coreofsoul 1,554 Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 I've been talking to this girl for a couple months, and she has been suuuper nice the whole time. Today, though, she suddenly brought up that she hates Japanese and Chinese people. It really threw me for a loop that she said it so nonchalantly. Something like this also happened when I was in Japan. I was friends with a girl who was one of the nicest and friendliest people I've ever met in my life. One day she said something offensive about a Chinese girl who was working in a restaurant and I was truly stunned. I also knew a girl who was came to the US to work as a nanny. We were good friends for months. We were at dinner and she said she didn't want to go to a certain store because there were too many black people. (I'm black, so I was like WTF!!?!?? ) I didn't realize I had that many stories. Have any of you had this type of experience with a friend? Where they were nice except for that one offensive thing they said? How did you handle it? I also knew a black guy who said "I hate white people". I was like dude wtf is wrong with you?? When I told him my gma was white, he said "Oh.. um um well I like your grandmother" But he was always a jerk, so I cut that fool out my life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
♩ ♪ ♫ ♬ 730 Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 deep down everyone is racist & will slip up once in a while.. i guess the difference is whether they act on it or not Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
�Babo☮ 1,695 Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 Not personally, but I heard it happening with homophobic people who otherwise seem very nice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tokenpokes 127 Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 Yeah, my best friend surprised me when she said something rude about Muslims but we were 13/14 and she's grown out of that stupidity. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coreofsoul 1,554 Posted April 20, 2015 Author Share Posted April 20, 2015 deep down everyone is racist & will slip up once in a while.. i guess the difference is whether they act on it or not I suppose that might be true. Still surprises me in the moment though. Not personally, but I heard it happening with homophobic people who otherwise seem very nice Oh yea... my bf has had experiences with seemingly nice people saying homophobic things, too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tomatosoup 276 Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 It has happened to me but it has never surprised me because just because the people I hang out with say things considered racist I know they're really not because they're nice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nowhere Boy 2,431 Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 Yes. It surprises me how some people act when around certain people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emi95chan 313 Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 There are people like that (actually some guys in my uni) that are cool and all but they are very homophobic and it pisses me off a lot tbh. I try to keep calm but I sometimes say something along lines " why do you care so much about other people sex life?" and other things... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unafraid 187 Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 deep down everyone is racist & will slip up once in a while.. i guess the difference is whether they act on it or not Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miky 2,878 Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 Some times yes but i wasn't really that surprised,didn't like the comment but wasn't that surprised...when a person is too nice i find it more suspicious...seen many overly nice people who are biches behind one's back and stabbing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MermaidPrincess 4,039 Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 i know of an old lady who is super sweet but I was told she was only nice to me because she thinks I'm going to hell Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 I haven't had that experience yet. ...nobody's perfect. Just because someones really nice to you, doesn't mean they will be that nice to someone else. Its complicated because people have different views about things. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coreofsoul 1,554 Posted April 20, 2015 Author Share Posted April 20, 2015 i know of an old lady who is super sweet but I was told she was only nice to me because she thinks I'm going to hell that's hilarious Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coreofsoul 1,554 Posted April 20, 2015 Author Share Posted April 20, 2015 I haven't had that experience yet. ...nobody's perfect. Just because someones really nice to you, doesn't mean they will be that nice to someone else. Its complicated because people have different views about things. Yea, I know. I don't think anyone's perfect. It's just always kind of a shock to me to see that other, unseen side for the first time. Like if someone is always happy, but they have that one day where they blow-up in anger. It can be surprising. Not unnatural, but surprising nonetheless Those experiences really did highlight that people can be nice to some but not to others, though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonbyun 468 Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 I was watching "The Imitation Game" with my best friend and he said "Well of course he's gonna turn gay in an all-boys school lol" and I was just like "Are you serious?" Luckily, we were alone in the movie theater so no one heard him say that. That shocked me tbh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 Yea, I know. I don't think anyone's perfect. It's just always kind of a shock to me to see that other, unseen side for the first time. Like if someone is always happy, but they have that one day where they blow-up in anger. It can be surprising. Not unnatural, but surprising nonetheless Those experiences really did highlight that people can be nice to some but not to others, though. I find its difficult in general for people to truly express themselves. In society, you don't usually show everything, because you never know how that person many respond to it. I assume that person felt comfortable enough around you to make that remark. As I said before, they're probably just nice to you, simply because they like you. That's just one person though. There are some genuinely nice people in this world, so I hope that doesn't throw you off. I think its more important to see how they react to people they don't like or who aren't very nice to them... that's where it differs. That usually tells me a lot about that person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hiraishrimp 5,413 Posted April 21, 2015 Share Posted April 21, 2015 When I was 13, I was drawing a picture and my grandma (who's a semi-famous artist) said "It's not very good" It threw me off so much because she's usually so nice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupipoo 1,619 Posted April 21, 2015 Share Posted April 21, 2015 yeah I was on a date and the guy said he didn't like being mistaken for a gay cuz homos are gross I never called back lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shanshan 1,262 Posted April 21, 2015 Share Posted April 21, 2015 its more important to see how they react to people they don't like or who aren't very nice to them... that's where it differs. That usually tells me a lot about that person. Wow I just gained my wisdom supply for the day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cherryboyjaejae 260 Posted April 21, 2015 Share Posted April 21, 2015 yes.it was actually directed at me.it was so awkward talking to her after that lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iljinspirit 414 Posted April 21, 2015 Share Posted April 21, 2015 Of course. The nicer people are the ones you have to look out for because when they turn they turn out of nowhere.You just aren't expecting it from them at all so it has an even harsher impact. That's why I think I keep away from anyone that's too nice, I'm wary of them and I don't like sudden personality changes or spite. I like to see it coming. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RyoDori 1,475 Posted April 21, 2015 Share Posted April 21, 2015 hold up let me think for a sec.....nope. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
changetheworld 16 Posted April 21, 2015 Share Posted April 21, 2015 One of my best friends is super nice and accepting of all kinds of people, but I discovered a couple of months ago she says really homophobic things when she's drunk. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lipslocked 3,780 Posted April 21, 2015 Share Posted April 21, 2015 yeah. i was really surprised because i didn't expect her to say something offensive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldmine 2,849 Posted April 21, 2015 Share Posted April 21, 2015 I used to be that secretly rude person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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