fufu 580 Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 I asked out a girl about a week ago, and so far as I know she's absolutely wonderful, although we've not met in person because we both work for 12 hours, 6 days a week and its hard to synchronise. We were talking earlier and she said she would take me out for a meal. So I asked if she'd let me pay, but then she said she'd pay. I'm finding it a little weird to be honest. I'd sort of feel like a mooch if I didn't at least pay for my half. But anyway; Do you think it's weird for a girl to pay for a date? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ErikaEGO 8,626 Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 If it's mutual, i don't see anything wrong with it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
klara 12 Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 nope. r/ship is about give n take. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady 623 Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 No Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nowhere Boy 2,431 Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 I'd feel like an asshole if I made the girl pay Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bananaphobe 204 Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 no. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jongin88 219 Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 No, if she wanted to pay then let her pay. Just return the favour later on...I didn't mean for that to sound so sexual Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twisted 1,236 Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 If someday I went on a date I'll try to pay my half. It's fair. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twisted 1,236 Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 No, if she wanted to pay then let her pay. Just return the favour later on...I didn't mean for that to sound so sexual You have Kim freaking Jongin on your DP, everything you ever said will sound sexual jk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Stupid Jellyfish 1,913 Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 I don't really think it's weird but people where i'm from do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jongin88 219 Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 You have Kim freaking Jongin on your DP, everything you ever said will sound sexual jk Truer words have never been spoken Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trixbox 2,982 Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 no, if she wants to pay for the meal then great! Or if you really feel bad about it and she still insist, then go dutch. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
L'enfant terrible 674 Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 free food no, it's not weird. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Krizzza 156 Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 I'm a lesbian so it will always be a girl who pays ^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FactMan 2,366 Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 It is not weird, let her do it if she wants to... unless she wants to every single time. If I was you I'd talk into splitting everything, with either of us paying full only occasionally. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heart and Seoul 1,218 Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 Nope, I'm a girl and I do it all the time lol Not EVERY time, but I'm always happy to offer and I've no problem if it's like a cinema date paying for all the food and tickets etc. Of course it's also nice when the guy offers, I'm gracious enough to accept that but obviously like you said yourself OP, I'd feel like a "mooch" myself haha if I let him every time I think sometimes girls pay as well (obviously I can't speak for my entire gender haha but purely from personal experience) because certain guys feel like you "owe them one" if you know what I mean if they're the ones splashing the cash, so a girl paying can sometimes come from a stance of wanting to be a bit independent I think in your case OP, it just sounds like she wants to treat you, that's all! It may be weird to you if you're not used to it, but maybe she'd find it weird NOT to pay haha, who knows If she's like me then she probably just wants to do this nice thing for you, it might actually hurt her feelings if you insisted on paying! Lol Have a good date! Hope it goes well Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mouse 530 Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 no its not equality Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rich witch 20,592 Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 nope. i think paying your half is fine and i also think that whoever invited the other for the meal has to pay, so next time when you invite her, it could be on you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 She's indeed a wonderful girl and you need to stop being blunt about it. She's a nice person and is going to pay because she invited you and she thinks that's the right thing to do. So instead of feeling weird you just need to tell her that you're letting her pay on the condition that she goes out with you on another date in which of course you're going to pay. So that's how I view it, girls like that are really something great. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boo! 111 Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 No. If anything you should encourage it. It seems like something small but if one person always pays, it will spinball into one person having dominance over the other and if you want to have an equal relationship then you both should take turns paying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HoneyBee12 33 Posted September 16, 2015 Share Posted September 16, 2015 No, if she wanted to pay then let her pay. Just return the favour later on...I didn't mean for that to sound so sexual Same here... I was with a guy Ans he paid.. and so I am deciding to pay next time Sent from my LG-D802T using Tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gyujin 1,545 Posted October 3, 2015 Share Posted October 3, 2015 I don't think so. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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