Aeolian 31 Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 I'm 23 and never had a GF, although that's pretty much what I wanted Goddamn, my last crush was more than 2 years ago I've been loosing my social skills since then I just can't find girls interesting anymore, just phisically And I'm just staying at home, whenever I go out, I miss being at home Can't deal with loud places that plays musics I don't know and don't appeal to me at all I'm stuck, would someone please give some enlightment? I just don't want to keep on this misanthrope route But, argh it's just so unpleasant to deal with people What should I do? Buy a waifu? lol just kidding I can't even have idol crush anymore! Please help me ToT Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clay 11,273 Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 enroll some club Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KimHeeSung 6,134 Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 Awwww take a deep breath first lmao Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ethereal 20,923 Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 watch lots of porn to find out what type of people appeal to you. worked for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupipoo 1,619 Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 yes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zerozoro 576 Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 But seriously though, you're not a lost cause *virtual hug maybe you're just bored? Try going out or enrolling at some class Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rich witch 20,592 Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 I don't think you're a lost cause, maybe it's a change of attitude that you need. Usually people who love being alone, enjoy being alone and don't see a problem with that, but since it makes you feel distressed then maybe it's not a part of your personality as you might think. It might sound cliche, but one of the best decisions I've taken in my life was to simply say "yes" once in a while. Just, you know, "fuck that, I'm gonna do it". Be it when starting to talk to new people, going out with friends (I wasn't a big fan of that either), etc. and honestly, the best memories I've made were when I spontaneously said yes. If you don't feel like this is your solution, you might want to think with yourself about what you find interesting, and through that find people with the same interests and bond with them. Worked for me as well. The world is huge and nowadays we basically have an access to everything, so I'm pretty sure you can find yourself in that world somewhere. If you need anything, feel free to PM me~ it gets better! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jimin's GF 1,621 Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 Don't take it the wrong way but... Maybe you don't like girls but boys? But to me it does sound more like social anxiety or shyness. Maybe you should sign up in a club where people share a common hobby with you. Kpop club for example, if you have one nearby your city. Mmmm also you can use dating apps if real life interactions is scary at first. But you will have to meet them eventually, though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil 139 Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 You could just try going to social events even if you don't find it appealing, like just go once in awhile and see if you meet anyone in that way Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nev Schulman 7,948 Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 I feel you *pat pat* WE'LL BE OKAY Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SamuhaMe 5,391 Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 Thats me ..-_-" Just try to go out and meet people .. I know it may be awkward for you but everything will change .. Thats what im doing and i think its works . And you will find à good girl Envoyé de mon LENNY en utilisant Tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sylar 521 Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 this may sound lame and standard but... get a dog seriously Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aeolian 31 Posted September 28, 2015 Author Share Posted September 28, 2015 Thanks to all who answered enroll some club There's only one club here, I mean, there are lots of bars, but they suck lol I should totally move out from here, one day... Awwww take a deep breath first lmao Aww thanks mate! watch lots of porn to find out what type of people appeal to you. worked for me. Tried it already '-' But seriously though, you're not a lost cause *virtual hug maybe you're just bored? Try going out or enrolling at some class I'm bored at home and bored when not at home lol '-' I don't think you're a lost cause, maybe it's a change of attitude that you need. Usually people who love being alone, enjoy being alone and don't see a problem with that, but since it makes you feel distressed then maybe it's not a part of your personality as you might think. It might sound cliche, but one of the best decisions I've taken in my life was to simply say "yes" once in a while. Just, you know, "fuck that, I'm gonna do it". Be it when starting to talk to new people, going out with friends (I wasn't a big fan of that either), etc. and honestly, the best memories I've made were when I spontaneously said yes. If you don't feel like this is your solution, you might want to think with yourself about what you find interesting, and through that find people with the same interests and bond with them. Worked for me as well. The world is huge and nowadays we basically have an access to everything, so I'm pretty sure you can find yourself in that world somewhere. If you need anything, feel free to PM me~ it gets better! I usually don't deny invitations, but I always regret doing that when I arrive the spot, I don't show my unsatisfaction as it's my problem only, but I can't have a good time if there's nothing that interest me. I've already tried to find people who share interests with me, but was only able through internet forums and I'm kinda to post t.tI enjoy being with my old times friends, but they live in other city, and they have their gfs so they go on couple outings and I rarely get an opportunity of meeting them. And those are actually the only moments when I feel truly alive... Thank you! Don't take it the wrong way but... Maybe you don't like girls but boys? But to me it does sound more like social anxiety or shyness. Maybe you should sign up in a club where people share a common hobby with you. Kpop club for example, if you have one nearby your city. Mmmm also you can use dating apps if real life interactions is scary at first. But you will have to meet them eventually, though. Actually, I'm shy even on the internet, it's hard for me to express through words I just don't talk much, I most probably scare people lol Thought about dating apps already, but the only one that works here is on android, I don't have one :s Don't have a fb account either, do you think I should got one? You could just try going to social events even if you don't find it appealing, like just go once in awhile and see if you meet anyone in that way Tried it already, many times ''/ this may sound lame and standard but... get a dog seriously That's a really good idea But I would probably go for a cat Still mourning my last dog t.t Thats me ..-_-"Just try to go out and meet people .. I know it may be awkward for you but everything will change .. Thats what im doing and i think its works .And you will find à good girl Envoyé de mon LENNY en utilisant Tapatalk I don't think it's possible to do it alone. My town is small, you need to know someone if you want to know anyone lol '-' I feel you *pat pat* WE'LL BE OKAY We should be kkk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gyujin 1,545 Posted October 3, 2015 Share Posted October 3, 2015 I don't think so. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nowhere Boy 2,431 Posted October 4, 2015 Share Posted October 4, 2015 No one's ever a lost cause Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Stupid Jellyfish 1,913 Posted October 5, 2015 Share Posted October 5, 2015 Well you're in a hole for sure but I don't believe anyone is a lost cause until they've actually given up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoyalEclipse 34 Posted October 12, 2015 Share Posted October 12, 2015 No, you are not a lost cause, I am yet to loose the hopes even though I'm 25 and still yet to have a boyfriend. From personal experience - the fact that your friends moved away doesn't mean you can't meet and go somewhere from time to time. You can also go and visit them. I also spend time mostly at home and I dislike loud music, I'm not much keen on alcohol and partying in general. Still there is plently of things you can do and I ensure you there are single girls around that do it too - going to cinema (don't be afraid to go alone, it's fun too), browsing nice cafe's around your place and even library. If you are studying maybe you'd try on your univ library and hang out around shelves with books you like? Who knows, you might meet a girl who like them too. Also, do remember that most of girls want guy to make the first move - they might look at you, give you some signs but if girl is really attracted to a guy, she will rarely start convo herself unless she is one of that really brave or one that dated a lot up until now and such one wouldn't be good for you. Just brace yourself and talk with girls. Even if you are not really interested. Pick up random convos on streets, bus stops or anything - you can even ask a questions like "at which hour this and this bus will come" or "what time is it?" - it will help you break the ice and will make things better. Also - you don't really need to go to parties to meet people. My sister met her husband on the bus so... People are everywhere and you don't need to be awesomely social creature to meet them. And there is plenty of girls who share your sentiments :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SchoolNote 6,178 Posted October 12, 2015 Share Posted October 12, 2015 Haha bro you're good I'm 22 and have never have a bf in my life or been on a date. Don't give up hope mate you'll prosper eventually just give it time. Also, if you want a gf try going outside more and trying new things in general. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mouse 530 Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 NuuU~ u just need more timee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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