Any only child hybrid introverts here? How is it like to have a friend?

[LoneIntrov3rt]

Just curious, this is what I believe happens in real world, after watching several dramas ofcourse.

 

Level1        Level2                  Level4               Level5

friends - relationships- long real relationship- marriage.

 

 

I am 27yo, I have never been at level 1.

 

[Nev Schulman]

your display is so cute ^^

[Riri]

Just curious, this is what I believe happens in real world, after watching several dramas ofcourse.

 

Level1        Level2                  Level4               Level5

friends - relationships- long real relationship- marriage.

 

 

I am 27yo, I have never been at level 1.

same

[Ash-]

well I'm an only child and i'd say I'm a total extrovert outside home kind of to make up for how much i am an introvert @ home?!?  lool.. sry i dont think that may make sense but thats just what i've personally noticed.. 

[LoneIntrov3rt]

well I'm an only child and i'd say I'm a total extrovert outside home kind of to make up for how much i am an introvert @ home?!?  lool.. sry i dont think that may make sense but thats just what i've personally noticed.. 

Not sure if you are as Hybrid as me. But an only child who had little or no contact with same age kids during childhood is tend to be a hybrid, in order to win a position in a group or get along with new ppl, he/she will pose to be extrovert and be excellent at leading but when alone or at home, will always be introvert.

[HOMEWRECKER]

I'm an a only child and I'm an introvert. I don't have a truckload of friends, but those few whom I can call friends are good enough for me.

[Summer_Equinox]

No, i used to be an introvert when i was younger but idk what you mean by child hybrid introvert

Its really fun having friends irl, you can talk to them about everything and anything, even bad/unpopular opinions, it really relieves your stress. You feel a part of something and you might feel emotionally invested in your relationship with your friends; if there are fights you feel hurt and want to cry. After middle school people were so friendly, that i became a bit more of an extrovert

[Ash-]

Not sure if you are as Hybrid as me. But an only child who had little or no contact with same age kids during childhood is tend to be a hybrid, in order to win a position in a group or get along with new ppl, he/she will pose to be extrovert and be excellent at leading but when alone or at home, will always be introvert.

 

lmao yhh i think i might unconsciously be doing that too. hey fellow hybrid but even at home I'm loud and noisy just. that it's not as much as when I'm outside ^_^ 

[daisyj6]

I'm exactly 10 years younger than you, but I really have this feeling that I won't get past level 1 any soon. I'm just really socially awkward. And when I finally made a so-called friend, I can't make it last long-- not because I'm easily upset or something, but because I always tend to avoid/ignore my friends after socializing, because socializing is really exhausting for me. Especially after school. Sometimes I just can't get my work done because I'm tired and I just need some time for my self only, to relax..

 

I only have friends because they're my classmates, because we see each other almost every day, but when next school year separates us, you can't really expect me to initiate and make a date with you. If I ever feel like contacting that friend again, I won't, because I feel awkward suddenly calling her to hang out after not having talked to each other for like over an year.

 

I'm just not a strong one in relationships. I'm also someone who gives a lot and won't ask anything in return. If we have different opinions, I eventually almost always give in, because I don't really feel like debating. I feel bad really easily, so I almost never eat in front of my 'friend', or if I don't have food with me, I won't go buy something from the vending machine downstairs, because I have to leave her alone while I get a snack that may be yummier than hers. It's like I'm afraid to lose a friend, who is not really a real friend, so I'll please them whenever to keep them from leaving me...

 

 

well I'm an only child and i'd say I'm a total extrovert outside home kind of to make up for how much i am an introvert @ home?!?  lool.. sry i dont think that may make sense but thats just what i've personally noticed.. 

 

I'm total opposite. Extravert at home, introvert outside home.

 

Edit: Oh wait I'm not only child :P. I have younger 3 siblings. I feel most close to my younger sister and my father. So I always try to do stuff with them, like shopping or watching movies.

[LoneIntrov3rt]

I'm exactly 10 years younger than you, but I really have this feeling that I won't get past level 1 any soon. I'm just really socially awkward. And when I finally made a so-called friend, I can't make it last long-- not because I'm easily upset or something, but because I always tend to avoid/ignore my friends after socializing, because socializing is really exhausting for me. Especially after school. Sometimes I just can't get my work done because I'm tired and I just need some time for my self only, to relax..

 

I only have friends because they're my classmates, because we see each other almost every day, but when next school year separates us, you can't really expect me to initiate and make a date with you. If I ever feel like contacting that friend again, I won't, because I feel awkward suddenly calling her to hang out after not having talked to each other for like over an year.

 

I'm just not a strong one in relationships. I'm also someone who gives a lot and won't ask anything in return. If we have different opinions, I eventually almost always give in, because I don't really feel like debating. I feel bad really easily, so I almost never eat in front of my 'friend', or if I don't have food with me, I won't go buy something from the vending machine downstairs, because I have to leave her alone while I get a snack that may be yummier than hers. It's like I'm afraid to lose a friend, who is not really a real friend, so I'll please them whenever to keep them from leaving me...

 

 

 

I'm total opposite. Extravert at home, introvert outside home.

 

Edit: Oh wait I'm not only child :P. I have younger 3 siblings. I feel most close to my younger sister and my father. So I always try to do stuff with them, like shopping or watching movies.

We are very alike, although You will be fine, since you have siblings to take care of you, and be a mirror at your sad times they'll make you boost forward.

[bluesclues]

I'm quite introverted in social settings myself but i'm also very confident of myself. Not in a cocky way, just accepting of who I am and what I may lack in so I have quite a few acquaintances.

 

Luckily enough I've found 4 lifelong friends quite early on in my life, one in 3rd grade and 3 in high school. Granted I had to push myself to open up and trust them in a way I never had before and that was really uncomfortable at the start. But the benefits of doing that outweighed that momentary awkwardness by hundreds of miles. Plus the hardest time is the first time, then it gets so much easier and pleasant. I hope you can push yourself out of your comfort zone regardless of your age since you can never be too old to make a good friend. 

[Reiz]

Not sure if you are as Hybrid as me. But an only child who had little or no contact with same age kids during childhood is tend to be a hybrid, in order to win a position in a group or get along with new ppl, he/she will pose to be extrovert and be excellent at leading but when alone or at home, will always be introvert.

oh, thats me, but maybe Im not as introvert as you. I have friends even tho not alot, I had relationships with girls before, but couldnt last longer than a year.

I think my socializing needs is actually a little bit high, but its kinda repressed bcus of some bad experiences in the past. I also dont like being a center of attention. But my nurturing needs (the need to help and protect other people close to me, especially girls) is high. Sometimes I become overprotective

 

btw, I think what you described is purely an introvert. Extrovert people gets their 'energy' from socializing. So if you dont, it cant be called 'hybrid'. I havent heard that kind of term before

[Serenee]

I'm an only child and an introvert.

 

It was very rare for me to meet kids my age when I was little, so I've had an disadvantage from the start. In middle school, my classmates hated me, isolated me and made fun of me a lot. My best friend from general school left me because my image would affect hers and joined some of the cool kids. My crush rejected me in 8th grade. Even if today, I understand were my fault was (too awkward, too sensitive, too drama queen-ish sometimes, overshadowed them by being the best in the class), they didn't have the right to play with my self confidence like that. After leaving middle school, my self worth was under the water. 

 

11th grade. I have two great roommates (I live at boarding school) whom I consider intimate friends, my deskmate is also a really nice girl. I gained some social skills and hope for humanity. 

 

The thing is, my current classmates are really great friends. I have no fear to talk with them about the most intimate things. This is why I think I accomplished level 1, as for now (I will lose them after finishing high school, I want to cry). But I would never, ever, see myself in a relationship. It's just, not me. I'll probably stuck at level one all my life.

[Slowpoke X]

Does it really matter whether you are an introvert or an extrovert?

 

My friend is an extrovert, but has only close friends and not many "casual" friends. Because being really busy with school does that to you.

 

If you don't go out, you won't have friends. Simple as that. Spending time on computer with anime and kpop, or hanging out with your family won't get people new friends. Simply going to various places increases chances of meeting a friend 300 times. And the second step, keeping contacts and hanging out with people you've met. Without those two steps it's really hard to make a friend.

[Reiz]

Does it really matter whether you are an introvert or an extrovert?

 

My friend is an extrovert, but has only close friends and not many "casual" friends. Because being really busy with school does that to you.

 

If you don't go out, you won't have friends. Simple as that. Spending time on computer with anime and kpop, or hanging out with your family won't get people new friends. Simply going to various places increases chances of meeting a friend 300 times. And the second step, keeping contacts and hanging out with people you've met. Without those two steps it's really hard to make a friend.

Im not sure if your friend is an extrovert.

Being extrovert is not the same as being active and easygoing, introvert is not the same as being shy. There are some people who are a shy extroverts. Maybe your friend is an active and easygoing introvert?

 

Introvert and extrovert is about how the person gets their 'energy'. If its from socializing, then he/she is extrovert. Then usually he/she has many 'casual' friends. He/she would like to hang out with friends, most of the time.

While introvert gets their 'energy' from doing things alone.

[Slowpoke X]

Im not sure if your friend is an extrovert.

Being extrovert is not the same as being active and easygoing, introvert is not the same as being shy. There are some people who are a shy extroverts. Maybe your friend is an active and easygoing introvert?

 

Introvert and extrovert is about how the person gets their 'energy'. If its from socializing, then he/she is extrovert. Then usually he/she has many 'casual' friends. He/she would like to hang out with friends, most of the time.

While introvert gets their 'energy' from doing things alone.

Pretty sure lol. Like yeah, my friend used to spend more than 60 hours on school a week. That leaves little time for socializing. 

But really really likes hanging out with people, and I guess then true nature comes out.

 

I guess it's possible to be like that lol

 

I think social introverts really behave differently. Like having lots of friends and easily becoming popular, but they don't always like to hang out with people they've met.

[Entropy]

I'm an only child and introvert and growing up my parents were always away, so I have had to take care of myself early on, and even at home I was alone most of the time. I did hang out with cousins and neighborhood kids growing up (because my parent made me) but apparently that doesn't make any difference because I flop at relationships.

 

I think I'm very much introvert and not hybrid. However I can be a capable leader in times when no one steps up, and I swoop to action when there's a problem or emergency. I'm surprisingly somewhat nurturing and I'm a good teacher. People generally enjoy my leadership.

 

I have like 2 people who I consider my friend but I'm not super close to them. We  hang out and talk from time to time but they're not like someone I can talk to about everything. Plus they have other friends who are closer to them than I am. I used to be better at making friends but as an adult its nearly impossible.

 

As for relationships, I get lots of initial interest and I get approached a lot but its all downhill from there. I run everyone away because I'm so awkward. Sometimes I sit back and laugh at all the awkward shit I did/said. I know all of the pitfalls and rules yet I still make the same mistakes. Maybe somehow I have incorporated the social awkwardness into part of my personality and think I would be boring shell of a human being if stripped of that because I made myself think its cute/funny when no one actually thinks it is. I have never gotten any further than dates. There was one person who appreciated my personality for the most part but that never ended up being an official relationship for reasons I won't explain but at the end of the day its all linked to being an only child.

 

I have a cousin who is also an only child and he fared better than me. He has a ton of friends, and he is in a long term relationship, great in his  career. Even though I find him way more socially awkward than I am he managed all of that. I think males are allowed some level of social awkwardness, while females are expected to be better socially.

[LoneIntrov3rt]

m male, I had problems, still do, going to a new store, and ordering stuff. I had litrary searched how to order something at a coffee shop, I had searched how to behave in a gym. I have no fashion sense. I wear all black, everything I own is black, as I believe its a general colour everyone is okay with. I wear the same jeans for a week, hei its not dirty so why not? I use the same phone for years, hei its not broken, works fine. I use cheap mp3 players instead of using my phone to listen to music, saves me battery, but in others eyes I might look a bit weird, but hei, i dont need to own an iphone if i dont need it. Why whould I be a slave like others and get a $80 monthly plan of 3yrs contract to own an iphone and brag about it? I rarely get calls. The only calls are from my job, I cant recall exactly when I called even a class mate in past 3 years. I am shunted coz I dont understand the street talk, or dont find it funny to talk behind someones back. I have never liked using vulger speech, thats one of the biggest reason m an introvert, as back in school, and even now, because of this I dont get along with others. Hei m better n language why should I use vulger words to describe my emotions? Getting in conversation is hard, as I dont like talking about other people, I find it a low life job to talk about others or about girls. I find that everyone around me is thirsty and desperate for girlfriends, phones, drinks. I get excited when people talk about subjects that I like, science, history, space , novels, but I get shunted for knowing too much, for not accepting their lies.

 

I have over 150 friends on facebook, but not a single of them talk. If I post something I rarely get any likes or comments. I have found several of mine old high school friends on facebook, they dont talk back. Yet they are in my friendslist and I am in theirs.

 

Contrary to my personality, since I am hybrid, so I am also talkiative, and will talk alot with my classmates or workmates, if I am comfortable with them. Although the amount of subjects that we tackle is super limited to study only. One reason I had to change and become a hybrid, was that I wanted to improve my english by talking to others. Until the age of 18 yrs, I was a complete introvert and shy. Everyone around me were younger than me, and still now everyone around me are even 10 yrs younger than me.

These are the perks of being me.

 

To change myself a bit, I went for penpal sites and installed kakotalk. Same thing all over again, after a super long conversation, no one talks back. I wonder if its me, or that how the world really works.

 

Sry for this verbal burp.

[ScarletWhimsy]

I've reached level 2. But for some reason, I've been currently more inclined to focus on figuring out who I am myself..and in that process, I'm finding it harder and harder to get along with a lot of people...

[LoneIntrov3rt]

Well all only-child introverts wanna add me as your friend? Lets chat together.