Is it good telling nice things about yourselves to other people?

[Sana Muñequita Linda]

I mean,  mentioning to others that you are "a caring and sweet person", for instance.

 

Some people think it is okay to do so (because "it shows that you are confident"), while others say that it's a lack of respect ("only other people can judge you").

 

What do you think?

 

 

[Joyz]

Well, I personally never do that. 

People should already see how I am, If I get along with them..  (I dont have to tell them that).

And I know already myself, so I dont need people to tell me how I actually am, ;)

[thatssosoo]

I think as long as you're respectable and not bashing others, it's okay. Saying "I'm sweet!" is fine, but something overboard like "I'm the sweetest person you'll ever meet I'm sweeter than YO MOMMA HAHA" are bad.

 

Personally, I've never been comfortable seriously tooting my own horn. I joke about it all the time, but it's one of those "I act like I'm the best because I feel like I'm the worst" kind of things.

[lovergurl]

Yea it's fine. Just don't go overboard and start sounding arrogant all the time (I actually like arrogance in small doses) . But I don't see anything wrong with complimenting yourself. Beats being constantly negative about yourself, that's the most off-putting (though I know some can't help it).

[Hanah-]

I don't think it's bad.

[Qri]

People can say what they want. Not everyone has to be modest lol.

I personally only really say those kind of things sarcastically.

[mglsts]

If you are, I don't see the problem with it, as long as you don't use it in a way to boast yourself.

[Darling]

sure. i rather speak highly of myself than lowly. i dont do that often though. 

[denizen mars]

that's kind of a strange thing to say in conversation... o_O

[Good People]

People who say that are weird

[Otaku]

It isn't exactly bad, but people might take it that you're vain/egotistical, and give a bad impression to them that you're cocky.

[fari.]

i dont think its bad but i just never do it

[pinkmonster]

I personally never do that, well at least not seriously, but I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing.

[Mog]

I don't think it's a bad thing to bring a positive trait about yourself if it's relevant enough to be shared, and in a small dose. There's no reason to give a speech about, but mentioning it does no harm.

 

Saying something nice about yourself isn't as bad as saying something negative. Nobody wants to hear that shit.

[Sana Muñequita Linda]

 

 

that's kind of a strange thing to say in conversation... o_O

 

I meant, in your preferred social network bio, for example. Sometimes I am puzzled at how easily some people say "I'm a rational person who loves books", for example o_o Man, I mean... you know what you write, huh?

 

It isn't exactly bad, but people might take it that you're vain/egotistical, and give a bad impression to them that you're cocky.

 

I have the fear you described. I fear saying good things about myself because in the past I acted in certain way, I was confident/inexperienced/ignorant and had my share of diss. It doesn't help that I take some things TOO personally, but I guess it's better to have some confidence in yourselve without being too arrogant, right?

 

BTW Your sig is golden. I want to watch Sherlock ASAP.

[pyungsy]

Personally, I've never been comfortable seriously tooting my own horn. I joke about it all the time, but it's one of those "I act like I'm the best because I feel like I'm the worst" kind of things.

 

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[Allegra]

Only on CVs

[VISION]

I never say that. But don't think it's a bad thing.

[shinigami]

i dont think so. its much better if people discover your good traits rather u saying it to them

[Sana Muñequita Linda]

Only on CVs

 

Interesting! Yes, in those you HAVE to speak good about yourself. But there is a risk that you can be lying sometimes.

[Allegra]

Interesting! Yes, in those you HAVE to speak good about yourself. But there is a risk that you can be lying sometimes.

I just big up whatever traits I have on the CV and tweak it in order to prevent myself from seeming less borderline arrogant and more confident. :l

[Miiko]

I don't think it's bad.

[CALICO CAT]

I don't think it's bad but I would personally never flatter myself

[SirTim0thy]

I get really uncomfortable doing that. Prefer to let my actions speak for me.

[dinolover]

I mean,  mentioning to others that you are "a caring and sweet person", for instance.

 

Some people think it is okay to do so (because "it shows that you are confident"), while others say that it's a lack of respect ("only other people can judge you").

 

What do you think?

people who tell others that they are sweet and caring are probably not.

when you meet another person, you show them that you're sweet and caring .... lol I find it completely obnoxious and awkward whenever a person tells me they are smart and kind and popular.