No One Special 154 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 - Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kokotoro 388 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 um, obv someone in the same generation can understand you better. If your mom has heart problem, I suggest you not do it. She could have a heart attack. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Meth Krystal 18,630 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 I hope for the best alldatime. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Krystal Meth 11,336 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 Don't let the fear hold back your happiness, good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Meth Krystal 18,630 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 ^ O mai gahd Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jongdae 459 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 Thank you for sharing. I'm glad that it turned out well for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dnylol 244 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 ugh I wish i have that courage to tell my brother/cousins........... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AngelLoveCake 965 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 I'm so happy for you! I also hope that when you finally decide to tell the rest of your family that they will be understanding and that it will also be a happy and special moment for you^^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Си�у Пак 19,117 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 um, obv someone in the same generation can understand you better. If your mom has heart problem, I suggest you not do it. She could have a heart attack. Yes because all young people are open and tolerant to homosexuals. >.> Eye siding you for not knowing anything about homosexuality condition and still thinkyou can give advice... OP, im happy for you. Good thing you didnt lie! My first coming out was also to a cosin, and I remember feeling so proud of myself. Dont feel pressured to tell your family, it will come out one day at the right time. And no your mom wont have a heart attack. You could be surprised by her reaction (positive or negative) but people dont get heart attacks because of this. Do you have brothers or sisters? At first, its best you tell them and then little by little coming out to your family. If you need any advice PM me, as I have had some difficulties with my parents when I first came out ^^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
youchewflop 1,027 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 Wow.. you came out to a family member first.. I'm glad it went well! I came out to my best friend, and from then on a bunch of friends.. but none of my family members know yet.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DocumentaLy 6,033 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 Good for you. Is your cousin gay? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Someone actually 4,572 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 That took a lot of courage, OP ^^ I'm proud of you. I hope to find a relative as understanding as your cousin :] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kokotoro 388 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 Yes because all young people are open and tolerant to homosexuals. >.> Eye siding you for not knowing anything about homosexuality condition and still thinkyou can give advice... OP, im happy for you. Good thing you didnt lie! My first coming out was also to a cosin, and I remember feeling so proud of myself. Dont feel pressured to tell your family, it will come out one day at the right time. And no your mom wont have a heart attack. You could be surprised by her reaction (positive or negative) but people dont get heart attacks because of this. Do you have brothers or sisters? At first, its best you tell them and then little by little coming out to your family. If you need any advice PM me, as I have had some difficulties with my parents when I first came out ^^ Um, OP said he was in a strict asian neighborhood. I know what it feels to be denied, okay? You're just slightly different and nobody accepts you. They tease you about it and want you to change. Of course there're parents who would support their children till the end, but there're also ones who are bound by their belief. I actually kinda want to talk to my mom, if she ever urges me to get married, but considering she has heart problem, I don't want to break her heart. And there you thought you're any better at giving advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
No One Special 154 Posted September 4, 2013 Author Share Posted September 4, 2013 Do you have brothers or sisters? At first, its best you tell them and then little by little coming out to your family. If you need any advice PM me, as I have had some difficulties with my parents when I first came out ^^ I'm an only child.I'm glad that my cousin was so positive about it. I really look up to him and love him and I was so scared about potentially losing him because I didn't want that. My parents are borderline like homophobic as with the rest of my aunts and uncles, so I'm just gonna wait. My aunt who is the mother of the cousin I came out to does know, but she said she won't say anything. I'm happy she's so supportive too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
â„„oser 1,185 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 Good for you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
No One Special 154 Posted September 4, 2013 Author Share Posted September 4, 2013 Good for you. Is your cousin gay? No, he has a girlfriend, she was actually in the room with us. Wow.. you came out to a family member first.. I'm glad it went well! I came out to my best friend, and from then on a bunch of friends.. but none of my family members know yet.. I never actually had to come out to my friends, they all knew, it just wasn't something that was ever brought up because they knew and they still loved me regardless, so that is nice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
junglove 4,071 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 Yes because all young people are open and tolerant to homosexuals. >.> Eye siding you for not knowing anything about homosexuality condition and still thinkyou can give advice... OP, im happy for you. Good thing you didnt lie! My first coming out was also to a cosin, and I remember feeling so proud of myself. Dont feel pressured to tell your family, it will come out one day at the right time. And no your mom wont have a heart attack. You could be surprised by her reaction (positive or negative) but people dont get heart attacks because of this. Do you have brothers or sisters? At first, its best you tell them and then little by little coming out to your family. If you need any advice PM me, as I have had some difficulties with my parents when I first came out ^^ are you a girl or a guy? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joon 8,222 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 Congratulations! I am glad your cousin could be there for you like that, and be so understanding. I hope when you do come out to the rest of your family, you will receive the same amount of support. Stay strong I went through a time where I questioned my sexuality and the thought of telling my parents made me so scared. At some point OP, you gotta live for you. No matter what happens, don't be ashamed, you have no reason to feel that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grape Soda 12,004 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 I'm proud of you, you definitely want to start off with cousins your age or family members who would understand. Hope your fully coming out experience isn't stressful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Си�у Пак 19,117 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 Um, OP said he was in a strict asian neighborhood. I know what it feels to be denied, okay? You're just slightly different and nobody accepts you. They tease you about it and want you to change. Of course there're parents who would support their children till the end, but there're also ones who are bound by their belief. I actually kinda want to talk to my mom, if she ever urges me to get married, but considering she has heart problem, I don't want to break her heart. And there you thought you're any better at giving advice. You said obviously people from same generation can understand better. >.>Sorry but that sounds so ignorant it hurt my eyes. People from same geneartion can be as closed minded and cruel as any other generation. OP's cosin might have already felt OP was gay, or he wouldnt have asked that question. Your mom wont have a heart attack from this. People are stronger than you think, but yes she may be sad, and even not talk to you. Dont feel pressured to telll her, but usually parents know this. They might deny it and fight but they know deep down. I'm an only child. I'm glad that my cousin was so positive about it. I really look up to him and love him and I was so scared about potentially losing him because I didn't want that. My parents are borderline like homophobic as with the rest of my aunts and uncles, so I'm just gonna wait. My aunt who is the mother of the cousin I came out to does know, but she said she won't say anything. I'm happy she's so supportive too. Okay so you are exactly in my case with very catholic homophobic parents.Like I said, dont feel pressured to tell them. If you feel like you need to come out to them, you will do it at the right time. There is no right formula, and everybody experiences different situations. Like I said, dont hesitate if you want to talk about this :D are you a girl or a guy? Woman. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doolicious 1,354 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 I almost teared reading that. I'm extremely happy that you came out comfortably to your cousin. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
junglove 4,071 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 You said obviously people from same generation can understand better. >.> Sorry but that sounds so ignorant it hurt my eyes. People from same geneartion can be as closed minded and cruel as any other generation. OP's cosin might have already felt OP was gay, or he wouldnt have asked that question. Your mom wont have a heart attack from this. People are stronger than you think, but yes she may be sad, and even not talk to you. Dont feel pressured to telll her, but usually parents know this. They might deny it and fight but they know deep down. Okay so you are exactly in my case with very catholic homophobic parents. Like I said, dont feel pressured to tell them. If you feel like you need to come out to them, you will do it at the right time. There is no right formula, and everybody experiences different situations. Like I said, dont hesitate if you want to talk about this :D Woman. cool Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
h0neanias 13,516 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 Congratulations! You said obviously people from same generation can understand better. >.>Sorry but that sounds so ignorant it hurt my eyes.People from same geneartion can be as closed minded and cruel as any other generation. They can be, yes. But on average, they tend to be better -- pretty much in every society where there is progress on LGBT acceptance, the rates are higher in younger generations. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sunshiner 1,054 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 That must have been a really difficult decision. I don't even know you but I'm proud of you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Си�у Пак 19,117 Posted September 4, 2013 Share Posted September 4, 2013 Congratulations! They can be, yes. But on average, they tend to be better -- pretty much in every society where there is progress on LGBT acceptance, the rates are higher in younger generations. Lol what? A few months ago France finally allowed gay marriage. And at that point more than 100 000 person were walking in every big city of france every week end protesting against it and asking the law to be removed. And surprisingly, the people leading those protests were all youngsters in their 20s saying "a child needs a father and a mother" or "they (as in us gays) can do whatever they want in their houses, but marriage is sacred" and that kind of crap. Its not because you see people say "we have nothing against gays" that they are actually open or accepting of homosexuality. Anyway i dont want this thread to turn into a debate over homosexuality, but sadly we are very far from having LGBT acceptance even in the "developped" countries in younger generations (even if yes, the rate is a bit higher) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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