fuckJohnny 14,775 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 As in if someone is stupid you are more likely to remember that someone calling you smart. At least that's how it is for me. If someone compliments I'm happy for like a day but if someone says something bad about me I remember it forever ._. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JessicaRabbit 6,569 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 Because humans are sensitive and insecure. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shik 2,607 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 Because emotions get to us every time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fuckJohnny 14,775 Posted October 7, 2013 Author Share Posted October 7, 2013 Because humans are sensitive and insecure. Yeah but like a compliment should gives us confidence but it doesn't really while an insult destroys self confidence really easily :/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elisa 1,353 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 Totally know what you're talking about Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
酒� 1,769 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 because its negative. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dinolover 3,610 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 LOL that's just you... I dont think you know how to sort out criticism and hatred. edited -------------------- since some of you are butthurt and negging me im not debating whether or not it's negative ... im talking about it's effect if it's hatred obviously it shouldnt be taken to heart and critcism is really only subjective so... i always thought negative opinions didnt matter and negative opinions really only exist in 2 FORMS so.... calm down Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whiteasian 732 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 probably because most people have relatively low self esteem so we find it easier to believe that we are bad than that we are good but i also think that the idea we are inadequate is engorged by unrealistic goals and pressure from people like family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tokki the Awkward Potato 5,878 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 Because we see the bad in things which overcomes the good. Someone calls you pretty yet says your nose is big, then you don't remember them saying your pretty but remember the nose part. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ashelin 2,418 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 I hate it when I'm minding my own business and a bad memory of somebody saying something mean to me pops up. Why do our brains do that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JessicaRabbit 6,569 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 Yeah but like a compliment should gives us confidence but it doesn't really while an insult destroys self confidence really easily :/ [Personally I believe that it all] Depends on whose complimenting you and on what. For example, If a Black girl told a White girl she liked her hair, no biggie. But if it was vice versa, it'd be like "!? OMG, really?" cause it's not something that's said very often. Pretty sure the Black girl would remember the compliment more than the White Girl would've. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YOONGI 6,021 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 probably because most people have relatively low self esteem so we find it easier to believe that we are bad than that we are good Basically this. I have a hard time accepting compliments/don't quite believe it when people give me compliments so I just kind of brush them off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fuckJohnny 14,775 Posted October 7, 2013 Author Share Posted October 7, 2013 Someone calls you pretty yet says your nose is big, then you don't remember them saying your pretty but remember the nose part. Me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NickyGolightly 5,970 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 Because we love drama more than everything being peaceful Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mglsts 960 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 People often react more to negative stimuli than positive ones, especially if the person already has a negative type personality. You should watch this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oZPxEts0UMs It's also easier to destroy than it is to build, namely one's self-esteem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kpopalypse 618 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 Actually I don't remember what people say to or about me, no matter what it is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Girls'Generation 88 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 i don't really give a fuck either way (positive or negative opinions). i choose to live my life the way i want, not giving 2 shits what anyone else has to say. it's fun tbh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Green Teaa 910 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 probably because most people have relatively low self esteem so we find it easier to believe that we are bad than that we are good but i also think that the idea we are inadequate is engorged by unrealistic goals and pressure from people like family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss.Miss 8,896 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 I usually forget by the end of the day but I guess it's for the same reason that bad or tragic news has always more impact than good news. It's a shock big or small that leaves us with negative feelings and we hold on to them until we can figure out how to deal with it, and how long that takes depends on the person and their personality. When it's good things there is no effort you need to put into it as there is nothing to sort out so we let go of it easily but again it depends on the person and the situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ameton the witch 94 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 well because human still care and insecure but if you can ignore it that good Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IceHism 536 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 the way i see it, it's more like a motive sort of thing. When people want to get close to someone to use them, they'll say nice stuff and act friendly and then stab them in the back later. However, if someone says something negative to someone, there's no question to the motive of the other person. They don't like you. Positive comments can be double-edged. negatives can't. So i assume more people are cautious about the good Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
____shawnee 4,118 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 LOL that's just you... I dont think you know how to sort out criticism and hatred. Regardless of if it's criticism or hatred, it's still negative. Are you high when you read? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starlight 1,108 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 Mm, I actually remember compliments more that negative opinions that are outright insults. Like, the people who say my eyes, voice, or hair is pretty are thought of more than the ones who say I'm ugly or such. I mean my looks come from my genes, from my family, it's not something to get hurt about. It's just part of who you are. I am bothered when someone just insults and verbally attacks someone though. A negative/honest/blunt opinion and actual criticism/advice to go along with it is something that I like, but being cruel and unhelpful is a bit much for me. I also don't like when someone starts a senseless argument over differing opinions. A discussion or debate is fine, but an argument where they plug their ears and scream at others in hostility is just a waste of time. To sum it up I like negative opinions as long as someone doesn't take it to an insane extreme. I mean if everything agreed on everything then that would be boring~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dinolover 3,610 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 Regardless of if it's criticism or hatred, it's still negative. Are you high when you read? im not debating whether or not it's negative ... im talking about it's effect if it's hatred obviously it shouldnt be taken to heart and critcism is really only subjective so... no negative opinions shouldnt affect us more and i think it's pretty stupid to assume that it always does. Are you high when you read? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
____shawnee 4,118 Posted October 7, 2013 Share Posted October 7, 2013 im not debating whether or not it's negative ... im talking about it's effect if it's hatred obviously it shouldnt be taken to heart and critcism is really only subjective so... no negative opinions shouldnt affect us more and i think it's pretty stupid to assume that it always does. Are you high when you read? yes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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