KinkySanta 1,073 Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 So I decided to break up with my guy about a month ago. I wanted to go on at least one date after the breakup, so I wouldn't become that person that gets afraid of dating once they go through a break up. I decided to make an Okcupid premium account to find one, because there is no way in hell I was gonna go on one date with someone I already know. I ended up finding a guy who looked pretty cute not as cute my ex, but pretty decent you know? I went on one date with him and it went pretty well, so I decided to see him a couple more times. Things got pretty hot today and we were about to take things further. When he drops the big one on me, he never slept with any of his exes... he's a virgin! Now I'm kinda reconsidering sleeping with him. Because he already says he sees me as a girlfriend and I mean I'm fine with that, but is it true about virgins getting more attached to the person they lose their virginity to? I'm not thinking of hitting and quitting it, but I'm not about to get into some super attached texting every day relationship, and he's already texting almost everyday. Should I stay away? In your experience do virgins really get more attached. He's a nice guy and a great kisser, so I kinda want to. I'm a little bit scared of being someone's first though. Plus I don't want him to want to see me all the time since he's like an hour away and I'm really not ready to have my old car kick the bucket just because I wanted to hop back into the "getting laid often train". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HANBIN 3,918 Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 honestly...sounds like a stage four clinger in-the-making. my advice is to steer clear and invest in a nice vibrator that isn't going to make you feel guilty for screening phone calls and avoiding borderline mushy texts. regardless, good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lisssie 3,872 Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 He already seems clingy as it is, so I imagine it'll get 20x worse if you sleep with him. If you're not wanting the cling (I don't blame you there) or your car breathing it's last breath, I wouldn't do it. Good luck with this predicament. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KissontheW1nD 5,731 Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 If you aren't serious about the relationship, then just tell him. If he gets offended or hurt by it then oh well, you aren't attached anyway. It'll be better to be honest and upfront. And to answer your question, yes they do. I know because when I lost my virginity I had a two year dry spell in which I fantasized about the guy who took it whenever I got horny. It's kinda like that saying about never getting over your first love - you never forget your first penis / vajayjay Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clay 11,273 Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 it's all up to you actually. Mainly virgins do get attached to their first slept-with gf/bf, which is very normal since having sex for the first time is something sensual and hardly emotional, unforgettable. So if you're actually hitting on this date just to pass time, have fun or as you said, not seem like the Icandateaftermybreakup type, then try to let him, he'll get more attached and I dont know how much of a patience you have. But if you're really interested in the dude and all and you feel like you can handle him and be his virgnity loss reason, you could keep up with him. it really depends on him, since it really differs from one to other ...goodluck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeeYaWithYou 4,415 Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 The solution is that after he loses his virginity to you tell him how awful he is and that way he won't have fond memories of it...that way he won't be as clingy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kagehina 802 Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 just be honest with him, you know like tell him you're not looking for anything that serious or that you aren't comfortable sleeping with him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
˹AS˼ 3,610 Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 "We met on OkCupid....what you expect? MARRIAGE?? Bye Felicia. I hope you remember me for how good I was in bed. Made you a MAN that day" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
exoticinspirit 497 Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 He seems clingy already and that will most likely make it worse. Find a new boytoy tbh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unafraid 187 Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 Honesty is always best! (Not always but whatever) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pleasure 2,956 Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 if you're not serious about him and just want to get laid, end it right now. don't be a heart breaker!!! at least you're kind enough to see the situation you're in so you can avoid it. I think you shouldn't go any further with him because he will get attached. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dazzlingpaw 819 Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 Tbh I don't believe in the concept of virginity, but this guy is probably different from me. Just be honest with him, communication is important. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil 139 Posted June 28, 2015 Share Posted June 28, 2015 Well knowing he's a virgin, you should ask yourself if you really really like him because it is his first time... because you never forget your first, or so i've been told, relationships can come and go but it's the present and if you think it could at least be a long term relationship I say go for it. So what if he gets attached ? you may too, you never know Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roamingcat 767 Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 Whether it's mutually consented casual sex or turning into something more serious, as long as you two are on the same page, it's fine. However, based on what you just described, I think it's best you refrain from getting in bed with him, unless you are sure you're ready to be in a relationship with him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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