Jump to content
OneHallyu Will Be Closing End Of 2023 ×
OneHallyu

Bye


No One Special

Recommended Posts

um, obv someone in the same generation can understand you better.

 

If your mom has heart problem, I suggest you not do it. She could have a heart attack.

Yes because all young people are open and tolerant to homosexuals. >.>

Eye siding you for not knowing anything about homosexuality condition and still thinkyou can give advice...

 

 

OP, im happy for you. Good thing you didnt lie!

My first coming out was also to a cosin, and I remember feeling so proud of myself.

Dont feel pressured to tell your family, it will come out one day at the right time.

And no your mom wont have a heart attack. You could be surprised by her reaction (positive or negative) but people dont get heart attacks because of this.

 

Do you have brothers or sisters? At first, its best you tell them and then little by little coming out to your family.

 

If you need any advice PM me, as I have had some difficulties with my parents when I first came out ^^

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Yes because all young people are open and tolerant to homosexuals. >.>

Eye siding you for not knowing anything about homosexuality condition and still thinkyou can give advice...

 

 

OP, im happy for you. Good thing you didnt lie!

My first coming out was also to a cosin, and I remember feeling so proud of myself.

Dont feel pressured to tell your family, it will come out one day at the right time.

And no your mom wont have a heart attack. You could be surprised by her reaction (positive or negative) but people dont get heart attacks because of this.

 

Do you have brothers or sisters? At first, its best you tell them and then little by little coming out to your family.

 

If you need any advice PM me, as I have had some difficulties with my parents when I first came out ^^

 

 

Um, OP said he was in a strict asian neighborhood. I know what it feels to be denied, okay? You're just slightly different and nobody accepts you. They tease you about it and want you to change.  

 

Of course there're parents who would support their children till the end, but there're also ones who are bound by their belief.

 

I actually kinda want to talk to my mom, if she ever urges me to get married, but considering she has heart problem, I don't want to break her heart.

 

And there you thought you're any better at giving advice.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Do you have brothers or sisters? At first, its best you tell them and then little by little coming out to your family.

If you need any advice PM me, as I have had some difficulties with my parents when I first came out ^^

I'm an only child.

I'm glad that my cousin was so positive about it.

I really look up to him and love him and I was so scared about potentially losing him because I didn't want that.

 

My parents are borderline like homophobic as with the rest of my aunts and uncles, so I'm just gonna wait.

 

My aunt who is the mother of the cousin I came out to does know, but she said she won't say anything. I'm happy she's so supportive too.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Good for you.

 

Is your cousin gay?

No, he has a girlfriend, she was actually in the room with us.

 

Wow.. you came out to a family member first.. I'm glad it went well!

 

I came out to my best friend, and from then on a bunch of friends.. but none of my family members know yet..

I never actually had to come out to my friends, they all knew, it just wasn't something that was ever brought up because they knew and they still loved me regardless, so that is nice.
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Yes because all young people are open and tolerant to homosexuals. >.>

Eye siding you for not knowing anything about homosexuality condition and still thinkyou can give advice...

 

 

OP, im happy for you. Good thing you didnt lie!

My first coming out was also to a cosin, and I remember feeling so proud of myself.

Dont feel pressured to tell your family, it will come out one day at the right time.

And no your mom wont have a heart attack. You could be surprised by her reaction (positive or negative) but people dont get heart attacks because of this.

 

Do you have brothers or sisters? At first, its best you tell them and then little by little coming out to your family.

 

If you need any advice PM me, as I have had some difficulties with my parents when I first came out ^^

are you a girl or a guy?

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Congratulations! I am glad your cousin could be there for you like that, and be so understanding. I hope when you do come out to the rest of your family, you will receive the same amount of support.

 

Stay strong :) I went through a time where I questioned my sexuality and the thought of telling my parents made me so scared. At some point OP, you gotta live for you. No matter what happens, don't be ashamed, you have no reason to feel that. 

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Um, OP said he was in a strict asian neighborhood. I know what it feels to be denied, okay? You're just slightly different and nobody accepts you. They tease you about it and want you to change.

 

Of course there're parents who would support their children till the end, but there're also ones who are bound by their belief.

 

I actually kinda want to talk to my mom, if she ever urges me to get married, but considering she has heart problem, I don't want to break her heart.

 

And there you thought you're any better at giving advice.

You said obviously people from same generation can understand better. >.>

Sorry but that sounds so ignorant it hurt my eyes.

People from same geneartion can be as closed minded and cruel as any other generation.

 

OP's cosin might have already felt OP was gay, or he wouldnt have asked that question.

Your mom wont have a heart attack from this. People are stronger than you think, but yes she may be sad, and even not talk to you.

Dont feel pressured to telll her, but usually parents know this. They might deny it and fight but they know deep down.

 

I'm an only child.

I'm glad that my cousin was so positive about it.

I really look up to him and love him and I was so scared about potentially losing him because I didn't want that.

My parents are borderline like homophobic as with the rest of my aunts and uncles, so I'm just gonna wait.

My aunt who is the mother of the cousin I came out to does know, but she said she won't say anything. I'm happy she's so supportive too.

Okay so you are exactly in my case with very catholic homophobic parents.

Like I said, dont feel pressured to tell them.

If you feel like you need to come out to them, you will do it at the right time.

 

There is no right formula, and everybody experiences different situations.

 

Like I said, dont hesitate if you want to talk about this :D

 

are you a girl or a guy?

Woman.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

You said obviously people from same generation can understand better. >.>

Sorry but that sounds so ignorant it hurt my eyes.

People from same geneartion can be as closed minded and cruel as any other generation.

 

OP's cosin might have already felt OP was gay, or he wouldnt have asked that question.

Your mom wont have a heart attack from this. People are stronger than you think, but yes she may be sad, and even not talk to you.

Dont feel pressured to telll her, but usually parents know this. They might deny it and fight but they know deep down.

 

Okay so you are exactly in my case with very catholic homophobic parents.

Like I said, dont feel pressured to tell them.

If you feel like you need to come out to them, you will do it at the right time.

 

There is no right formula, and everybody experiences different situations.

 

Like I said, dont hesitate if you want to talk about this :D

 

 

Woman.

cool :)  

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Congratulations! :smile:

 

 

You said obviously people from same generation can understand better. >.>
Sorry but that sounds so ignorant it hurt my eyes.
People from same geneartion can be as closed minded and cruel as any other generation.

 

They can be, yes. But on average, they tend to be better -- pretty much in every society where there is progress on LGBT acceptance, the rates are higher in younger generations.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Congratulations! :smile:

 

 

 

 

They can be, yes. But on average, they tend to be better -- pretty much in every society where there is progress on LGBT acceptance, the rates are higher in younger generations.

Lol what?

 

A few months ago France finally allowed gay marriage. And at that point more than 100 000 person were walking in every big city of france every week end protesting against it and asking the law to be removed.

And surprisingly, the people leading those protests were all youngsters in their 20s saying "a child needs a father and a mother" or "they (as in us gays) can do whatever they want in their houses, but marriage is sacred" and that kind of crap.

 

Its not because you see people say "we have nothing against gays" that they are actually open or accepting of homosexuality.

 

Anyway i dont want this thread to turn into a debate over homosexuality, but sadly we are very far from having LGBT acceptance even in the "developped" countries in younger generations (even if yes, the rate is a bit higher)

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Archived

This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.

  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
×
×
  • Create New...

Important Information

We have placed cookies on your device to help make this website better. You can adjust your cookie settings, otherwise we'll assume you're okay to continue.

Back to Top