Jean Grey 2,400 Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 So since today I know I can't have children and being pregnant would probably end up as early miscarriage. The most odd thing is that I am not sad, at all. Which is weird because my doctor said women always cry after such news. I can always adopt children if I want them, so for me it is not a big deal. But now when I think about probably most boys will refuse to marry me which is sad. (I am not worried about girls, though) I just had to say somebody about that, because I don't want to tell my bestfriend about it (yet) so here I am. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YUGYUM!♥ 1,010 Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 aww.. stay strong! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aaaaaa 224 Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 Aww. It's great that you aren't sad about it tho. This world doesn't need more people and children are a pain in the ass. + you don't have to worry about protection when it comes to getting pregnant Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chioma 4,091 Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 Adoption is a beautiful process. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rapmon's Ahjussi Husband 2,299 Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 Did you asked ur doctor abot using ur eggs on another woman ?, would that be risky too ?; I can have children but I wont because this world doesnt deserve something so precious as a child of mine Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ToujoursSistar 7,681 Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 You can always adopt and you will find a man who loves you even if you can't have children Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kororo 359 Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 I'm actually in a similar situation, but the odd thing is that I knew/ felt from a really early age that I would propably never be pregnant. So when tings where confirmed, I was like okay, that's all ?? But my mom was crying like crazy ( she is totally fine now). There is other ways, many children in the world who need a home for life or just a moment and medecin is evolving everyday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mao 696 Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 Stay strong love~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lynnie 1,207 Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 If there's any person that won't take you for who you are then they can go fuck off honestly...... Best wishes! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean Grey 2,400 Posted April 24, 2015 Author Share Posted April 24, 2015 Did you asked ur doctor abot using ur eggs on another woman ?, would that be risky too ?; I can have children but I wont because this world doesnt deserve something so precious as a child of mine I think adoption is better choice in my situation, because I could actually help someone who doesn't have home. I'm actually in a similar situation, but the odd thing is that I knew/ felt from a really early age that I would propably never be pregnant. So when tings where confirmed, I was like okay, that's all ?? But my mom was crying like crazy ( she is totally fine now). There is other ways, many children in the world who need a home for life or just a moment and medecin is evolving everyday. How did you know? My grandmother was also crying like crazy after hearing such news. And thanks everyone for nice words <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*lesigh* 6,759 Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 Someone who truly loves you will love you even if you're infertile. And tbh I'd prefer that people adopt rather than contribute to world overpopulation. That is, if you ever want children. There's also surrogate parents. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unafraid 187 Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 Its okay to not cry, its a good sign. Plus if soneone wont marry you because you cant have children then they dont deserve you. Personally I dont wanna have kids, I rather adopt Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kororo 359 Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 I think adoption is better choice in my situation, because I could actually help someone who doesn't have home. How did you know? My grandmother was also crying like crazy after hearing such news. And thanks everyone for nice words <3 I don't really know, it was something like an intuition, when we played family games when I was a kid I always had a family with know children, or when I got older and talked about futur plans with friends, and the question How many children do you want ? came up, I was always like, I don't think I will have children... never dream of a being pregnant, it was kinda of foreign idea to my mind, but that was is good in a way because I was not horrified or sad when the doctors told me that I could not have any. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean Grey 2,400 Posted April 24, 2015 Author Share Posted April 24, 2015 I don't really know, it was something like an intuition, when we played family games when I was a kid I always had a family with know children, or when I got older and talked about futur plans with friends, and the question How many children do you want ? came up, I was always like, I don't think I will have children... never dream of a being pregnant, it was kinda of foreign idea to my mind, but that was is good in a way because I was not horrified or sad when the doctors told me that I could not have any. Ohhhh it is interesting. And we had the same reaction. I wish you all the best and thank you for such nice words <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blank_stare 2,217 Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 So since today I know I can't have children and being pregnant would probably end up as early miscarriage. The most odd thing is that I am not sad, at all. Which is weird because my doctor said women always cry after such news. I can always adopt children if I want them, so for me it is not a big deal. But now when I think about probably most boys will refuse to marry me which is sad. (I am not worried about girls, though) I just had to say somebody about that, because I don't want to tell my bestfriend about it (yet) so here I am. Don't worry. There will always be a guy who will marry you no matter what. And there are tons of females and males who can't get a child. There are many ways to have a child now a days. So cheer up there's always a silver lining in every clouds. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abra 40,910 Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 I'm glad you handled it so well. As for your worries I'm sure you'll be able to overcome them. Someone who loves you will love you for who you are, biological children or not. One thing you could consider is, if you're in a comitted relationship with a guy, to possibly remove any chances of pregnancy? This way you wouldn't need protection (assuming he's clean) and you wouldn't have to worry about having a miscarriage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean Grey 2,400 Posted April 24, 2015 Author Share Posted April 24, 2015 I'm glad you handled it so well. As for your worries I'm sure you'll be able to overcome them. Someone who loves you will love you for who you are, biological children or not. One thing you could consider is, if you're in a comitted relationship with a guy, to possibly remove any chances of pregnancy? This way you wouldn't need protection (assuming he's clean) and you wouldn't have to worry about having a miscarriage. I'm only 20 right now but I want to have children when I will be 30/35. If I end up with guy, I will definitely do it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Delphine 20,871 Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 But now when I think about probably most boys will refuse to marry me which is sad. (I am not worried about girls, though) If someone doesn't want to marry you because you can't have children, then good riddance, that fuckboy clearly didn't love you enough and you deserve better than that. I empathize with you, but hey, to look things from the bright side, at least you won't have to ruin yourself buying contraceptive pills. These shits can cost A LOT. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean Grey 2,400 Posted April 24, 2015 Author Share Posted April 24, 2015 If someone doesn't want to marry you because you can't have children, then good riddance, that fuckboy clearly didn't love you enough and you deserve better than that. I empathize with you, but hey, to look things from the bright side, at least you won't have to ruin yourself buying contraceptive pills. These shits can cost A LOT. I guess. And I won't have stretch marks after giving a birth so I guess there are also some bright sides. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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