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This might be quite long for those of you with "special needs" and whine about "tl;dr" and having to read.

As a warning, if you don't want to read me spilling out my feelings like a MANNNN, then scroll down to the bottom of my post for a tl;dr version.

 

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Well.. hey everyone!

 

Lately this summer, almost every one of my friends has converted from silly & clean borderline nerds, to extremist party animals who get wasted every other day. I'm not saying this as a negative thing, but some of my friends are followers and others fall easily to peer pressure. Other friends on the other hand are still not yet completely mature about who they are and have a "YOLO" kind of mindset. In other words, 100% of my guy friends drink like no tomorrow, and some are even experimenting with drugs (they think I don't know but I'm smarter than they think). 2 months ago, one of my friends listened to soft/hard rock. The other day he drove me somewhere and he was blasting "UNTZ UNTZ" music - a complete 180 from the taste he had prior to the summer.

 

My friends aren't swagilicious worshippers or asian sluts. I believe they're still good people... all of them did well in school and they all have awesome dictinct personalities that I love. But what really bothers me is how they transformed into these sort of wild childs after we graduated from high school. We're going into university soon and I'm genuinely worried about them.

 

Sometimes I wonder if I'm too conservative. We're all 17/18 right now, and I'm actually the oldest. Most people in our school start drinking when they're 15/16, and we're already "late" in that sense. But I still maintain my wish to not drink. It's not that I'm some kind of bible-thumping, health freaking, delusional douchebag who bashes on people who do; I just never found the point in drinking because it tastes bad number one, and number two because I don't need to lose my mind to have fun. 

 

Not brushing my teeth / taking a shower, acting a fool and sleeping in the floor is also not my thing...

 

I don't have anything against drinking. By all means, go ahead and have fun! I don't regret NOT going out to these drinking parties. Rather, I'd have more regret harboured in my heart if I DID. I just dislike how my friends have gone all commando and think they're the shit just because they're exercising their livers 80% more than the average human being.

 

I want my old friends back. 

 

None of them make fun of me for not joining in. Instead, they really try and push me to make that step over the line with them. But I'm not a follower - it's not in my nature to have fun in that kind of way. Some of you might call me a "pussy" or say "be a man", but you know what? Manliness and maturity isn't defined by a beverage - it's about asserting your beliefs and the standards that you raise for yourself, especially in the face of pressure and influence by people around you and your environment. It's about sheilding your integrity and living the way you want to live regardless of what other people think. That's my definition, at least.

 

Am I too conservative? Should I just accept that my friends have moved on? Do you think I'm being stupid? Am I overreacting?

 

It'd be great to get your opinions and maybe even some of your stories regarding this topic as well.

 

 

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tl;dr:

 

My friends have transformed into different people and get wasted every other day after we've graduated from high school.

I, on the other hand, have chosen to stick with who I am and what I want, because I don't like alcohol and have no interest in it.

Sometimes I feel worried for them or feel a little left out because of it, but I still am close friends with everybody. 

 

Do you party hard? 

Are your friends hard party goers?

What are your thoughts on alcohol/drugs, and when did you first try them if you did at all?

 

 

Thanks to whoever has the time to read and/or respond.

I'd be really grateful if you could keep your responses relevant and mature. Thanks ^^

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Good for you. If you aren't into that stuff then you shouldn't participate in it. You're not being too conservative, as long as you aren't shaming them for doing these things. And by your post it seems like you aren't, soi think you are fine the way you are. Yeah you might feel left out, that happens. I dont want to tell you to find new friends who have similar beliefs as you, because that gets boring. But if you are really feeling left out idk what else to say. Maybe find refuge in Internet forums?

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No, I don't think you're too conservative. Yes, people change, and you're going to a university so you shouldn't worry too much about them.

There are many opportunities to meet new people in uni as long as you are open minded. 

 

No, I don't party hard and I don't have friends that do those things either. 

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party hard? yes sometimes. I have some friends who like to party with all the money and ofc drugs are their bestfriend, I'm just a good guy who enjoy drinking alcohol but it's not my daily life. I can control my drink tolerance until once my boss choked me with every liquor on the table, eventhough I told him I'm driving that night. 

 

do you ever try soju? haha 

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OP I want to point out one thing you said,

Instead, they really try and push me to make that step over the line with them. But I'm not a follower - it's not in my nature to have fun in that kind of way. Some of you might call me a "pussy" or say "be a man", but you know what? Manliness and maturity isn't defined by a beverage - it's about asserting your beliefs and the standards that you raise for yourself, especially in the face of pressure and influence by people around you and your environment. It's about sheilding your integrity and living the way you want to live regardless of what other people think. That's my definition, at least.

 

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That's the gospel for the day.

 

To me, it sounds like your friends are just enjoying their new found freedom. Out of highschool, without the supervision of any authority figure?A person will go and do whatever they want, or whatever they've always wanted to do without being told no and it sounds pretty normal. However, drinking and partying everyday or every other day can be problematic. For one, it isn't healthy and two if it does get out of control, it can get in the way of university and all of the other aspects of life. I say keep it to the weekends. You don't seem that conservative, you just don't drink and that's honestly okay.

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I totally know what you feel.  I'm 15, but I know a few people who are like that already.  I used to be friends with a girl, who was sweet and fairly dorky but still fun, but she's changed.  She smokes hookah and she drinks sometimes.  It's not that bad compared to some others though.

 

It sounds dumb but I don't ever want to be drunk.  I don't want to lose control of my body, and I'm scared I'll do something I will regret the day after, when my head hurts and I can't remember anything.  

 

Honestly, I try not to, but I really hate it when I see people drink.  Yes, even adults at a celebration.  I dunno, what's the point?  Are you trying to damage your body for one night of fun? Smoking, weed, other drugs are the same.  (Yeah, yeah, marijuana is a herb, blah blah blah, it still makes you high and puts you into an unclear state of mind)

 

I made a similar (kind of) thread like yours.  Check it out?

http://onehallyu.com/index.php?/topic/5327-do-you-think-partyingclubbing-is-well-bad/

 

however, one teeny tiny side of me wants to go clubbing.  Not the part about getting drunk, but having fun, letting loose and dancing.

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This might be quite long for those of you with "special needs" and whine about "tl;dr" and having to read.

As a warning, if you don't want to read me spilling out my feelings like a MANNNN, then scroll down to the bottom of my post for a tl;dr version.

 

-

 

Well.. hey everyone!

 

Lately this summer, almost every one of my friends has converted from silly & clean borderline nerds, to extremist party animals who get wasted every other day. I'm not saying this as a negative thing, but some of my friends are followers and others fall easily to peer pressure. Other friends on the other hand are still not yet completely mature about who they are and have a "YOLO" kind of mindset. In other words, 100% of my guy friends drink like no tomorrow, and some are even experimenting with drugs (they think I don't know but I'm smarter than they think). 2 months ago, one of my friends listened to soft/hard rock. The other day he drove me somewhere and he was blasting "UNTZ UNTZ" music - a complete 180 from the taste he had prior to the summer.

 

My friends aren't swagilicious worshippers or asian sluts. I believe they're still good people... all of them did well in school and they all have awesome dictinct personalities that I love. But what really bothers me is how they transformed into these sort of wild childs after we graduated from high school. We're going into university soon and I'm genuinely worried about them.

 

Sometimes I wonder if I'm too conservative. We're all 17/18 right now, and I'm actually the oldest. Most people in our school start drinking when they're 15/16, and we're already "late" in that sense. But I still maintain my wish to not drink. It's not that I'm some kind of bible-thumping, health freaking, delusional douchebag who bashes on people who do; I just never found the point in drinking because it tastes bad number one, and number two because I don't need to lose my mind to have fun. 

 

Not brushing my teeth / taking a shower, acting a fool and sleeping in the floor is also not my thing...

 

I don't have anything against drinking. By all means, go ahead and have fun! I don't regret NOT going out to these drinking parties. Rather, I'd have more regret harboured in my heart if I DID. I just dislike how my friends have gone all commando and think they're the shit just because they're exercising their livers 80% more than the average human being.

 

I want my old friends back. 

 

None of them make fun of me for not joining in. Instead, they really try and push me to make that step over the line with them. But I'm not a follower - it's not in my nature to have fun in that kind of way. Some of you might call me a "pussy" or say "be a man", but you know what? Manliness and maturity isn't defined by a beverage - it's about asserting your beliefs and the standards that you raise for yourself, especially in the face of pressure and influence by people around you and your environment. It's about sheilding your integrity and living the way you want to live regardless of what other people think. That's my definition, at least.

 

Am I too conservative? Should I just accept that my friends have moved on? Do you think I'm being stupid? Am I overreacting?

 

It'd be great to get your opinions and maybe even some of your stories regarding this topic as well.

 

 

-

 

 

tl;dr:

 

My friends have transformed into different people and get wasted every other day after we've graduated from high school.

I, on the other hand, have chosen to stick with who I am and what I want, because I don't like alcohol and have no interest in it.

Sometimes I feel worried for them or feel a little left out because of it, but I still am close friends with everybody. 

 

Do you party hard? 

Are your friends hard party goers?

What are your thoughts on alcohol/drugs, and when did you first try them if you did at all?

 

 

Thanks to whoever has the time to read and/or respond.

I'd be really grateful if you could keep your responses relevant and mature. Thanks ^^

 

Wow, your post really hit home. I'm already 21 and while I've tasted Alcohol before I don't drink. Like you said, I see no point in forcing myself to drink something that tastes so bad but I have nothing against others doing so. I've been to bars before and the peer pressure is excruciating. It takes so much effort just to say no when you're the prey and those around you want to feed off you. Now, I understand why it is that people fall into that vice. 

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I admire you for not falling to the pressure and joining your friends "just because".

 

Most my friends are like me, we find plenty other clean ways of having loads of fun. I do have some friends tho who 'party hard' but we don't really hang out much because. well, our means of hanging out are different. As much as I wish they'd calm down before they hurt themselves, they're grown people, and if they can't see what's good for them, there's nothing I can do. But seeing how they act at times makes me all the more convinced to NOT engage in that kind of social activity.

 

I'm with you on your stance on drinking. I can drink other stuff that tastes better that doesn't make me act like an idiot at the end of the night and suffer from headaches the next day. I do NOT nor will I ever get the point.

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Thanks everyone for your insight and input, I really appreciate it! ^^

 

All of your posts made me feel better. I'd love to respond to everyone but I'm too lazy... hehe.

However I did take all of your advice, suggestions, and comments to heart. 

 

My respect for onehallyu members just soared... "I-It's greater than 9000"!

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I drank a lot in high school and 1 year after that.

 

Then I became an adult. I lost all interesting in drinking and partying before I became 21, lol. (l guess I was about that iljin life...but I didn't bully people. Just drank and smoked...)

 

Occasionally I still have a house party, but it's only with close friends and family. Lots of alcohol is consumed but its always a good time. 

 

I've never even been to a club......and I have no interest in ever going.

 

Hopefully your friends can learn to balance partying and being responsible. They will regret it when they look back at how they spent the prime of their life and can't remember 2/3rds of it =/ 

 

 

My outlook on life...it's cliche, but everything in moderation. Alcohol is fine but going out and getting wasted all the time is not. Drinking a beer or two a day and occasionally getting shitfaced...I don't see anything wrong with that, but when you do get shitfaced you should still be self aware enough to make responsible decisions. Even when I get drunk I know my limits....if you go to sleep and can't remember what you did that night before, that's something that should be very concerning. You should never drink yourself to that point...you can be drunk and have fun and still remember what you did, lol. 

 

Drugs? Some you should stay far, far away from. Heroine, meth, cocaine, etc...these drugs are not only extremely addicting but deadly and they completely take over your life. Never okay........

 

Marijuana? No big deal. Shouldnt even be illegal in my opinion. Acid, shrooms, and other psychedelics? Okay to try, but something that should be done on a rare occasion....and in a safe environment so if you ahev a bad trip you arent going to harm yourself or others.

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Alright, I'll share my input. 

 

Let's start with your friends. Like them, I had my first taste of alcohol after I graduated from high school. Mind you, I was a goody-good girl, did very well in school, etc., but I wanted to know how being drunk felt like before I went to college. I knew I was going to drink in college so I wanted to know what kind of drunk I am (funny, emotional, angry, chill, etc.) and what my limit is (i.e. how many drinks I can tolerate). I think it's safer to be drunk with your friends first than in a random party in college. Why? Because when you're drunk, you tend to 'let loose' and let go of your inhibitions. It's better to be surrounded by friends (or people you trust) when you're drunk since they are more likely to take care of you. Strangers at a random party won't and you could end up...in bad situations. I'm not saying friends won't take advantage of you, but that depends on the type of friends you make. Anyway, the first time I drank, I got so wasted, but my friends made sure I slept sideways, had water/plastic bag by my side, and drove me home later that night. Yes, I was drinking, but I like to think I was being responsible. There were adults present (parents of one of my friends), and none of us forced anyone to drink more when someone becomes too wasted. Alcohol does not taste good, but I tolerate it because it's fun when you're in a social gathering.

 

I have also noticed that at that point in life (post-high school, beginning in college), people tend to brag about how much they can drink. I admit, I was easily impressed, lol. But don't worry, it's only a phase. No one cares so much after you turn 21. 

 

But anyway, idk if my answer was relevant at all. I didn't really even answer your question, lol. 

 

Are you too conservative? No, not at all.

 

Should you just accept that your friends have moved on? You shouldn't think of it that way. They haven't 'moved on' if you don't let them. If they still want to hang out with you but you judge them for drinking, then it's you who have moved on. You are friends with them because they're fun to hang out with and talk to. If your ideals are still the same as theirs, then you guys won't drift away. Idk how college works wherever you are, but for my case, I went out of state for college, and I didn't keep in touch with A LOT of my high school friends, which is okay since I made tons more in college. In a sense, we all moved on. 

 

Do I think you're being stupid/overreacting? Again, no, not at all. It's not stupid. Different strokes for different folks. 

 

Anyway, I hope I was able to share a different perspective. In no way do I condone drinking/partying, but just understand that there is a difference between drinking in a social gathering for fun and drinking by yourself to forget your problems. The latter is not healthy and is considered alcoholism. 

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meh, the taste of alcohol only appeals me when I'm like thirsty. 

 

Some wild part in me wants to party hard lol but I'm still conscious enough to think that I'd probably have to deal with the consequences after that not knowing wth I've done the day before.

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Only dead fish swim with the stream

Maybe you should try to look up their reasons and fight against them?

They are probably enjoying the new freedom they got or try to celebrate their graduation?I don't know the exact circumstances since I don't know them personally

 

But what should you do now?

Abandoning your friends ?

When they may need you the most ?

Joining and becoming one of them ?

Trying to talk to them ?..

 

 

All of this possible options have advantages and disadvantages but I'm not the one who makes the decision for you I just give tips or hints it's up to you

Just think what you are and stand for

Then make your decision but always be ready to bear the responsibility

Those who shoot should always be prepared to be shot

 

 

No I don't

I have some who do and sometimes pestering me with drinking some beer for trivial things though like oh today is wednesday or oh today is such a nice weather let's drink

Some of them are probably already alcoholics tbqh

But they avoid any help I try to give them so I can't really do that much

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[uPDATE]

 

A few of my friends drank so much for the past few weeks that they're taking a "break" from drinking. 

On the other hand, a few other of my friends have gotten worse with drugs -.-'''

Maybe I'll drink a cooler or two in the future.

 

As always thanks for the thoughtful responses...

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