Junebuggie 942 Posted October 8, 2015 Share Posted October 8, 2015 My boyfriend's cousin is having a wedding today. I was invited last minute because his cousin found out about my existence last minute. I've been going out with my boyfriend for more than a year now, so it's a bit upsetting that his close cousin knows nothing about me. I declined the invitation because I really didn't want them to rush to get me a seat since they were very stressed already, so I just told them I had work (which isn't really true). Anyway, I'm just a bit annoyed that my boyfriend didn't ask them if he could bring his girlfriend along in the first place. He never mentioned me to them, so I don't blame his cousin for any of this. Now his mom is wondering why I'm not going, so I just told her the work excuse; not wanting to make her son look bad. Idk if I should be mad about this, since it's not my place to get invited or not. But I've been with my boyfriend for so long and I just can't help but feel this way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lipslocked 3,780 Posted October 8, 2015 Share Posted October 8, 2015 If I were you, I would be mad and upset as well. / So yeah, you have the right to feel mad about this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alexander Wang 591 Posted October 8, 2015 Share Posted October 8, 2015 Well, I think you should be mad. He would've told everyone about you by now. I mean, you guys have been dating for about a year. It's pretty serious, so yeah. You should tell him how you feel, really. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seaweed 866 Posted October 8, 2015 Share Posted October 8, 2015 Yup, you should. Especially if he's close with his cousin. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chase 136 Posted October 8, 2015 Share Posted October 8, 2015 Not everyone wants to tell their family everything about their personal life until it is the right time, and that includes dating. I think the only person who should be mad is your boyfriend. This is a special moment for his family, and you were invited, but you told a lie for a petty reason. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hiraishrimp 5,413 Posted October 8, 2015 Share Posted October 8, 2015 i wouldn't be mad if it was his immediate family i would be kinda upset though Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eliane 108 Posted October 8, 2015 Share Posted October 8, 2015 yes, you should be mad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Junebuggie 942 Posted October 8, 2015 Author Share Posted October 8, 2015 Not everyone wants to tell their family everything about their personal life until it is the right time, and that includes dating. I think the only person who should be mad is your boyfriend. This is a special moment for his family, and you were invited, but you told a lie for a petty reason. Lol I made an excuse cause I didn't want to tell them the reason why I'm not going is because my boyfriend never asked if he could bring a +1. I'm trying to make his ass look good, so his mom doesn't bitch at him. I mean, his brother knows about the whole thing and he was saying the same thing to him. Well, I think you should be mad. He would've told everyone about you by now. I mean, you guys have been dating for about a year. It's pretty serious, so yeah. You should tell him how you feel, really.His brother and I were in his car with him yesterday telling him about this and he just kept quite. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vogue 2,424 Posted October 8, 2015 Share Posted October 8, 2015 if i were you i would be kinda upset. you guys have been dating for more than year so i think the relationship is pretty serious. you should tell him about your feelings. perhaps he wasn't ready to tell his family about his personal life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
김민주 16,324 Posted October 8, 2015 Share Posted October 8, 2015 Not everyone wants to tell their family everything about their personal life until it is the right time, and that includes dating. I think the only person who should be mad is your boyfriend. This is a special moment for his family, and you were invited, but you told a lie for a petty reason. Lmao you have no ideas how weddings work. EVERYTHING is specifically planned according to how many people were invited. Chairs, catering, etc. It is extremely stressful to find out more people are coming to the wedding as expected because it means finding somewhere to seat them and possibly requesting more food. Declining to not inconvenience the bride and groom is far from being petty. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hehe haha xd 3,081 Posted October 8, 2015 Share Posted October 8, 2015 If he was that close with his cousin I'd be upset dating for over a year is long but maybe he had his reasons Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Manic 499 Posted October 8, 2015 Share Posted October 8, 2015 its not about being mad, luv you have a right to question whats going on talk to the bf, tell him how u feel after the weddings all ova & done w if he be your long term, talking is important, and he should take your feelings seriously and you can both think of a solution/agreement/understanding Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neeki 376 Posted October 8, 2015 Share Posted October 8, 2015 I think you were being super considerate to take into account the cousin's wedding plans and save your bf from having to explain to his mum. Really nice of you considering the situation you were put in. I would be annoyed. But I know some people like to keep things to really close friends and family, however - how open is he about his relationship with you in general? I would talk this out with him for sure because you have every right to be mad, but it might be something totally unintentional from his pov. Totally let him know its not OK though, because its not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KISSMEKPOP 363 Posted October 8, 2015 Share Posted October 8, 2015 There's something a little strange about him not mentioning you after you've been together for a YEAR. Be mad OP. Then talk and get it off your chest. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gayness 2,400 Posted October 10, 2015 Share Posted October 10, 2015 well.... was he allowed a +1?? sometimes you don't. And are you guys asian by any chance? If so, usually he would not get his own invitation (goes with family) unless he is married and have kids and such. but then again.. his closest cousin.. im surprised she doesn't know about you. i guess he never told. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mouse 530 Posted October 10, 2015 Share Posted October 10, 2015 talk to himmm Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Junebuggie 942 Posted October 11, 2015 Author Share Posted October 11, 2015 well.... was he allowed a +1?? sometimes you don't. And are you guys asian by any chance? If so, usually he would not get his own invitation (goes with family) unless he is married and have kids and such. but then again.. his closest cousin.. im surprised she doesn't know about you. i guess he never told. Yes we are Asian, but the wedding was American-style since his cousin is kinda white-washed lol. He was allowed a +1 because my coworker attended the wedding with her bf, who is friends with my bf's cousin. He just never spoke up and asked for an invitation for me. He waited until his cousin asked him if he had a gf first, which was about a few days before the wedding. Hence, getting the invite last minute. :/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gayness 2,400 Posted October 11, 2015 Share Posted October 11, 2015 Yes we are Asian, but the wedding was American-style since his cousin is kinda white-washed lol. He was allowed a +1 because my coworker attended the wedding with her bf, who is friends with my bf's cousin. He just never spoke up and asked for an invitation for me. He waited until his cousin asked him if he had a gf first, which was about a few days before the wedding. Hence, getting the invite last minute. :/ break up with him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nowhere Boy 2,431 Posted October 11, 2015 Share Posted October 11, 2015 Id be a little mad myself Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gyujin 1,545 Posted October 12, 2015 Share Posted October 12, 2015 I'd be at least somewhat annoyed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Stupid Jellyfish 1,913 Posted October 14, 2015 Share Posted October 14, 2015 I'd be at least somewhat annoyed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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