Silktiger 3,227 Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 Would be interested to know whether you guys think it's successful/worth it? Also do you think there's different levels of tiger parenting? Have you had any experiences with tiger parents? I'm doing a presentation on it, and would be interested to hear other people's opinions. Since I know some kids with tiger parents IRL, I interviewed them, and it was interesting to see that most of then had a love/hate relationship- they appreciated how far they had come because they were pushed hard, but thought that they lacked self-confidence, emotional stability, and were underprivileged compared to their peers (it was anonymous). People who didn't classify themselves as having tiger parents tended to have bad opinions on it (I asked them to rate from 1-5, 5 being the worst, the average was around 4.5). Another interesting thing to see was that the average for non-tiger parent people was actually a little bit higher than the average for tiger parent people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sane 16,342 Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 Borderline child abuse tbh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
。Beach Angel 。 955 Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 tiger parenting gives your child... probably... a good job in the future at the cost of a good relationship with you... and probably causes them some mental issues . I really only think it's useful when your child is super young and im sure once they have built up their discipline I don't really know ... it's harder to get a good job and tiger parenting is super common everywhere else but America.... African countries, in asia ...etc etc I'm just not going to have a child,,, too much work and im not up for it either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dead. 2,080 Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 I thought it was bad but then I see some kids who don't have any fear of getting reprimanded with their actions or any sense of responsibility because their parents never pushed them and just handed them everything.. I have a cousin whose parents are pretty lax, and he's 25 but still couldn't finish college, kept changing course, asking for allowances, while hanging out at the clubs. I just?? Too much of anything is bad I guess. Parents should assert their authority but shouldn't take away their kids' freedom to enjoy their childhood. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LeeTaeyong 4,086 Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 It's the ideal parenting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shootingstar 426 Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 What is Tiger parenting? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lassy 124 Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 Personnaly, I am not in favor of Tiger parenting. It is just so harsh. If i'm not wrong, it means you can't play video games, go on your computer etc. Of course, it's necessary to be strict, but NOT all the time. And I don't think Tiger parenting should be applied from a young age. I'm happy that I can remember my childhood as being peaceful, playful, social, etc. With tiger parenting, I think the kid only focuses on studying, has built up some fears/anxiety. The person needs to motivate himself. As for me, although my mom is asian, she wasn't a tiger mom and I'm grateful for that. I actually experience a lot of stress in uni, and I work hard because I don't want to fail. I can't imagine if my high school or middle school years were as hard as that. No free time, no life. It doesn't mean a thing if you get good results in Middle school, you need good results in the last two years of high school. If you make the child work work work from an early stage, they might give up early. That's what happened to one of my aunts, she started being too serious into school early, and she couldn't keep it up when it was high school. Ummm. Not sure if I'm making any sense here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iloveusaitama 318 Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 hmmm i face it myself and its kinda have 50 % good and 50 % bad,me with my parent relationship are pretty bad(we practically dont know each other),i dont even know their birth day,they also dont remember my birth day the good thing is ,it make me stronger when facing the outside world, not a spoiled brat.and i appreciate what they have done,or how they have raise me ,without them i dont even born in this world or survive since they stuff food inside my mouth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MK15 2,108 Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 I guess it depends on your definition of tiger parenting. If I had a kid I think I'd be quite strict (no tv, internet and such before a certain age) and would probably fall under that category but that wouldn't mean I'd be an unsupportive or unloving parent. I can't speak from personal experience because I have no parents but I actually have friends with what you'd call 'tiger parents'; they all come from highly educated families and their parents had huge expectations for their kids (aka they wanted them to maintain the same social class, which is normal) and were super strict with them... and all of them turned out fine and are close to their parents (for the record: we're all around 30 years old now). Tbh I'd say 90% of all the (very) successful people I know had parents like that... but not to an extreme degree (except a few ones, I guess). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deea 6,754 Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 A little maybe because my parents were super nice with me and never put me to study that much or even be strict with me and now I regret it lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
victaorious 2,923 Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 Normal US parents are too lax, little kids are capable of learning a lot so you should go through the effort to put them in extra classes and such that suit their interests, and have high expectations of them and make sure they do their homework, etc. But I knew one girl who had a tiger mom who slapped her because she wasn't the valedictorian. That's waaaaaay too much, your kids don't have to be the best they just have to do well and have goals. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sakurahanabira 6,634 Posted May 31, 2015 Share Posted May 31, 2015 My mother tried to tiger parent me, but she failed. I knew another Vietnamese girl back in middle school whose parents did not allow her to get any lower than an A+. An A or A- was absolutely unacceptable to them and was susceptible to a C, and they considered Bs the equivalent to an F. It was crazy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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