Why Girl Code and Girls sticking together is SOOO Important [ This Needed to be posted after that GG thread]

[BeachAngel]

After that GG Thread. I felt that I needed to post this because I don't think you all understand the importance of just simply having each other backs. Not the same issues but still hold significant importance. 

 

After reblogging that last post It made me realise how important it is to have another woman’s back. I remember one time back in that states I was out to a club with a bunch of my friends. It’s a very popular club for college students at the surrounding universities and its a 2 level club. So its always packed with all types of people. For sweet people to crazy drunks and to men who creep on vulnerable women. I remember some gross dude hitting on me and I was utterly disgusted. I wasn't interested and he just wouldn’t let it go. 

 

Eventually he got sick of me and decided to approach this girl who was drunk and asking. â€œWhere are my friendsâ€... â€œWhere are my friends†mind you I don't know this girl period. I’m sober as hell and she’s clearly wasted on her ass. She stumbling and holding her shoes in her hand.

 All my friends are drunk. Except  one of my friends who barely drunk. More tipsy so to say. She kept eying the guy and the girl just knowing the situation is fucked up as soon as the guy approached the wasted girl and said. â€œI’ll take you too your friends†... me and my friend looked at each other and I knew she was telling me help her. 

 

I immediately grabbed her and said â€œI’m here†and the guy kept trying to fight me off saying. â€œNo, I got this. She asked for my help†and she said â€œNo, No, No, No I didn’t†and I looked at him and Said. â€œI’m her friendâ€... she looked at me she barely can hold it together and I gave her a wink and she said. â€œShe’s my friend. She’s taking me†.. but he said. Stop lying and he tried pushing me out the way I fought him off pretty easy because he’s also pretty drunk.

 

The girl kept saying she’s amazing. She’s got me. I basically had a hard time getting the guy off us, but eventually me and her get away from the guy. So me and her are making our way through the club. They started saying “Last Call†and she started crying and saying. I can’t find my friends. I’m so sorry to me. I told here its okay. Mind you this creep is still sort of following us.

I asked her if she needed a ride home or a taxi. She said no, but could you stay with me until I find my friends. I agreed and I did. The guy was still following us as if I wouldn't notice..

 

She was telling me I’m scared... I’m scared and I said me too, but I got you. So I held her tighter. He so close to walking up to us again. The club is swarming with people left and right and its hard to walk because I have 5 inch heels on and the floor is wet. She started grabbing me tighter and forcing us through people because the guy is basically behind us. 

I’m freaking out because in order to get outside the club you have to walk through a dark tunnel with flashing lights and I’m panicking and looking back and she’s shaking. I’m so thankful that the tunnel was packed because he would have jumped on us.... but all I heard was Ashlynn and she pulled me and ran..

 

We  found her friends. When I turned back he was gone. The girl gave me a big hug and said. Thank You for everything and said I was a sweetheart. I told her anytime and I patted her on the back and we went off our separate ways. Just like that. It felt like an hour.. 

Because we had to make it  through two flights of steps and him watching us. We had to walk through the billiards area and people all over the place and make it through a tunnel and it felt like an hour, but it was only 6 mins. 

 

I’ve never in my life knew how important that moment was until my last reblog.

Women no matter what. We  HAVE GOT to stick together in situations like that. NEVER be afraid to speak up or be there for another woman. NEVER.

 

I’m so glad that I don't drink because I seriously wonder what would have happened If I never grabbed on to her and her just going with it.

Like I seriously wonder what if.. don't ever feel bad for being the DD or the â€œSober friend†you can save a life you never knew you’d save.

[NORIKIYO]

You should write a book

[ToujoursSistar]

Amazing

I also don't really drink and your story makes me want to keep it that way

[ErikaEGO]

They should talk about this on that show "Girl Code" 

[aripod]

that's really sweet. i generally avoid clubs for this reason, but it's really creepy when someone can't take no to the point where someone else has to take the situation into their hands to intervene.

 

i'm glad the girl ended up safe but it's fucked how that predatory bastard probably tried this multiple times. hopefully he gets what he deserves for being a punk ass.

[Blonde Jeonghan]

What GG thread?

[GirlGroupTrash]

i'm glad that I have friends who would do that for me and I would do it for them no problem. especially in college. you're an amazing person, really, for stepping up and helping that girl. she could've been really hurt if she went with that guy.

[dishdash]

dude when i was reading this... i legit almost started crying. it is so sad that even after that girl said no- and that she wanted to leave with you- that that guy had the audacity to continue and try to take her- and put his hands on you guys. but yeah this is why girls always should travel in packs. i've even discussed it with my friend- and she says that if i were to get drunk- she wouldn't because someone needs to take care of me. i didn't think of it much at the time but i am so grateful to her. but i'm also saddened that we live in a world where we women in particular, have to be this cautious because someone may take advantage of us when we are drunk.

[BeachAngel]

i'm glad that I have friends who would do that for me and I would do it for them no problem. especially in college. you're an amazing person, really, for stepping up and helping that girl. she could've been really hurt if she went with that guy.

I wouldn't have been able to live with that knowing i could have helped. I've seen and heard to many women get adducted and raped to just let that shit slide.

 

Thats why this women vs women shit pisses me off

[BeachAngel]

dude when i was reading this... i legit almost started crying. it is so sad that even after that girl said no- and that she wanted to leave with you- that that guy had the audacity to continue and try to take her- and put his hands on you guys. but yeah this is why girls always should travel in packs. i've even discussed it with my friend- and she says that if i were to get drunk- she wouldn't because someone needs to take care of me. i didn't think of it much at the time but i am so grateful to her. but i'm also saddened that we live in a world where we women in particular, have to be this cautious because someone may take advantage of us when we are drunk.

Yeah. I don't mind not drinking. Its not my style anyways. I've had to many times were males approach me and try to take advantage, but I'm never drunk enough to let it happen.

 

I use to be in a sorority back in the US and a girlfriend of mines when to a frat party and got roofed. I didnt go because I had to study. She came to me crying and in tears about it a few days later. :( She never reported it 

[~Shining Diamond~]

Good on you, OP, for doing this! I think us, as woman should protect ourselves and each other. Obviously, no one else is gonna do that for us, so the onus lies with ourselves. 

 

Personally, I wouldn't even bother going to a club or even getting drunk cause there are so many creepy mf's out there ready to take advantage of any slight vulnerability. But, everyone's different, some like clubs and some don't., But ultimately, women should be very, very careful. Also, men should be taught respect from young ages, because too many have 0 home training.

[BeachAngel]

Good on you, OP, for doing this! I think us, as woman should protect ourselves and each other. Obviously, no one else is gonna do that for us, so the onus lies with ourselves. 

 

Personally, I wouldn't even bother going to a club or even getting drunk cause there are so many creepy mf's out there ready to take advantage of any slight vulnerability. But, everyone's different, some like clubs and some don't., But ultimately, women should be very, very careful. Also, men should be taught respect from young ages, because too many have 0 home training.

exactly. I don't like going out but I don't want a few MF's mess that up for me. I just feel its important to be careful 100% and just look out for other women as well. You don't have to know them just a simple looking out for each other is important. Its sad I have to be very careful and on top of that be 10x's as careful but you cant let ur guard down not in this day in age

[Sun☼Shine]

That must've been so scary!

You're a real sweetheart for helping that girl and sticking with her until you knew she was safe.

 

It is incredibly important that girls stick together and look out for one another, especially in these types of situations.

I know men laugh at us for going to the bathroom in groups, but how many times do we hear of women being assaulted on their way to/from or in a bathroom.

 

This reminds me of when I had to ride the city bus to school and this older guy was creepin' on me. The older girls on the bus swarmed around me and said to him I was their younger sister (believe me, we didn't look related at all) and to back off.

[BeachAngel]

That must've been so scary!

You're a real sweetheart for helping that girl and sticking with her until you knew she was safe.

 

It is incredibly important that girls stick together and look out for one another, especially in these types of situations.

I know men laugh at us for going to the bathroom in groups, but how many times do we hear of women being assaulted on their way to/from or in a bathroom.

 

This reminds me of when I had to ride the city bus to school and this older guy was creepin' on me. The older girls on the bus swarmed around me and said to him I was their younger sister (believe me, we didn't look related at all) and to back off.

^^^^^^^^ I feel that 100%

 

Me my friend back home use to say we were gay and hold each other hands. Yet that never stopped men to come to us. I use to always get call me when your 18. LIKE WTF. 

 

We go to the rest room for those reasons assault against women is a serious issue. I wont go to rest room by myself when I'm in a place where mostly men are. :/ 

[Slowpoke X]

I have a few female friends who used to never trust another girl, and that's because of past sufferings 99% from other girls. But then life showed through examples stuff like this, and showed that it's possible to have devoted female friends, who aren't backstabbers and accept the way you are.

 

I guess girl code can exist. 

[BeachAngel]

I have a few female friends who used to never trust another girl, and that's because of past sufferings 99% from other girls. But then life showed through examples stuff like this, and showed that it's possible to have devoted female friends, who aren't backstabbers and accept the way you are.

 

I guess girl code can exist. 

Its hard tho because women do have trust issues with other women... and I wish we didnt have that I wish things like looking out for each other was talked about more