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I feel like I should see a therapist since everyone says it's the silver bullet for making tangible progress on problems, but I don't really want to talk about my childhood or my sex life. I just want to get help with being more productive in my day to day life. 

 

Also, I want to try medication for adhd again (tried the two most common ones at a low dose and they gave too many side effects and didn't help, but I know there are other options), but I moved to a sparsely populated state with no adhd specialists. I'm worried that anyone I could contact here, well, wouldn't know anything more about medication than what I can look up myself and would just throw ritalin at me and shrug their shoulders when I say it doesn't work. But IDK if this is a valid concern.

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I hate to even say this but i'm getting really dark thoughts recently. My situation actually improved a lot, i got professional help and people who check up on me and yet i can't help but feel worse every single day. There's just this huge emptiness that i can't seem to break out of. I feel disconnected from everything, even my closest friends feel so distant and i can't really enjoy anything anymore, and i'm afraid that it's just a matter of time until my mind pushes me over the edge.

 

Anyone who was in a similar place, how did you deal with this? None of the things i tried seem to work for me, no matter how much effort i put into it.

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I read the OP but I'm not really sure if this is the place for this post, if there is a place.

 

 

I haven't been okay for a long time, but the people in this thread seem to be dealing with serious things, and I feel out of place. If there's anyone who'd like to hear my ranting and maybe talk, I'd like to be PMed, please.

 

I'm not good at socializing and I'm pretty lonely, so having someone to discuss this stuff with would be nice. Thank you.

 

 

To the people posting in this thread: I can't really offer advice, but I genuinely hope things get better for you, really. Good luck.

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I told my mom I wanted to kill myself and that I was miserable and losing my mind. All she did was play the victim card and make it about herself. I just really don’t know what to do anymore, I really don’t. It’s like no one in the damn world cares.

 

Hey, I know what it's like. My father used to take the same position as your mother and he still took it until very recently. I can tell you there's always at least one person who cares, even if you don't know that. I'm not sure if you still need help but, if you need someone to lists anytime, I'll always be up for it, alright? Take care mate!

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I feel like I should see a therapist since everyone says it's the silver bullet for making tangible progress on problems, but I don't really want to talk about my childhood or my sex life. I just want to get help with being more productive in my day to day life.

 

Also, I want to try medication for adhd again (tried the two most common ones at a low dose and they gave too many side effects and didn't help, but I know there are other options), but I moved to a sparsely populated state with no adhd specialists. I'm worried that anyone I could contact here, well, wouldn't know anything more about medication than what I can look up myself and would just throw ritalin at me and shrug their shoulders when I say it doesn't work. But IDK if this is a valid concern.

 

Hmm it would be extremely hard to get where you want to go (becoming more productive) without dealing with other problems that might be affecting you unconsciously though... I know sometimes it may feel like talking about past problems or really bad experiences is the last thing we would like to do because, either it makes us uncomfortable or can even make us feel like we're going through it again but, it's the best way to truly fix a problem. I hope you can get the help you want without doing this but, if things get worse please try to consider the option of going to a therapist.

 

 

I don't know anything about which meds you could take for adhd because I have a different problem, but hopefully you can find an alternative that can work well for you!

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lately, i've been thinking about my past...up until i was 13 years old i was very naughty. at first when looking back i didnt think the things i did was that bad, but as i thought about it more i kept worrying if i've done stuff that crossed the line. the thing is i can't be sure if it is false memory or if i actually did those things. HELP PLEASE.

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need to rant about myself, just ignore it, really.

 

 

oh, damn, my negative thought is always-always coming up at this moment. Holy moly, I hope it will get away soon, but still, it's hard. I want to crying a lot, let the bank of tears out, but it can't be out. What should I do, what must I do, the future of myself is getting further and it's so far that I'm afraid I can't reach it. I'm afraid of helping people, I'm afraid of hurting people around me while I want to reach them and help them. But this soul, a soul of mine, is really soft soul, and when it's getting hurt, I can't tell anyone else except my other self about it, and I don't know how to talk about my problems with people around me. I lost the words when I trying to tell them.

 

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I read the OP but I'm not really sure if this is the place for this post, if there is a place.

 

 

I haven't been okay for a long time, but the people in this thread seem to be dealing with serious things, and I feel out of place. If there's anyone who'd like to hear my ranting and maybe talk, I'd like to be PMed, please.

 

I'm not good at socializing and I'm pretty lonely, so having someone to discuss this stuff with would be nice. Thank you.

 

 

To the people posting in this thread: I can't really offer advice, but I genuinely hope things get better for you, really. Good luck.

 

Please don't think like that, everyone's issues are relevant no matter their severity.

 

You, and everyone else reading this can message me anytime if you still need someone to talk to. I know i'm not very well off myself right now but if years of dealing with this have taught me one thing then its how important it is to talk about any issues with someone, and more so to be that someone for other people.

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I hate to even say this but i'm getting really dark thoughts recently. My situation actually improved a lot, i got professional help and people who check up on me and yet i can't help but feel worse every single day. There's just this huge emptiness that i can't seem to break out of. I feel disconnected from everything, even my closest friends feel so distant and i can't really enjoy anything anymore, and i'm afraid that it's just a matter of time until my mind pushes me over the edge.
 
Anyone who was in a similar place, how did you deal with this? None of the things i tried seem to work for me, no matter how much effort i put into it.

 

well, I think we just need to get distracted so we won't have any bad thoughts. For me I tried to spend my time with my family and friends so that dark thoughts won't linger on my mind even though it's just for a while.. I also did the things that I love even though I don't feel like to do it anymore

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lately, i've been thinking about my past...up until i was 13 years old i was very naughty. at first when looking back i didnt think the things i did was that bad, but as i thought about it more i kept worrying if i've done stuff that crossed the line. the thing is i can't be sure if it is false memory or if i actually did those things. HELP PLEASE.

 

Hmm mate, I thought more about this since you asked the other time. I'll answer you through DM in a while, alright? Take care please!

 

 

 

i don't know if things are getting gradually worse or if my abilities of dealing with these feelings are the ones failing, but ohdearplz.png i need to make some big decisions soon and every single one of them will change my future. i've been postponing this moment for almost a year already... i honestly just want to take off, sell all of my things and take the road. once my money and my food end i'll end as well, i just want to be free... if i could live surrounded by nature, away from the society but so close to the world, i think i would feel okay. everything is noise... i'm tired of how almost all of my problems are created because i'm not capable of dealing with anything... all inside my head, tearing everything apart and i just wanna be free...but even if i'm okay, where i am is never okay... this place is cursed, this family is cursed... it must mean i'm cursed too, right? that's what i wonder

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hey fam, take a moment and stop in there. Taking decisions isn't easy but try to remember, there isn't such a thing like good or bad decisions. There are just decisions and, regardless if you make a mistake now, there will always be ways to go back to the path you want. It's far easier said than done but, try not to think so much and go for the one you feel is the right one. Not the one you think, but the one you feel is the right one.

 

 

 

 

And, if you think you would be okay living surrounded by nature, why don't you make this your goal? Dealing with so many things at once could make you feel like there's nothing really good ahead, or even that there's nothing ahead, but I believe we will always have something waiting for us as long as we want to. You feel like the place you are in is never ok? Then build one! It's hard, but don't you think it could be worth the effort you may put into it at the end? Just think about this fam, and hang in there, alright? Take care.

 

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Some days, I thought I am fine again but then depression will strike me again. My friends have been offering me advices and encouragement but while I know that they are right, I can't take it in.

 

Right now at this very moment, I feel very tired. Too tired to fight it anymore the darkness that is surrounding me.

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Some days, I thought I am fine again but then depression will strike me again. My friends have been offering me advices and encouragement but while I know that they are right, I can't take it in.

 

Right now at this very moment, I feel very tired. Too tired to fight it anymore the darkness that is surrounding me.

So how do you feel right now?

Have you ever seen a psychiatrist? How's the treatment?

 

How old are you btw? how's the day ?

 

Let's just talk about basic things. Tell us what you just see that interests you Today. How's the food? Do you live alone?

 

Oh and hello to you too.

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i don't know if things are getting gradually worse or if my abilities of dealing with these feelings are the ones failing, but ohdearplz.png i need to make some big decisions soon and every single one of them will change my future. i've been postponing this moment for almost a year already... i honestly just want to take off, sell all of my things and take the road. once my money and my food end i'll end as well, i just want to be free... if i could live surrounded by nature, away from the society but so close to the world, i think i would feel okay. everything is noise... i'm tired of how almost all of my problems are created because i'm not capable of dealing with anything... all inside my head, tearing everything apart and i just wanna be free...but even if i'm okay, where i am is never okay... this place is cursed, this family is cursed... it must mean i'm cursed too, right? that's what i wonder

 

 

 

Nah fam. If leaving the house is what you think is better, then find the way that doesnt make your parents worry.

Like study aboard.

Or i could be misunderstood of what you intended to say. Hope you can reach out to us soon~

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Some days, I thought I am fine again but then depression will strike me again. My friends have been offering me advices and encouragement but while I know that they are right, I can't take it in.

Right now at this very moment, I feel very tired. Too tired to fight it anymore the darkness that is surrounding me.

 

Oh man... You know, it's fine to feel tired like you do in this moment sometimes. Things can become too much but it can always get better. Life is defined by how much we try, and where we put out focus in. Just, don't stop trying fam. Depression is something we always have to fight with, and it won't win unless we let it do so. You can do this! Anything, you know, my DMs are always open. Please don't give up fam!

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Should i keep doing the thing that i want to do but it's making me tired and down af ? Because i'm doing bad. It's ruining my mental health, i'm just really tired,stress, i feel like i have no strenght to do anything and then i end up can't do anything to improve. I just keep thinking about it. Should i continue or give up because this is an important decisions, it may change my future. I told my parents about this, they told me to keep going but it make me very tiring. I want to disappear

 

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Oh man... You know, it's fine to feel tired like you do in this moment sometimes. Things can become too much but it can always get better. Life is defined by how much we try, and where we put out focus in. Just, don't stop trying fam. Depression is something we always have to fight with, and it won't win unless we let it do so. You can do this! Anything, you know, my DMs are always open. Please don't give up fam!

There is someone who is very important to me. Because of her, I still continue fighting it. I really hope that I will never lose her

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There is someone who is very important to me. Because of her, I still continue fighting it. I really hope that I will never lose her

 

 

If that's what you're holding onto right now and it helps you to keep going, don't let this feeling go. I can relate a lot to you and, even though I lost the most important person to me, the feeling of her still being out there, is what keeps me going. Don't worry too much about losing her, focus on the fact she's still here!

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i have to give a 10 minute presentation in front of my psychology class this afternoon

i have chronic anxiety

its not for another like 5 hours and i'm already shaking and sweating

i told the group im presenting with about my anxiety so they said i can say the shortest part but it's just the actual standing up in front of the class that i find the worst

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Should i keep doing the thing that i want to do but it's making me tired and down af ? Because i'm doing bad. It's ruining my mental health, i'm just really tired, i feel like i have no strenght to do anything, it make me stress and then i end up can't do anything to improve. I just keep thinking should i continue or give up because this is an important decisions, it may change my future. I told my parents about this, they told me to keep going but it make me very tiring. I want to disappear

 

Ask your parents if it is possible for you to take a break from it, not stop it completely but just take some time off until you feel better.

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i have to give a 10 minute presentation in front of my psychology class this afternoon

i have chronic anxiety

its not for another like 5 hours and i'm already shaking and sweating

i told the group im presenting with about my anxiety so they said i can say the shortest part but it's just the actual standing up in front of the class that i find the worst

You can do it, I relate to the standing up part so much. My knees used to buckle and vibrate when I'm in front of everyone. Is it alright if you asked for a chair to Sit? Or if you just clarified beforehand to the rest of the class that you're feeling anxious it could actually take the pressure off you. What makes my anxiety worse when presenting is that people will find out I'm anxious, so if I let them know, it takes away the pressure. But it might not work for you, you decide, you can do this. :)

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i have to give a 10 minute presentation in front of my psychology class this afternoon

i have chronic anxiety

its not for another like 5 hours and i'm already shaking and sweating

i told the group im presenting with about my anxiety so they said i can say the shortest part but it's just the actual standing up in front of the class that i find the worst

A lot of people have anxiety before presentations, so you're not alone

I used to be scared as well but I started thinking that people in my class are always bored with presentations anyway so no one would actually care if I mess up or not, much less pay attention to my presentation, if you mess up go on and don't stop, cause surprisingly they won't notice your slip unless you stop and show them that you messed up

Another tip is to avoid staring at someone for a long time while speaking, idk why but that makes me nervous when I make eye contact with someone for too long while doing presentations

Try to look at the audience if you can but don't focus on someone 

I know you can do great, just think of things you love before you start and prep yourself

good luck <33 tell us how you did ^^

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i have to give a 10 minute presentation in front of my psychology class this afternoon

i have chronic anxiety

its not for another like 5 hours and i'm already shaking and sweating

i told the group im presenting with about my anxiety so they said i can say the shortest part but it's just the actual standing up in front of the class that i find the worst

I know this feeling, during my 3 years of study i had just so many group projects and présentation dat i though i would die. 

It was a big class so it was even worser, but with the time i tried the most possible to focus on what i was talking and not on what was around me, look only the audience from time to time if it block u, focus on your speech.

You know almost all are feeling uneasy like you and the other parts are bored as hell from all dis so dw, and hey your not alone ur team is with you to catch up if needed smile.png

I rmb when we had to do individual présentation and the teacher asked who wanted to go i always tried to go first.

Can look akward for someone who is scarred but i prefered it to be behind me the fastest as possible haha

Fighting its just a quick moment â¤ï¸

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You can do it, I relate to the standing up part so much. My knees used to buckle and vibrate when I'm in front of everyone. Is it alright if you asked for a chair to Sit? Or if you just clarified beforehand to the rest of the class that you're feeling anxious it could actually take the pressure off you. What makes my anxiety worse when presenting is that people will find out I'm anxious, so if I let them know, it takes away the pressure. But it might not work for you, you decide, you can do this. :)

I know this feeling, during my 3 years of study i had just so many group projects and présentation dat i though i would die. 

It was a big class so it was even worser, but with the time i tried the most possible to focus on what i was talking and not on what was around me, look only the audience from time to time if it block u, focus on your speech.

You know almost all are feeling uneasy like you and the other parts are bored as hell from all dis so dw, and hey your not alone ur team is with you to catch up if needed :)

I rmb when we had to do individual présentation and the teacher asked who wanted to go i always tried to go first.

Can look akward for someone who is scarred but i prefered it to be behind me the fastest as possible haha

Fighting its just a quick moment â¤ï¸

A lot of people have anxiety before presentations, so you're not alone

I used to be scared as well but I started thinking that people in my class are always bored with presentations anyway so no one would actually care if I mess up or not, much less pay attention to my presentation, if you mess up go on and don't stop, cause surprisingly they won't notice your slip unless you stop and show them that you messed up

Another tip is to avoid staring at someone for a long time while speaking, idk why but that makes me nervous when I make eye contact with someone for too long while doing presentations

Try to look at the audience if you can but don't focus on someone 

I know you can do great, just think of things you love before you start and prep yourself

good luck <33 tell us how you did ^^

it's over now, i told my teacher about my anxiety i was allowed to sit down and control the powerpoint when i wasn't reading out my part

 

it went okay thanks everyone

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i wasnt here for a while but i am pretty much on my end. i am rlly tired body wise and even more mentally. Everything gets too much for me. I need more free time, but i dont have them. And plus this i have a fight with my Mom and bc of it i am not talking with her anymore since a week. And i dont feel like there is a need. But there is a grandma who is on Moms site without knowing shit abt situation and fucks abt how i feel and comes with manipulating stuff like "its your Mom so u have to talk with her" or "she is air to u (u need her like air)" or "what if she gets sick bc u dont reply her", "she is hurt u dont reply" etc etc blah blub.. U know my Mom dont respect the privacy of my room, go on my table and damage (on purpose or not dont even matter) my stuff. Stuff what i invested money in and stuff i needed over a week to make done. "what if she gets sick bc u dont reply her?" How abt that it makes me sick she go on my things, damage them and than seriously have the guts to say that she wasnt and she didnt touch my things? And this basically is the point that makes me mad the most. When i left room everything was ok. When i came back my things was piled up on the table like them fall down and she put it random back to table.. and than she telling me she didnt touch them? Rlly. U know how much it hurts when u realize that your own Mom makes an Idiot out of u and to high lvl maybe even thinking i am rlly are one. And than also try to manipulate u when saying "i got a high blood pressure bc of u. Its 3 am and i couldnt sleep." the fuck? No, its NOT bc me. Its YOUR fault. U fucked up. U couldnt sleep bc YOU fucked up. Stop mentally manipulating me, it dont works anymore. In the therapy i am leaning abt validation, but no, there isnt smg to validate anymore. I am done with it. no. and its the 3rd thing Mom damaged of alike things.

I am so tidy.. so rlly rlly tidy. Coming home dead every day, dont know what to do first. Having even stomach pain again as body symptoms or have the need to sleep when coming home bc i am basically done. And than having such fucked up family. I am done with the world again.  

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