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Marirranya

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Just curious. Since there are a lot of factors that can break or make you and your partner. There's cheating, there's problem about money, and so on. Unlike before, during the days of our grandpa and grandma, there's less of these things. What's your opinion?

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I feel like the same downsides you listed have been prevalent all along, no? Like cheating and money problems are not new issues....

 

Edit: OP, are you saying there are more problems now or less?

 

People were more dependent on their marriages/having a partner, especially women. It was socially desirable, and the concept of divorce was also far more taboo. The problems were still there, but were often fought through a lot more. Not "being in love anymore" would not be an excuse.

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Just curious. Since there are a lot of factors that can break or make you and your partner. There's cheating, there's problem about money, and so on. Unlike before, during the days of our grandpa and grandma, there's less of these things. What's your opinion?

Back in our grandparents days, divorce was much a societal taboo and especially one that initiated by the women themselves. I am referring those olden days prior to the Womens' charter in Singapore(peek at your location op).:)

 

Cheating and money issues existed all along, just that women of those days probably closed one eye and look the other way for their children sake as back then the men were the sole breadwinners of the household. Plus education for girls were not a common thing as the old fashioned way of thinking was that in the end the girls would be married off to bear a son for her mother in law and future husband as well go inside the kitchen. Misogynistic. I know. But it is what it is back then.

 

I am just conveying what my late maternal grandmother experienced as a twice divorcee. She was a fiesty dame who chain smoked and do not tolerate infidelity. :D

 

Aside from societal taboos, there are certain things that an unwedded woman cannot receive or do in Singapore. I can only comment on women based on what I observed and have girlfriends who are in such situations. For unwedded new mothers, the healthcare subsidies were not given to those women who gave birth without a marriage certificate. Sucks. I know. The hospital bills would be huge. Enrolling your child into childcare would be another obstacles without that marriage certificate. But since the recent election, the governing party promised to do better and extend more financial assistance to unwedded mothers. That is at the very least a small step in a positive direction.

 

Another scenario would be two cohabiting partners who bore offspring out of that living arrangement. Should the male partner walk out of family, can the woman take him to family court in hope of seeking child support? It kind of suck that the institution of marriage is sanctioned and regulated by the state. But it is what it is. Laws were placed to protect the weaker sex aka women and children.

 

Edit: tl;Dr...to answer op...yes it is practical to get married. Financially. At least in Singapore.

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yes - you get tax breaks and it is easier to enforce your rights (and that of your children - if you have any) if you do get divorced. 

 

 

 


Another scenario would be two cohabiting partners who bore offspring out of that living arrangement. Should the male partner walk out of family, can the woman take him to family court in hope of seeking child support? It kind of suck that the institution of marriage is sanctioned and regulated by the state. But it is what it is. Laws were placed to protect the weaker sex aka women and children.
 

 

 

women are not the weaker sex. 

 

 

also, in response to the question about a child born to an unmarried couple, the court has the power to order the alleged father to take a paternity test. if the child is proven to be his, he has to support it. if it's not, he's off the hook. 

 

 

if the father refuses to take the test, the court will construe the refusal against him aka he's refusing because he's got something to hide. 

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I've always thought that marriage is more than just love but also dedication and dependence. although i would like to marry someone i love, i think being friends with your significant other would be more important if you're going to live together for a long time and possibly have kids. and i don't think i would be one to break off a marriage simply because "I'm not in love anymore". that being said i think it's practical to get married at least for me because i would like to have kids and if you had someone to share responsibilities with and be your companion, it'd be great

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Personally, I'm not much of a marriage person. I can't really see myself getting married in the future. maybe it's just my relationships thus far and haven't met right sort of people but I feel like no one I've been with is even near it. Wel, that's fine, I'm only 18 but a lot of people have met their wife/husband at my age or before...the frequency it lasts, thats a different thing. But yeah my relationships don't really last because I get tired of people real easily ahah. I'm open to it in the future, but It's not something I look forward to or am definitely doing.

 

 

 

I guess you could say it's practical, though. It's why it's important and special that places like U.S. have [recently] legalized gay marriage [nationwide]. Because before the legalization, there was civil union or domestic partnership, you could say 'is it that much of a deal' -- you know besides being with the one you love and have those marriage papers, you could still do that w/o 'marriage' per se through partnership and just not breaking up, yes? but thing is, domestic partnership/civil union doesn't offer same benefits as marriage, it's no where close really.

 

 

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Another scenario would be two cohabiting partners who bore offspring out of that living arrangement. Should the male partner walk out of family, can the woman take him to family court in hope of seeking child support? It kind of suck that the institution of marriage is sanctioned and regulated by the state. But it is what it is. Laws were placed to protect the weaker sex aka women and children.

 

Edit: tl;Dr...to answer op...yes it is practical to get married. Financially. At least in Singapore.

Well as a child born out of wedlock, from separated parents, yes the mother can take the father to court for child support (or the other way around, depending on who kept the child)

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There have always been issues when getting married, is just that people is more cynical about it nowadays. And like before I believe the benefit you get from marrying would be social status it confers. I could vary depending on the state legislation but it often grants a series of benefits and rights, and obligations as well.

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