maidoan97 743 Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 I know it sounds selfish but seriously, I want to experience love but I don't want to get married, because when I get married, I will have to deal with in-law relationships (in my country, lots of people have bad relationship with their mother-in-law) and have children. I don't want to deal with the pain when I give birth and I think I'm not responsible enough to raise a child. Not to mention that lots of guys cheat even when they are married. So I think marriage will give me a lot of hardships rather than happiness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xharuharux 2,487 Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 dating does not always = marriage you can date multiple people, and then if you find the right person you should have a relationship with him. And communicate with him all your feelings ^^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mlssv92 438 Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 Na not really. Marriage isn't suited for everyone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
monochrome. 480 Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 No. There's nothing wrong w/ dating w/o wanting to get married tbh, but you should find a partner who have the same mindset as you do. ^^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cnude 1,928 Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 Getting married doesn't imply having to have kids and I suppose not every mother-in-law is evil. My only concern I have with marriage is the ceremony itself (having to be around a ton of people and being the center of attention). But then again, I could get lucky and meet someone who thinks the wedding part is unnecessary. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skibop!! 8,585 Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 no that's not weird Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ethereal 20,923 Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 lol, there are plenty of married people who never have children, hun. And trust me, when you REALLY love someone, you'll want to get married. Not just because of commitment and what not. But Married couples get a lot of financial benefits, at least in the U.S. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rapmon's Ahjussi Husband 2,299 Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 Just remember to always use a condom if it comes to it to avoid future problems Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xharuharux 2,487 Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 lol, there are plenty of married people who never have children, hun. And trust me, when you REALLY love someone, you'll want to get married. Not just because of commitment and what not. But Married couples get a lot of financial benefits, at least in the U.S. Can i ask what kind of benefits Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
woohyuks 2,105 Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 no not at all Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maidoan97 743 Posted June 1, 2015 Author Share Posted June 1, 2015 Getting married doesn't imply having to have kids and I suppose not every mother-in-law is evil. My only concern I have with marriage is the ceremony itself (having to be around a ton of people and being the center of attention). But then again, I could get lucky and meet someone who thinks the wedding part is unnecessary. lol, there are plenty of married people who never have children, hun. And trust me, when you REALLY love someone, you'll want to get married. Not just because of commitment and what not. But Married couples get a lot of financial benefits, at least in the U.S. The thing is, I have Asian parents, and if I do get married, they will pressure me to have children! Heck, even now they are already saying that they want grandchildren xD and I'm also afraid of their reaction when I tell them that I don't want to get married xD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
haru ☽ 1,299 Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 That's not weird at all, many people don't want to marry or/and have kids and that's completely ok! And, respecting your wants and feelings does not sound selfish to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sakurahanabira 6,634 Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 Nope. I'd like to try dating, but I wouldn't want to get married since it's too much commitment. Not to mention, if my spouse turned out to be abusive (some don't display signs of abuse until after marriage) and I wanted to divorce, it would cost a lot of money and several trips to the divorce courtroom, and I don't want to have to deal with that. My parents divorced when I was young (they had an arranged marriage btw), and I remember they used to go to court a lot in order to settle it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ethereal 20,923 Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 Can i ask what kind of benefits http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/marriage-rights-benefits-30190.html there's all sorts of benefits, financial and other. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xharuharux 2,487 Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/marriage-rights-benefits-30190.html there's all sorts of benefits, financial and other. Thanks, lmao i should look into my countries benefits for marriage haha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xxxnamie 897 Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 It's not weird. There has been a rising number of women who are foregoing marriage and children altogether. If you don't think that marriage (whatever your definition of that may be) is for you then don't get married. If you don't want to have children then don't have children. It's your life. You're not alone in this either. I also have contemplated my own stance on whether marriage is something I want in my own life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ethereal 20,923 Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 Thanks, lmao i should look into my countries benefits for marriage haha definitely do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abra 40,910 Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 not at all Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coconut water 2,135 Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 Nothing wrong with that, I'm the same way. I'll date people but I have zero interest in marriage. You do you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UNIQ 5,546 Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 That's fine, just be sure the other person has the same goal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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