I'm 16 and I have a crush on a 21 year old. I've been talking to him for two years, but I've only started developing feelings for him about 6 months ago. During the summer, we used to talk a lot, and now that he's back in school, we talk a lot less and lately he's even been ignoring my messages. Like he would be online but not respond. I'm currently trying to get over him, because I know that at his age, he wouldn't be interested in someone as young as me. So the only advice I can give you right now is to do the same. It was harder at first, but now I'm getting better. Especially after finding out that he's not really the person I was making him out to be in my mind. Maybe it would help if you tried finding some flaws of his that you just can't forgive or ignore. I know it helped me; before that I didn't even REALLY want to get over him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
darkishreality 227 Posted December 25, 2015 Author Share Posted December 25, 2015 No 24 year old is looking to date a 17 year old. It's best to move on. I know that actually. Do you have any tips on how to move on quickly? Some people just aren't as interested as we hope they are. You are definitely not below his "level" so please rid yourself of that thought. However, University is very difficult and you'd be surprised at how often you can read a text out of habit and then completely forget to respond. Now I'm not saying that is definitely the case here but it is a possibility seeing as he's a student + working and who knows what else is going on in his life. Aside from that, you are still a minor (even if it's by a few months maybe) while he's been passed that stage in his life. Crushing on him and being "friends" is fine and all but that's bordering a crime if you expect him to reciprocate your feelings. Hell, he may be into older girls or guys even. What do you really know about him? Don't personalize it. I already understood the risks involved if i expected the feelings to be reciprocated which is why i'm trying my best to forget him. I know this can only be a one-sided crush since, like what you have stated, he has passed that stage in his life. He seems to know more about me than I do about him because back then when i didn't have feelings for him yet I turned a deaf year to him and his stories since most of the stuff he talked was about work. I feel you. I'm 16 and I have a crush on a 21 year old. I've been talking to him for two years, but I've only started developing feelings for him about 6 months ago. During the summer, we used to talk a lot, and now that he's back in school, we talk a lot less and lately he's even been ignoring my messages. Like he would be online but not respond. I'm currently trying to get over him, because I know that at his age, he wouldn't be interested in someone as young as me. So the only advice I can give you right now is to do the same. It was harder at first, but now I'm getting better. Especially after finding out that he's not really the person I was making him out to be in my mind. Maybe it would help if you tried finding some flaws of his that you just can't forgive or ignore. I know it helped me; before that I didn't even REALLY want to get over him. friend I tried to do this too, listing his flaws and all in my head but like, it's been a couple of weeks and the feelings are still there.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xiaodery 2,194 Posted December 25, 2015 Share Posted December 25, 2015 friend I tried to do this too, listing his flaws and all in my head but like, it's been a couple of weeks and the feelings are still there.. Well you know I've been trying to seriously get over this guy for over a month now. Keep yourself busy, make new friends, watch TV shows. You could even delete his number if it really weighs on your mind and make sure you have no way of contacting him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
awolfska 950 Posted December 28, 2015 Share Posted December 28, 2015 he's not into you like that, sorry :( but doesn't wanna let you down hard or anything if you don't have enough distractions right now, find some! put your energies elsewhere and the rest will follow, with time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sylar 521 Posted December 29, 2015 Share Posted December 29, 2015 maybe he does not like you, who knows ask him to find out, don't be shy, dare to be wild also, he 24? why the heck should he be getting married at that age? its not like he is 44 but maybe thats just me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil 139 Posted December 29, 2015 Share Posted December 29, 2015 well try to not be to pressuring on him and also make sure you are legal if you ever advance to that level you know? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
darkishreality 227 Posted January 1, 2016 Author Share Posted January 1, 2016 he's not into you like that, sorry :( but doesn't wanna let you down hard or anything if you don't have enough distractions right now, find some! put your energies elsewhere and the rest will follow, with time. I know that hahah I'm just in the midst of trying to get over it I'm gonna find something to do ~ thank you! maybe he does not like you, who knows ask him to find out, don't be shy, dare to be wild also, he 24? why the heck should he be getting married at that age? its not like he is 44 but maybe thats just me LOL he definitely doesn't and I still have a this feeling that he sees me as a kid even though he said otherwise idk the guys in my country tend to settle down in their late-twenties so yeah... well try to not be to pressuring on him and also make sure you are legal if you ever advance to that level you know? I doubt I'll be advancing to that level HAHAH I've turned legal last year so no worries ~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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