Bang 5,318 Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 I am almost 21 and i have never had boyfriend and whenever relationship talks come up with my friends i always tell them that i think i won't know how to act with my first bf for a while. I mean, since i never been in a relationship before i think i will be nervouse af and not know what to do, like when do i kiss him? how to deal with PDA ? When do I say that i love him? Hell i even thought that i will freak out when i get my first kiss, i don't think i will be able to look at him after the kiss and pull an ostrich and bury my head in the ground. #I'mFloppingCuzIBeWorriedBoutThingsThatHavn'tHappendToMeYet So i was wondering how did y'all adjust to finally being in your first relationship ? Was it awkard at first? etc etc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oppaarrr 4,601 Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 I've never had one, I almost 21 like you, so *send virtual hugs* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Souloist 3,634 Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 imma let you know when that happens Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xharuharux 2,487 Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 we all on the same boat haha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HANBIN 3,918 Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 It was super weird, lmao. Eventually it becomes natural though, so don't worry. But honestly, one thing that I find really interesting about Korean culture is that I can relate to it when it comes to dating. In America, people don't often blatantly talk about it being awkward when first meeting. When ti comes to dating, holding hands isn't that big of a deal. I find that a lot of my thoughts and worries when it comes to dating are frequently talked about on korean variety shows and stuff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
í—�! 8,234 Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 Well due to social construct.... you are taught to say ''I love you'' after a certain amount of time otherwise it's taboo, you're also taught many other things that... really, is omitted once you're actually in a relationship. You just know when to do those things (assuming you're with the right person whom you can feel comfortable with). Relationships varies.. everyone takes different amount of times to break out of their shell, some don't even need time while others may take a while. It all depends. For me, I get comfortable with my partner really quickly, but again, that's just me. Having a BF / GF can be amazing, especially for someone like me who just wants someone to sleep with at night, hug and kiss and just give my love to (a companion)... but at the same time, it's work. Just let it come naturally Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seolri 915 Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 It was so weird for me lol idk why. When i had my first kiss,i didnt know what to do so i just avoided eye contact, but he hugged me and kissed me again after that. It was really cute!! (Thts why i always think abt him every now and then. He was my first boyfriend, first love and treated me so gently man!!!))) ANYWHOO!! About pda. It just comes naturally i think, but i was still shy so he was always the one to make the first move. So yeah basically i just went with the flow. I blush ALOT tho so it's always obvious when im nervous and stuff. I hate it!!! So yh... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KinkySanta 1,072 Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 It wasn't weird for me at all. It just came naturally. As for saying "I love you" I waited about a year to say it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sunggyuluver 6,762 Posted April 5, 2015 Share Posted April 5, 2015 Restricting Oh ya I was told this today. Old lady: you will never have a boyfriend; unless you get taller. I'm still confused as to why she said that. :/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seolri 915 Posted April 5, 2015 Share Posted April 5, 2015 Restricting Oh ya I was told this today. Old lady: you will never have a boyfriend; unless you get taller. I'm still confused as to why she said that. :/ She just jelly cuz she aint cute and bubbly like you tbh Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MK15 2,108 Posted April 5, 2015 Share Posted April 5, 2015 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silverstorm 479 Posted April 5, 2015 Share Posted April 5, 2015 Yes it was actually pretty awkward for me tbh, especially where I wasn't one to express my feelings and affections that readily. What probably made it worse was that I was pretty quiet when I was young and I also went to a girls' school for 4 years, so I had rather limited interactions with guys for a long while. The constant teasing from friends didn't help I guess getting over awkwardness is a lot about getting used to having a bf/gf around and being comfortable in your own skin around him. As a relationship progresses it definitely gets better since you get to know each other more and stop being so self-conscious. The PDA also comes more naturally after that. RestrictingOh yaI was told this today.Old lady: you will never have a boyfriend; unless you get taller.I'm still confused as to why she said that. :/ haha but whyyy don't guys prefer their gfs to be shorter than them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Midna 2,032 Posted April 5, 2015 Share Posted April 5, 2015 im 21 too. i'll let you know when it happens ._. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sully 4,318 Posted April 5, 2015 Share Posted April 5, 2015 Older than you and still haven't had a bf. I wonder what it feels like to finally have someone too. And I know that if I ever actually get someone it'll be even more awkward because I'm to old to not know how to act in a relationship, but never got to get practice all through my teens and college like almost everyone else did. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xo Nix xo 1,224 Posted April 5, 2015 Share Posted April 5, 2015 I've never had a real relationship. I had a boyfriend when I was a freshman in high school, that was almost 5 years ago...but like, he asked me out once and suddenly we were in a "relationship" lol, we held hands and made out and had lunch together every day. And it's sad, but I only "dated" him because I didn't think anyone else would ever like me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hiraishrimp 5,413 Posted April 5, 2015 Share Posted April 5, 2015 It's alright I guess! I think having someone you're super open/close with is the best and most important feeling, moreso than having physical affection. It's really fun and exciting in the start, and you'll want to spend every waking hour together All that other stuff you mentioned will just come naturally when it feels right, but the "love" word usually comes around at the 3 month mark I think Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jessicaberry 1,087 Posted April 5, 2015 Share Posted April 5, 2015 If it's the right person everything will come naturally and they will understand all your worries and be reassuring. I had all the same anxieties until I got my first boyfriend this year and he made me feel so comfortable and never made me feel like I was weird for not having my first kiss yet or anything like that that I had been worried about Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blinglocket 285 Posted April 5, 2015 Share Posted April 5, 2015 Kissing will be awkward, really hahah I still remember how froze I was and just trying to keep cool and copy whatever the guy was doing with his mouth and he tried to tell me to relax but it was still awkward. Kissing is a matter of practice, I think... Well, for me, though, I still get awkward with every first kiss. I didn't have many lovers and I'm not that type to go out and kiss girls and boys randomly so I go through looong periods without kissing, then someone comes up and I feel awkward again. But you'll see that time makes things a lot easier. Don't freak out! Just let it flow naturally, it's always better than nervously think of the next steps while you're giving the first ones yet. For saying "I love you", I think it makes everyone nervous. lol But I guess you have to wait until you feel like you really mean it and take a shot, idk. Or do the same as me and wait for the other one to say first As for my first relationship...... it was also with a boy. A friend presented us. I was infatuated but he was a dick as a boyfriend and I only found out later. I was 17, I think, and he kept hinting at sex already in the first weeks and then that fucking asshole cheated on me and broke up with me. In the middle of the school cafeteria at the break. lmao Whatever, glad I didn't let him take my virginity. So, you don't have to wait for Prince Charming on his white horse, but try to really know the guy before getting serious, really. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bunny 5,676 Posted April 5, 2015 Share Posted April 5, 2015 I was so excited to have finally been in a relationship for the first time that I became lost in what I thought was "true love" so i ended up being unhappy for nearly 2 years :( but now i have found a real love and i realize how naive i was before Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MK15 2,108 Posted April 5, 2015 Share Posted April 5, 2015 I am almost 21 and i have never had boyfriend and whenever relationship talks come up with my friends i always tell them that i think i won't know how to act with my first bf for a while. I mean, since i never been in a relationship before i think i will be nervouse af and not know what to do, like when do i kiss him? how to deal with PDA ? When do I say that i love him? Hell i even thought that i will freak out when i get my first kiss, i don't think i will be able to look at him after the kiss and pull an ostrich and bury my head in the ground. #I'mFloppingCuzIBeWorriedBoutThingsThatHavn'tHappendToMeYet You're still a baby though... it's not like you were in my shoes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bang 5,318 Posted April 5, 2015 Author Share Posted April 5, 2015 You're still a baby though... it's not like you were in my shoes I love you MK Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sammydee 8,599 Posted April 6, 2015 Share Posted April 6, 2015 lol you are so cute!! well i got into a relationship when i was hmmm around 17 and tbh i was scared about how the relationship would progress i was even scared of the commitment and was hesitant to even say ily to my bf.......maybe coz i was a teenager at that time?or is it the same with all the first timers??? and all i would say is ......in a relationship love/affection is not enough for it to last long there must be an understanding and a commitment aswell . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cleym 1,176 Posted April 15, 2015 Share Posted April 15, 2015 I was 15 when I had my first bf. It was awkward af. I was too young. But if you're comfortable enough with the other person it will be okay. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grumpybiscuit 46 Posted April 15, 2015 Share Posted April 15, 2015 its going to be a lot of giggling. and this one scene, i happen to stumble upon while having a tea time. i'd assume thats what the boy responded to her. i know the girl giggles way too much for my liking. Girl: Okay, I need to go so on the count of 123, we have to hang up. Boy: Okay Both: 1.2.3!!!! <waits for 5 seconds and still hears nothing> Girl: You liar! <giggling some more> Boy: You didn't hang up either. <laughs> Girl: I'm serious this time, we need to do this. 1!2!3! <waits for 5 seconds and still hears nothing> Boy: Hello Girl: Hey you! <after 2 more rounds of giggling and when the guy finally hangs up> Girl: Hey! He hung up on me!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
montchery 3,185 Posted April 15, 2015 Share Posted April 15, 2015 We had been friends for years and were close before, so it all came natural~~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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