The Official Relationship Advice Thread

[Kpopalypse]

I think I would like someone's opinion on this but it'll probably be too long and I'm not very good at explaining things.

 

I fear no tl;dr.  Try me.  I can always ask for clarification if it's too confusing.

[mirrorpurple ���ムラサキ]

me have a crush...

she's 1 year younger than me but 1 cm taller than me

she asked for my number, but she wouldnt give me hers....

we can click very well...

we can talk the whole day with no problems...

worked with her for 8 days already... liked her after working with her for 3 days

but after talking to her, me think she just wanna be friends...

 

so what should me do, pursue her or forget about her?

[Kpopalypse]

me have a crush...

she's 1 year younger than me but 1 cm taller than me

she asked for my number, but she wouldnt give me hers....

we can click very well...

we can talk the whole day with no problems...

worked with her for 8 days already... liked her after working with her for 3 days

but after talking to her, me think she just wanna be friends...

 

so what should me do, pursue her or forget about her?

 

You never know if you never go.

 

Having said that I avoid workplace relationships.  Don't shit where you eat, as they say.  I'd only consider pursuing this relationship if you know that either her or you are not going to be staying for long as co-workers.

[mirrorpurple ���ムラサキ]

You never know if you never go.

 

Having said that I avoid workplace relationships. Don't shit where you eat, as they say. I'd only consider pursuing this relationship if you know that either her or you are not going to be staying for long as co-workers.

ikr.... me too also dun believe in workplace romance....

me will talk to her for one more day, if she keeps going defensive, imma stop pursue her...

[Kpopalypse]

ikr.... me too also dun believe in workplace romance....

me will talk to her for one more day, if she keeps going defensive, imma stop pursue her...

 

There is nothing worse than having a romance with a co-worker (or an attempted romance) and then it goes sour - yet you still have to see each other every day because you work together.  Co-workers can be cute but there are also cute girls out there in other places that you don't have to spend heaps of time with even if things go bad.

[mirrorpurple ���ムラサキ]

There is nothing worse than having a romance with a co-worker (or an attempted romance) and then it goes sour - yet you still have to see each other every day because you work together. Co-workers can be cute but there are also cute girls out there in other places that you don't have to spend heaps of time with even if things go bad.

yeah... me get that feeling rn... my ex-crush...

[TaeYuSu]

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Edited October 26, 2013 by TaeYuSu

[fabiola]

is this thread dead? i sorta need advise or 2nd/3rd opinion 

[Kpopalypse]

is this thread dead? i sorta need advise or 2nd/3rd opinion 

 

I follow it.  I'll reply even if no-one else will.

[fabiola]

I follow it.  I'll reply even if no-one else will.

oh yay \o/ haha

 

So i dated this guy from when i was 13 until almost 19 & he just contacted me after 4 years of not talking to each other. He’s been really flirty and bringing back old memories (we were pretty crazy kids) & we’re supposed hang out in 2 weeks. 

At first i was really excited & curious but now..Not sure if it’s my period that’s playing with my emotions lol but i just started feeling really crappy bc i remembered that right after we broke up he started dating another girl & that lasted 4 years! >:( While i had couple too many casual relationships that only lasted no more than 6 months (he doesn’t know this) So I’m pretty much jealous that he was able to fall in love again & i didn’t -__- 

 

I know he’s hoping that we can make up & i didn’t have a problem with it…but now that I’m feeling kinda shitty & jealous, i don’t think it would be a good idea. BUT if we don’t make up I’m gonna be wondering “WHAT IF WE HAD†for the rest of my life -___-; 

[Kpopalypse]

oh yay \o/ haha

 

So i dated this guy from when i was 13 until almost 19 & he just contacted me after 4 years of not talking to each other. He’s been really flirty and bringing back old memories (we were pretty crazy kids) & we’re supposed hang out in 2 weeks. 

At first i was really excited & curious but now..Not sure if it’s my period that’s playing with my emotions lol but i just started feeling really crappy bc i remembered that right after we broke up he started dating another girl & that lasted 4 years! >:( While i had couple too many casual relationships that only lasted no more than 6 months (he doesn’t know this) So I’m pretty much jealous that he was able to fall in love again & i didn’t -__- 

 

I know he’s hoping that we can make up & i didn’t have a problem with it…but now that I’m feeling kinda shitty & jealous, i don’t think it would be a good idea. BUT if we don’t make up I’m gonna be wondering “WHAT IF WE HAD†for the rest of my life -___-; 

 

Just do the meeting and see how it goes.  Don't commit to anything major or that you're not 100% comfortable with.  Forget about the past, there's no point comparing, who knows maybe he wishes he had casual relationships like you, maybe his 4 years was 4 years of hell that made him realise how nice you were?  Surely there's a reason why they broke up.  In any event it's not any concern of yours, just like your casual relationships when you weren't together are no concern of his.  Just meet up, keep the mood nice and casual, don't grill him about his past relationships (he'll tell you anyway if he wants to), don't try to add any expectations to pressure the situation, and just see what happens.

Edited November 5, 2013 by Kpopalypse

[fabiola]

Just do the meeting and see how it goes.  Don't commit to anything major or that you're not 100% comfortable with.  Forget about the past, there's no point comparing, who knows maybe he wishes he had casual relationships like you, maybe his 4 years was 4 years of hell that made him realise how nice you were?  Surely there's a reason why they broke up.  In any event it's not any concern of yours, just like your casual relationships when you weren't together are no concern of his.  Just meet up, keep the mood nice and casual, don't grill him about his past relationships (he'll tell you anyway if he wants to), don't try to add any expectations to pressure the situation, and just see what happens.

I was not planning to tell him anything about the past bc it would only make me look pressed lol

But you're right, I really shouldn't care about his past relationships & go w the flow. No expectations.

Thanks!

[originalname4u]

I'd like to have someone's opinion on this little situation I have.

 

So the guy that I like poked me on Facebook, and it turns out that he posted a song to his timeline a minute earlier. Do you think he was addressing me with the song, or is it just totally random? He doesn't post on FB incredibly often (maybe once every few weeks).

 

Am I looking too much into this?

 

This is the song btw.

 

[Kpopalypse]

I'd like to have someone's opinion on this little situation I have.

 

So the guy that I like poked me on Facebook, and it turns out that he posted a song to his timeline a minute earlier. Do you think he was addressing me with the song, or is it just totally random? He doesn't post on FB incredibly often (maybe once every few weeks).

 

Am I looking too much into this?

 

This is the song btw.

 

 

Probably coincidence.  You should still ask him about why he put it there anyway though.  But make sure you ask in person.

 

He's given you a free conversation opener.  So, you know, motherfuckin' roll with that shit.

Edited November 7, 2013 by Kpopalypse

[JessicaRabbit]

[YIXINGISM]

My mother is doubting me. What should I do?

[Kpopalypse]

My mother is doubting me. What should I do?

 

Say "meh",  Nothing makes parents implode like apathy.

[TaeYuSu]

How to deal with irrational jealousy?

Edited March 12, 2014 by TaeYuSu

[Kpopalypse]

How to deal with irrational jealousy?

 

Find their girlfriend or boyfriend, start flirting with them.  Or if it is your girlfriend or boyfriend who is being jealous, start flirting with someone else.  If they're going to complain anyway, give 'em something to complain about.  Nothing trumps irrational jealousy like rational jealousy.

Edited March 13, 2014 by Kpopalypse

[A Boy Like Troy]

Find their girlfriend or boyfriend, start flirting with them. Or if it is your girlfriend or boyfriend who is being jealous, start flirting with someone else. If they're going to complain anyway, give 'em something to complain about. Nothing trumps irrational jealousy like rational jealousy.

That's going to cause more problems.

[Kpopalypse]

That's going to cause more problems.

 

Hey I'm not a fuckin relationship counsellor.  Ask for help on a k-pop forum, you gotta be grateful for whatever you can get.  All I know is that jealousy is lame and stupid if you want to have a miserable life, be jealous of everyone and everything and hey presto.

Edited March 15, 2014 by Kpopalypse