KaniPi 2,626 Posted December 5, 2015 Share Posted December 5, 2015 I was wondering if people have any friends, who don't ever speak to you on the phone and very rarely texts you but always want to meet up whenever its someone's birthday or Christmas? Its always a little awkward whenever we meet up, because its like you're speaking to strangers... I have had thoughts about whether I should decline meeting up with them, but we've been friends for quite a long time, but I never really felt close to them at all, if that makes sense. We don't have deep conversations about anything, ever. Also, they're really picky when it comes to choosing where to go, so its really difficult for me. I'm not sure what to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anthropology 969 Posted December 5, 2015 Share Posted December 5, 2015 I have a childhood friend that I've known since I was four. We went to different schools, even college. The last time I saw her was last Christmas, and we talked as if we've been hanging out in the same area. We don't feel awkward with each other because she's very sociable and can make people feel comfortable around her. I'm also friends with her brother, but whenever we see each other we usually talk about school. Yes, it does depend on the person and their personality. I'm exactly sure on what you should do, but if it's not working out as it used to then sometimes you need to cut ties with them. I'm sorry, I don't know what to say. Maybe try starting asking questions and then go from there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Channie Tatum 3,017 Posted December 5, 2015 Share Posted December 5, 2015 I instantly thought of fuck buddies, but no I don't have fuck buddies Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ddeona Oneul Bame 61,625 Posted December 5, 2015 Share Posted December 5, 2015 Most of my friends I only see on special occasions because we don't live by each other or go to the same school anymore, so we usually meet up for Christmas or Thanksgiving~ Your situation seems like one I have sometimes; I kinda have friend who always says she wants to do something, but never wants to get up and do it when I'm around~ For you, though, it seems like you may not be very close with them anyway~ So I mean, maybe you should just tell them you don't wanna go or if you want to try to get closer to them, it would be a good chance~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mango-seed-butter-batter 969 Posted December 5, 2015 Share Posted December 5, 2015 Hs friends Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted December 6, 2015 Author Share Posted December 6, 2015 I have a childhood friend that I've known since I was four. We went to different schools, even college. The last time I saw her was last Christmas, and we talked as if we've been hanging out in the same area. We don't feel awkward with each other because she's very sociable and can make people feel comfortable around her. I'm also friends with her brother, but whenever we see each other we usually talk about school. Yes, it does depend on the person and their personality. I'm exactly sure on what you should do, but if it's not working out as it used to then sometimes you need to cut ties with them. I'm sorry, I don't know what to say. Maybe try starting asking questions and then go from there. I'm not exactly sure, but if they wanted to meet up with me, I suppose they do care. Maybe I was just thinking whether I should bring this up at some point, but I just feel quite awkward. We could be much more closer, and I have tried but when things settle then we don't contact each other for ages. I guess I want to be like close friends with them since we always seem to meet up for special occasions. Thanks for the advice anyway. Most of my friends I only see on special occasions because we don't live by each other or go to the same school anymore, so we usually meet up for Christmas or Thanksgiving~ Your situation seems like one I have sometimes; I kinda have friend who always says she wants to do something, but never wants to get up and do it when I'm around~ For you, though, it seems like you may not be very close with them anyway~ So I mean, maybe you should just tell them you don't wanna go or if you want to try to get closer to them, it would be a good chance~ I have kind of tried to become close to them in the past, but we never really seem to get as close...I have known them since school days, but I don't know anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nev Schulman 7,940 Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 Nope I never meet up with friends Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
t.u 5,109 Posted December 8, 2015 Share Posted December 8, 2015 I meet up with my close friends from high school mostly on special occasions because we go to different universities and our schedules clash. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Your Bae 3,001 Posted December 13, 2015 Share Posted December 13, 2015 I have a friend that lives in New York and we only get to text each other once every few weeks? We only meet about 1-2 times a year as well. But last time I visited her, we talked like I would to all my other close friends back at school. We're still really close now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil 139 Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 I don't invite them to "special occasions" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smiIey 879 Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 Yes, low maintenance friends who understand you don't need to talk everyday are the best because you guys are still really close but have your own lives. I have this with my old middle school friends and my cousins and we are as close as ever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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