The Official Relationship Advice Thread

[Dandelion Wine]

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[phantøm]

the girl I have a crush on is ignoring me and there is this boy who keeps stalking me .

what should I do ?

[originalname4u]

the girl I have a crush on is ignoring me and there is this boy who keeps stalking me .

what should I do ?

 

How exactly is she ignoring you? Is she someone you used to talk to regularly?

 

There are many reasons why a girl might ignore someone (aside from her not liking the person).

 

Is it possible that she is shy? I'm very shy, and whenever I like someone I tend to ignore them and make it seem as though I don't like them. I also know of other girls that do the same thing. I'm not sure why we do this, though.

 

Does she know you have a crush on her?

[phantøm]

How exactly is she ignoring you? Is she someone you used to talk to regularly?

 

There are many reasons why a girl might ignore someone (aside from her not liking the person).

 

Is it possible that she is shy? I'm very shy, and whenever I like someone I tend to ignore them and make it seem as though I don't like them. I also know of other girls that do the same thing. I'm not sure why we do this, though.

 

Does she know you have a crush on her?

her name is Goo Hara . I tried following her on twitter and sending PM's but she does not reply to me .

stalking is no option. so what should I do ?

[Kpopalypse]

I'm the fuckin' relationship master.  I'll help everyone.

 

the girl I have a crush on is ignoring me and there is this boy who keeps stalking me .

what should I do ?

 

She obviously doesn't GAF so forget about her.  You haven't said what you think about the boy.

 

 

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Edited September 30, 2013 by sadface

[tippy]

i am tutoring someone two years my senior. he said he likes me and all that stuff. i mean, although i am just his tutor, i guess i see him more of a student than a guy i could be in a relationship. but he keeps on pestering me about it even though i said that i won't allow it. i can't quit the job because i need it.

 

lately though, i feel like i might give it a try but i don't want to ruin my 'reputation' i guess? you know, i don't want to be branded as the tutor who dates her student.isn't it just like a teacher dating her student? i don't know. seriously, i am hoping for the semester to end already.

[Dandelion Wine]

I'm the fuckin' relationship master.  I'll help everyone.

I'm holding you up to that title bro

 

I like this guy. I have not talked to him very much (just for little things). I'm pretty shy so I can't see myself going much farther than small talk. How do I...I don't know, get braver? Or, how do I drop hints, so maybe he can do something?

[phantøm]

I'm the fuckin' relationship master.  I'll help everyone.

 

 

She obviously doesn't GAF so forget about her.  You haven't said what you think about the boy.

 

 

If you're already in a relationship how can you be meeting her for the first time that makes no sense bro.

 

Just chillax and have fun.  Don't worry about stuff like how it's going to go or what base you're going to get to (protip: none on first date).  Girls like confidence and guys who are fun to be with so don't get all uptight about shit that doesn't matter.

but I really love her. and I liker her singing too

how can I get her attention ?

[Kpopalypse]

i am tutoring someone two years my senior. he said he likes me and all that stuff. i mean, although i am just his tutor, i guess i see him more of a student than a guy i could be in a relationship. but he keeps on pestering me about it even though i said that i won't allow it. i can't quit the job because i need it.

 

lately though, i feel like i might give it a try but i don't want to ruin my 'reputation' i guess? you know, i don't want to be branded as the tutor who dates her student.isn't it just like a teacher dating her student? i don't know. seriously, i am hoping for the semester to end already.

 

I wouldn't go there.  If you MUST I'd say "okay but then you get yourself another tutor".  I don't think it's worth it and it'll complicate your life.  There's a saying, "don't shit where you eat", it applies here.  Don't mix business and this sort of thing.  If he keeps being a prick about it I'd handball him to another tutor and exit him from your life completely - pushy guys are the worst, you can do better.

 

I'm holding you up to that title bro

 

I like this guy. I have not talked to him very much (just for little things). I'm pretty shy so I can't see myself going much farther than small talk. How do I...I don't know, get braver? Or, how do I drop hints, so maybe he can do something?

 

My advice has helped several people.  No guarantees it will help everyone but you never know.

 

Don't "drop hints" with guys.  Guys are herpaderp about "hints".  You want a guy to know something, you gotta be as straight-up as possible.  Think "female president" rather than "be ambitious".  Braveness is all confidence and confidence comes from liking yourself and not caring about what others think.  So work on yourself, and through that you'll get the confidence necessary to make moves.

 

but I really love her. and I liker her singing too

how can I get her attention ?

 

Start a boy band, release an album, get famous.  Celebs tend to only get it on with other celebs simply because in that crazy world they're the only people they can relate to (because they're all going through the same thing).  Celeb/non-celeb pairings (like Liz Taylor) are stratospherically rare, they're meteor-hitting-your-house rare.

[phantøm]

I wouldn't go there.  If you MUST I'd say "okay but then you get yourself another tutor".  I don't think it's worth it and it'll complicate your life.  There's a saying, "don't shit where you eat", it applies here.  Don't mix business and this sort of thing.  If he keeps being a prick about it I'd handball him to another tutor and exit him from your life completely - pushy guys are the worst, you can do better.

 

 

My advice has helped several people.  No guarantees it will help everyone but you never know.

 

Don't "drop hints" with guys.  Guys are herpaderp about "hints".  You want a guy to know something, you gotta be as straight-up as possible.  Think "female president" rather than "be ambitious".  Braveness is all confidence and confidence comes from liking yourself and not caring about what others think.  So work on yourself, and through that you'll get the confidence necessary to make moves.

 

 

Start a boy band, release an album, get famous.  Celebs tend to only get it on with other celebs simply because in that crazy world they're the only people they can relate to (because they're all going through the same thing).  Celeb/non-celeb pairings (like Liz Taylor) are stratospherically rare, they're meteor-hitting-your-house rare.

I sound like a chipmunk when I try to sing

I look like a robot when I dance

I can't learn instruments

will my looks be enough ?

[Kpopalypse]

I sound like a chipmunk when I try to sing

I look like a robot when I dance

I can't learn instruments

will my looks be enough ?

 

You'll be fine.  Looks are certainly enough.

 

Why do you think they train idols for years before debut.  It's a myth that you need to be talented before the agent "discovers" you.  Think SNSD and Krystal + Jessica, T-ara and Dani, it doesn't matter a sweet goddamn if the girls had zero talent.  That's what the years-long training process is for, it's to fast-track you in that shit.  Talent is learned, you're not born with it, nobody is.  No cunt popped out of the womb being able to sing, dance and play Mozart.

Edited September 30, 2013 by Kpopalypse

[phantøm]

You'll be fine.  Looks are certainly enough.

 

Why do you think they train idols for years before debut.  It's a myth that you need to be talented before the agent "discovers" you.  Think SNSD and Krystal + Jessica, T-ara and Dani, it doesn't matter a sweet goddamn if the girls had zero talent.  That's what they years-long training process is for, it's to fast-track you in that shit.  Talent is learned, you're not born with it, nobody is.  No cunt popped out of the womb being able to sing, dance and play Mozart.

great

all I need to do now is become asian.

how do I do that? I need to hide my eyes.

they're too big

Edited September 30, 2013 by Spooky

[Kpopalypse]

great

all I need to do now is become asian.

how do I do that? I need to hide my eyes.

they're too big

 

You don't need to be Asian, start a western (or a whatever-nationality-you-are) boy band.  If you get rich enough she'll probably overlook the "not Asian" thing.

[Kpopalypse]

Oh and if any of you are too pussy to ask questions in this forum because you don't want to reveal your names that's okay, I thought of you - you can do it anonymously at ask.fm/kpopalypse.  Just saying.

[phantøm]

You don't need to be Asian, start a western (or a whatever-nationality-you-are) boy band.  If you get rich enough she'll probably overlook the "not Asian" thing.

boy bands are over here . or considered gay and are bashed.

if you can't sing you get thrown away from the stage

[Kpopalypse]

boy bands are over here . or considered gay and are bashed.

if you can't sing you get thrown away from the stage

 

What's a little bit of bashing when you get to date Goo Hara later.  Sack up and deal with it.  Think of all the cool stories you can tell her about how you were gay-bashed years ago because you were a misunderstood youth trying to bring pop to the homophobic masses.  She'll swoon while she ice-packs your face.

[Dandelion Wine]

My advice has helped several people.  No guarantees it will help everyone but you never know.

 

Don't "drop hints" with guys.  Guys are herpaderp about "hints".  You want a guy to know something, you gotta be as straight-up as possible.  Think "female president" rather than "be ambitious".  Braveness is all confidence and confidence comes from liking yourself and not caring about what others think.  So work on yourself, and through that you'll get the confidence necessary to make moves.

Hm, okay. I'll work on myself and be straight-forward. Thanks for the help

[Kpopalypse]

Hm, okay. I'll work on myself and be straight-forward. Thanks for the help

 

The only guys who dig girls flirting and being coy are real alpha-male types who have an ego thing about doing all the chasing.  Those are rare though, less than 10% of guys, and out of THOSE guys maybe 10% of THEM can actually read "flirting" signals properly.  Most guys actually like it when you make things a bit clear cut and easy for them.

Edited September 30, 2013 by Kpopalypse

[Dandelion Wine]

The only guys who dig girls flirting and being coy are real alpha-male types who have an ego thing about doing all the chasing.  Those are rare though, less than 10% of guys, and out of THOSE guys maybe 10% of THEM can actually read "flirting" signals properly.  Most guys actually like it when you make things a bit clear cut and easy for them.

Yeah, the guy I like definitely isn't that type. I don't think I've ever seen anyone like that...being straight-forward is going to take a lot of effort on my end though. ^_^;

 

If I were to notice and say little things about him to him (like "hey, you were absent on Friday, what happened? You okay?") that would be fine and not weird, right?

[Kpopalypse]

Yeah, the guy I like definitely isn't that type. I don't think I've ever seen anyone like that...being straight-forward is going to take a lot of effort on my end though. ^_^;

 

If I were to notice and say little things about him to him (like "hey, you were absent on Friday, what happened? You okay?") that would be fine and not weird, right?

 

That would be fine, and not weird, yes.  It might be a good icebreaker to start a chat.

[AmaiChuu]

So I told my bf that I miss him but then we started arguing and uhmm 

 

We haven't seen each other for weeks, I told him that I was gonna wait until he feels the need to see me but uhmm another week went and we haven't talked since then.

 

Should I say something? Or should I just wait a little longer?

Edited September 30, 2013 by ♡ Creepy Pasta ♡

[Kpopalypse]

So I told my bf that I miss him but then we started arguing and uhmm 

 

We haven't seen each other for weeks, I told him that I was gonna wait until he feels the need to see me but uhmm another week went and we haven't talked since then.

 

Should I say something? Or should I just wait a little longer?

 

A relationship is always controlled by the person who cares about it the least.

 

Just keep waiting.  Either he comes back which means he cares, or he doesn't in which case you're better off without him.  If he really gives a damn he'll do what he has to do and if he doesn't, why the hell would you want him?

Edited October 1, 2013 by Kpopalypse

[tippy]

I wouldn't go there.  If you MUST I'd say "okay but then you get yourself another tutor".  I don't think it's worth it and it'll complicate your life.  There's a saying, "don't shit where you eat", it applies here.  Don't mix business and this sort of thing.  If he keeps being a prick about it I'd handball him to another tutor and exit him from your life completely - pushy guys are the worst, you can do better.

 thanks. I guess I'll just assert more authority. Whew, though Heaven knows I'm kinda introverted. 

[Kpopalypse]

 thanks. I guess I'll just assert more authority. Whew, though Heaven knows I'm kinda introverted. 

 

You don't need to be extroverted, you just need to set some standards for what kind of treatment you expect from others.

 

I'm an extremely introverted person, but I'm also really good at defining limits.  My girlfriend is the extroverted one, but she still knows when she's crossing the line.

[SuJuforever15]

I think I would like someone's opinion on this but it'll probably be too long and I'm not very good at explaining things.