Giselle Queen Mina Knight 387 Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 so in the few years back my friend and i was talking about love and interest and we were saying how we like to meet up one day in the future with our kids but now after two years my friends (almost most of them are engagef and even have children of their own) While I'm here alone single (told them i want to get married when I'm ready and commited getting a decent job, able to support myself and a family if needed while my wife not having to work and able to live our life comfertable and not get into any relationship until I got a decent salary and have my own place) yet when i told them just recently as some of us met a few days ago. They just laughed due to being single still and what made matters worse is the fact the girl i used to have a crush on asked me if I'm still a virgin which i said yes because i don't want to lose it until I'm married and commitied. I know a few of them are in work already but I'm still in education in my first year of university and still a virgin. And have my own goal in life and I'm passionate about. Their all older than me but only by a few months and I'm only 18 coming 19 this year. Am i really that slow or what Coz honestly it feels like that all of them have moved on but I'm still in education single and virgin. Really i dont know anymore On what to think about it.T It just feels they are all moving so fast in life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Latte Macchiato 156 Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 I wouldn't get married with 18 wtf Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cornangel 5,295 Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 no just do you who cares where theyre at its ur life and theres always gonna b ppl else where with similarities to you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
♩ ♪ ♫ ♬ 730 Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 tbh i read this thinking you're 23+ but you're 18 & they're older than you by a few months so they're 18-19 & they're all engaged/having children? where is this? they don't go to college? you're young still.. if you pick a good major in uni with good job prospect then you're not moving slow.. you're making good decisions.. so focus on your studies, get good grades, internships, references & all that. many people are virgin at 18 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jjangbakk 7,293 Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 from another thread here in love & relationship: "just because we're not the fastest...doesn't mean we won't get there" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NATE 516 Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 Being 18 and a virgin is not a big deal. You should always wait until it feels right for you, whether you're a guy or a girl. Don't let people shame you for it. I don't know what country you're from, but here in the states saving marriage and kids for much later in life is the norm. Besides, you want to be financially secure before you marry someone else and have children. Family is much easier to deal with when you have money. Stick to your guns, get your education and get a good ass job. Then in the future, you'll hopefully be able to give your family the kind of life they deserve. The biggest mistake people make is seeking short-term rewards. Delay gratification and the bounty will be so much greater. Your friends may not envy you now, but they will when they see what you've made of yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pink Lipstick 510 Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 We all move at different paces, slower doesn't mean that you're behind/below people it just means that you're moving at a pace comfortable for you. And it's never about getting to places, it's about the climbs, keep your chin up Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pineapple 7,592 Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 You need to take the path in life that makes you happy. Kids and marriage at a young age may be right for them in their lives, and that is their call, but never feel like you need to conform to someone else's idea of what your life should be because they're not the ones living it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
krystalized 1,843 Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 I'm 25 and still single with no job to ever think about kids Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PoshLuxe 689 Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 Their all older than me but only by a few months and I'm only 18 coming 19 this year. Am i really that slow or what Coz honestly it feels like that all of them have moved on but I'm still in education single and virgin. Really i dont know anymore On what to think about it.T It just feels they are all moving so fast in life. Me too. Nothing wrong with it. Go at your own pace. You wanna get married when you're stable? Go for it. Abstinence until marriage? Right on. Do you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hqnnik 1,528 Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 Most people that get married earlier do not lead really happy lives. I'm sorry if I am stereotyping but, do whatever feels right. Settle down only when you know that it is right with the right person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hizu 6,869 Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 Lol, your friends are married and have children at 18???! I think they are the ones who go a bit too fast Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lynnie 1,207 Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 so in the few years back my friend and i was talking about love and interest and we were saying how we like to meet up one day in the future with our kids but now after two years my friends (almost most of them are engagef and even have children of their own) While I'm here alone single (told them i want to get married when I'm ready and commited getting a decent job, able to support myself and a family if needed while my wife not having to work and able to live our life comfertable and not get into any relationship until I got a decent salary and have my own place) That part with your wife not needing to work and being comfortable sounds amazing. You sound great. No honey..you're not slow...I just think they're moving fast, but if they feel ready for it..then why not, know? I think its great that you know what you want. Stay on your path . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smiIey 879 Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 Wow, judging from your post I thought you were like late 20s until you said you were 18. And I think its normal for people to be virgins and have not dated at 18, even in the 20s. It all depends on the person. I myself am 17 going on 18, so. Just be yourself and don't rush losing your virginity or getting into a relationship. Focus on what you want right now, like studying at university. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MeU96 657 Posted May 13, 2015 Share Posted May 13, 2015 so in the few years back my friend and i was talking about love and interest and we were saying how we like to meet up one day in the future with our kids but now after two years my friends (almost most of them are engagef and even have children of their own) While I'm here alone single (told them i want to get married when I'm ready and commited getting a decent job, able to support myself and a family if needed while my wife not having to work and able to live our life comfertable and not get into any relationship until I got a decent salary and have my own place) yet when i told them just recently as some of us met a few days ago. They just laughed due to being single still and what made matters worse is the fact the girl i used to have a crush on asked me if I'm still a virgin which i said yes because i don't want to lose it until I'm married and commitied. I know a few of them are in work already but I'm still in education in my first year of university and still a virgin. And have my own goal in life and I'm passionate about. Their all older than me but only by a few months and I'm only 18 coming 19 this year. Am i really that slow or what Coz honestly it feels like that all of them have moved on but I'm still in education single and virgin. Really i dont know anymore On what to think about it.T It just feels they are all moving so fast in life. This is literally my life. Girl, don't worry, notice that those same friends will always be complaining about bad relationships while all you have to worry about it when the next assignment is due and calculating your semester average so far. People develop differently <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ice_ 1,328 Posted May 13, 2015 Share Posted May 13, 2015 I thought you're around 25+...but 18... No you're not slow. I'm on my third year in university,and some of my friends have gotten family and I thought to myself 'really? Don't want to feel the freedom without family first?' Idk,have a family in 20s is not my call bcos I have some sort of goals to achieve first. Marriage comes last. So,just do what you think is true. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SlaveMaster 1,018 Posted May 13, 2015 Share Posted May 13, 2015 Good luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grumpybiscuit 46 Posted May 14, 2015 Share Posted May 14, 2015 don't worry about it. 18 is just too young to think about this. the time will come for you. when it does, trust me, at least half of your mates will tell you to stay single cos then you find out that they probably gone through some shit with such young age. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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