_____asd 728 Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 Recently i had this one dream job in mind. Its really perfect for me etc. but whats the fucking point? Im so ugly i dont wanna leave my house or meet those new people everywhere. It feels embarrassing to know that they probably always think 'oh that girl is ugly' when they see me. I dont have many interests anyway, and what i want from life is a relationship. A nice girl who could love me and i could love her. But again and again i realize that this has 0,0000001 chances of happening as im honestly ugly and on top of that, shy too. So whats the point of me studying and trying to get a nice life when i can never be happy because of my appearance? And when i can never get that gf? I cant afford all that ps that i would need and to be honest, it would take a fucking great surgeon to fix this. I have thoughts like 'i wanna die' quite often but i really dont because i wanna live because i have that dream of that happiness and love. But knowing that i wont get that, whats the point in everything? This is making me so damn bitter and angry. Just why in the heck did i have to be born ugly? If i have depression, my appearance is thereason for it and so it cant even be cured. Im so sad and fucking angry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ICETERO 9,070 Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 visit dr. Kim? Ps isn't THAT expensive if you are really serious. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
_____asd 728 Posted September 6, 2015 Author Share Posted September 6, 2015 visit dr. Kim? i already wrote that i dont have money for it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ICETERO 9,070 Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 i already wrote that i dont have money for it Check my edit. I don't think you should think yourself as ugly. I don't know how you look like and I'm pretty sure u look fine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iamayam 1,081 Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 Are you lesbian? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScarletWhimsy 2,203 Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 How ugly you perceive yourself and how others perceive you isn't limited to your physical appearance. Don't bash yourself down like that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lord Soshistar 9,394 Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 you're so used to your feature that you don't know how beautiful you're to someone else,love yourself! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jongin88 219 Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 Firstly, you don't KNOW anything. You can't read minds, you can't tell the future therefore you don't know that you'll never get a girlfriend, you don't know that you won't ever be happy, you don't know what people are thinking. You'll never know unless you try. If you just have the mindset of 'what's the point' then you'll never get anywhere and what do you have to lose by trying? Better to try and fail than not try at all. You may not think you're beautiful or even okay looking but those are your thoughts, to somebody else you might be the most beautiful person they've ever met and I don't just mean physically. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ari. 306 Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 i don't think you are ugly as you think. If you learn love yourself and everything will be 5473574 times better. Please do it for yourself ♥ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lynnie 1,207 Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 Have a little faith. You also mentioned that 'there's no point in studying for a nice life' or something like that. If you really find yourself ugly and don't have the money for PS, why not focus on getting a good career and making that money. Then, you could get PS. Over all though, I'm sure you're not as "ugly" as you make yourself to be tbh. Loving yourself is very rewarding. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
_____asd 728 Posted September 6, 2015 Author Share Posted September 6, 2015 Check my edit. I don't think you should think yourself as ugly. I don't know how you look like and I'm pretty sure u look fine. i would have to save like three years for one procedure and i would need many so it would be quite too expensive. And thanks for trying to cheer me up but ugly people really do exist and im pretty sure im one of them Are you lesbian? yes How ugly you perceive yourself and how others perceive you isn't limited to your physical appearance. Don't bash yourself down like that my personality is shy and it takes like a year for me to be myself around someone so im fucked and looks are what people look at first anyway so imo it matters the most Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iamayam 1,081 Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 i would have to save like three years for one procedure and i would need many so it would be quite too expensive. And thanks for trying to cheer me up but ugly people really do exist and im pretty sure im one of them yes my personality is shy and it takes like a year for me to be myself around someone so im fucked and looks are what people look at first anyway so imo it matters the most Its okay I'm ugly and fat too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
night vale. 8,071 Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 If you don't love yourself, no amount of makeup, ps, dieting, etc. will make you feel more confident. Try looking at yourself and finding things you like. Sooner or later you'll be happy about something and not look down on yourself as hard. Then start making physical improvements: find a skincare routine you can afford and that works for you, maybe wear some makeup if that's what you're into, and if you really want to get ps, save up money and do research on a doctor. Yourw probably pretty and don't even realize it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skyler135 93 Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 im not even near good-looking and i bashed myself like this before which made me hide behind the computer for years. until i got into a relationship over the internet. she's very very beautiful. the day we met, my face (which wasn't already good-looking) had a pimple breakout and i look really really bad because i was sick. but you know what? she taught me the meaning of true love and didn't look at my appearance. she gets angry when i call myself ugly because it seemed like i'm calling her a liar. point is, like what the others had said, you might think you're ugly and all that but there are people who will find you the most beautiful for them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
_____asd 728 Posted September 6, 2015 Author Share Posted September 6, 2015 you're so used to your feature that you don't know how beautiful you're to someone else,love yourself! i don't think you are ugly as you think. If you learn love yourself and everything will be 5473574 times better. Please do it for yourself ♥thanks guys Firstly, you don't KNOW anything. You can't read minds, you can't tell the future therefore you don't know that you'll never get a girlfriend, you don't know that you won't ever be happy, you don't know what people are thinking. You'll never know unless you try. If you just have the mindset of 'what's the point' then you'll never get anywhere and what do you have to lose by trying? Better to try and fail than not try at all. You may not think you're beautiful or even okay looking but those are your thoughts, to somebody else you might be the most beautiful person they've ever met and I don't just mean physically. i suppose your right. I can always try to live on and hope for the best Have a little faith. You also mentioned that 'there's no point in studying for a nice life' or something like that. If you really find yourself ugly and don't have the money for PS, why not focus on getting a good career and making that money. Then, you could get PS. Over all though, I'm sure you're not as "ugly" as you make yourself to be tbh. Loving yourself is very rewarding. yeah ive thought about that too. But then id be like thirty yrs old when i get that ps and it would be nice to look ok in my twenties. But yeah better late than never Its okay I'm ugly and fat too yay we can be friends Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sunny_ 1,308 Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 You say you want to have a person who would love you but how can you expect anyone to love you if you can't even do it yourself? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pollute 24 Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 I don't think you can really tell what's going through other's minds, maybe you're misunderstanding them with that mindset. People are a lot more kind than you think they are. Looks aren't everything in life, and no one can define who we really are just by looking at us, so don't let it stop you from living happily. Have you tried confiding in a therapist before? I think you need a new perspective Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jcey 7,752 Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 Hm...Ok if you are really really ugly, then u can't help it. However there are other things you can work on. Do you wanna be ugly, sad, shy, uneducated, poor, jobless, depressing, friendless, lonely, self hating person, etc? Or Do you wanna be Ugly, Confident, Educated, Well off with a proper job, surrounded by friends and loved ones who love you for you, self loving person, happy, etc? Life doesn't only depend on face. There are many beautiful people who are miserable too. I say you should work hard for your own happiness. So don't say what's the point of studying. Don't give up on your dream job. Work hard to change your bad points. Goodluck with everything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pessego 2,194 Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 Hm...Ok if you are really really ugly, then u can't help it. was this supposed to help ..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovely_me 3,237 Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 I think u need visit a psychology who teach u be confident and love yourself. Its a long way, but u have to do it. No op or make-up will help u. No matter how beautiful u are, u will still think u ugly. And became one of ppl who a obsessed with OPs and never have enough. Just don't! Start love yourself, put a bit(!) Make-up on and I am sure u are beautiful. And for a boss its important how u work and what qualifications u have and not how u looks like.. Even work on Entree.. Think u are beautiful, so u will be.. no one will say ever smg different.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Highness 940 Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 GIIIRL you shouldn't give a single FUCK about what people think/say of you!! Wear your "ugliness" and be proud Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 I feel you OP. I am one of the unattractive folks.. It got to the point where people would literally point and laugh at me as I walked home from school. I had rocks thrown at me because I was ugly, I was the butt of many "hey there's your girl friend" jokes. It was relentless. But I didn't let that get me down. I finally decided that I wasn't put here to look pretty. I honestly refuse to wallow in self pity over superficial garbage that other people try to impose on me. And you shouldn't either. If people find me ugly, then they are entitled to their opinions. If they have specific beauty standard, then that's fine and dandy for them. But I ain't going to adhere to it or try appease them. One has to finally come to the realisation that we all can't be winners, some of us are not blessed with beauty. And "God" didn't bless me with beauty and I don't give a shit. I am what I am. Take it or leave it. In the words of Tarrie B "Fuck being pretty this isn't sex and city". OP you need to adopt the mind set of 'I comes before U'. I have a feeling your issues with self perception are to do with attempting to receive gratification and acceptance from others. I honestly believe you're being too harsh on yourself in this instance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
_____asd 728 Posted September 6, 2015 Author Share Posted September 6, 2015 If you don't love yourself, no amount of makeup, ps, dieting, etc. will make you feel more confident. Try looking at yourself and finding things you like. Sooner or later you'll be happy about something and not look down on yourself as hard. Then start making physical improvements: find a skincare routine you can afford and that works for you, maybe wear some makeup if that's what you're into, and if you really want to get ps, save up money and do research on a doctor. Yourw probably pretty and don't even realize it. i have looked at myself and found my ears are okay lol but it didnt make me feel better.i cant ignore the 'problems' on my face. And no make up will help this, although people so often suggest that im not even near good-looking and i bashed myself like this before which made me hide behind the computer for years. until i got into a relationship over the internet. she's very very beautiful. the day we met, my face (which wasn't already good-looking) had a pimple breakout and i look really really bad because i was sick. but you know what? she taught me the meaning of true love and didn't look at my appearance. she gets angry when i call myself ugly because it seemed like i'm calling her a liar. point is, like what the others had said, you might think you're ugly and all that but there are people who will find you the most beautiful for them. aww. Im happy you found her You say you want to have a person who would love you but how can you expect anyone to love you if you can't even do it yourself? i think i have some love for myself left, or i would have killed myself already I don't think you can really tell what's going through other's minds, maybe you're misunderstanding them with that mindset. People are a lot more kind than you think they are. Looks aren't everything in life, and no one can define who we really are just by looking at us, so don't let it stop you from living happily. Have you tried confiding in a therapist before? I think you need a new perspective i dont think a thereapist can help. Even if i lie to myself that its okay, i can focus on something else, i cant. I have to be with this looks every single moment and its so hard to ignore Hm...Ok if you are really really ugly, then u can't help it. However there are other things you can work on. Do you wanna be ugly, sad, shy, uneducated, poor, jobless, depressing, friendless, lonely, self hating person, etc? Or Do you wanna be Ugly, Confident, Educated, Well off with a proper job, surrounded by friends and loved ones who love you for you, self loving person, happy, etc? Life doesn't only depend on face. There are many beautiful people who are miserable too. I say you should work hard for your own happiness. So don't say what's the point of studying. Don't give up on your dream job. Work hard to change your bad points. Goodluck with everything. i dont know which one is better for me. Because i cant be happy looking like this :( and thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jcey 7,752 Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 was this supposed to help ..... Yes..cuz you can't chage your real appearance unless u do ps. But focusing on appearance only is very shallow. Beautiful face fades away with time and there will be a day when it wouldn't matter how beautiful you once were but what would matter is how you've lived your life, what company you have now, your accomplishments, etc. So I was just telling OP to work hard towards the thing that really does matter the most. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bishu 1,695 Posted September 6, 2015 Share Posted September 6, 2015 to be very honest, get plastic surgery. An expensive one. You can lend money and work hard to pay for it later after PS she got tons of work invitations but the main problem is, you should take the 'how ppl see me' more lightly. Because even with a pretty PS face, they will still gossip about you'r plastic you'r fake etc. Learn to put yourself first, because only you can make yourself happy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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