sexica 402 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 In the light of recent thread about the majority of this forum being introverted, I have a few questions for you guys.. Do you feel lonely? Is loneliness difficult to bear for you or do you actually enjoy spending time alone? Have you always been a lone wolf or was there a time when you were socially active and outgoing? I was really outgoing and had a nice group of friends during my junior and senior year of high school, but since I've entered college I haven't been able to make any really close friends. I have a lot of acquaintances, with some I even go out, but that happens like once in every two months. I've drifted apart from my high school friends since we live in different towns now, I mean I still hear from them and we get to see eachother once in a while, but it's not the same.. and they all seem to have made a lot of friends in college too, while that's not really the case for me. Sometimes I'm ok with spending time alone and I really treasure it and enjoy it, but when I see how everyone's having fun and doing well on FB, it just makes me feel like I'm missing out and how life's passing me by.. I'm also single and it seems like that won't change in quite a while, since I don't go out often. Please share your experinces below Dara's part in Ugly always gets me and share more songs like this too, pls Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Selkie 5,345 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 In the light of recent thread about the majority of this forum being introverted, I have a few questions for you guys.. Do you feel lonely? Is loneliness difficult to bear for you or do you actually enjoy spending time alone? Have you always been a lone wolf or was there a time when you were socially active and outgoing? I was really outgoing and had a nice group of friends during my junior and senior year of high school, but since I've entered college I haven't been able to make any really close friends. I have a lot of acquaintances, with some I even go out, but that happens like once in every two months. I've drifted apart from my high school friends since we live in different towns now, I mean I still hear from them and we get to see eachother once in a while, but it's not the same.. and they all seem to have made a lot of friends in college too, while that's not really the case for me. Sometimes I'm ok with spending time alone and I really treasure it and enjoy it, but when I see how everyone's having fun and doing well on FB, it just makes me feel like I'm missing out and how life's passing me by.. I'm also single and it seems like that won't change in quite a while, since I don't go out often. Please share your experinces below Dara's part in Ugly always gets me and share more songs like this too, pls What recent thread ? To answer your question - I'm never lonely, I like solitude. Especially since my life is always hectic and I have to associate with so many people, I can't stand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
a(mber) 5,898 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 no, I like to spend time on my own and enjoy my own company you could say I even prefer my own company to other people's but that miight be stretching it a bit Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ojungers 144 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 Yes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sexica 402 Posted February 23, 2015 Author Share Posted February 23, 2015 What recent thread ? http://onehallyu.com/topic/144301-why-are-there-so-little-extroverts-on-this-website/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mochi 1,737 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 generally I prefer spending time alone and away from people, even though I have close friends irl. I do hang out with them, but I don't really contribute anything lmao so I usually just chill by myself. I am more than happy however to disassociate myself with the idiots at school lol I don't feel lonely though. Sometimes yes, but not for the most part Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MermaidPrincess 4,039 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 No I don't feel lonely People like to be around me because I'm "chill" and "cool" or whatever they tell me I do like to be alone sometimes to focus on myself or whatever I have to do, but I know I'm never lonely Feeling lonely isn't a good thing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Souloist 3,634 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 no i have my cat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ogre Shrek 8,980 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 Yes, but by choice: on the most part, I prefer my own company to the company of others *kanyeshrug Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ImNana 954 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 I don't feel lonely, but I have noticed that I've kept to myself a little more recently, since I've been more busy. It's really helped with my productivity levels. Getting shit done feels good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
♩ ♪ ♫ ♬ 730 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 i never used to place importance on friends.. but i did have about 5-10 friends through each different schools now i actually want friends but i can't open up to anyone Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
byeol 8,270 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 Yes, I do have friends tho and they ask to hang out with them very often but I always reject them I don't know why I do that if I have clear that I would have an awesome time with them. Like tf is wrong with me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Irrelephant 4,710 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 You should join a club. Or a fellowship. Or marching band. Marching band always has parties. Thinking back, I always tend to be a loner the first couple years, but make great friends in my last. Also, don't let social media fool you into thinking everyone but you is having a good time. Sometimes that's easier said than done, but just remind yourself of that. If you've been capable of making good friends once, I don't see why you can't do it again. I get lonely, but nowadays it's usually when I'm cooped up inside and working. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sexica 402 Posted February 23, 2015 Author Share Posted February 23, 2015 i never used to place importance on friends.. but i did have about 5-10 friends through each different schools now i actually want friends but i can't open up to anyone same for me, but what makes it difficult is how all the ppl i know already have close groups of friends and I feel like there's no place for me tbh. i want to do more in my free time than spend time on my laptop, but you can't really do much by yourself tbh.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aoe 1,529 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 i've never felt lonely until last year when both of my dogs died. since then i feel lonely and empty and i want to die. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lu-brican't 1,059 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 I do, but I shouldn't since I always reject invitations to hang out Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tevnn 43 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 Yeh because everytime i ask someone to go out and hang with me they're always too busy, so i just go out by myself taking random buses and exploring my area. But at least being lonely allows me to eat at whatever restaurant i want without those picky friends so i dont really mind thaaaat much i guess. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sexica 402 Posted February 23, 2015 Author Share Posted February 23, 2015 You should join a club. Or a fellowship. Or marching band. Marching band always has parties. Thinking back, I always tend to be a loner the first couple years, but make great friends in my last. Also, don't let social media fool you into thinking everyone but you is having a good time. Sometimes that's easier said than done, but just remind yourself of that. If you've been capable of making good friends once, I don't see why you can't do it again. I get lonely, but nowadays it's usually when I'm cooped up inside and working. yes, i've been considering to join a club or smth, but i find going out of my comfort zone quite challenging tbh. i guess it's true that life begins at the end of your comfort zone.. i should get to it someday Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Symphonyâ„¢ 11,329 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 Yes. Even not being single I still feel lonely. It's because I don't think people understand how it feels to look like me and understand the things I been through. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amix 12,096 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 no, never. i'd rather spend time by myself and hanging out with other people drains me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Selkie 5,345 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 http://onehallyu.com/topic/144301-why-are-there-so-little-extroverts-on-this-website/ Thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupipoo 1,619 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 I hate being lonely and dick-deprived, but I've been having dates left and right for the past 2 weeks so I guess I'm good. Not knowing anyone in Korea is stressing me out but I think I'll make friends fast Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Irrelephant 4,710 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 yes, i've been considering to join a club or smth, but i find going out of my comfort zone quite challenging tbh. i guess it's true that life begins at the end of your comfort zone.. i should get to it someday It doesn't sound like you want to do it. When you find your college experience much more enjoyable in all aspects, you're going to wonder why you haven't done it sooner. Don't find out the hard way like me lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hallah 8,441 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 i am. it's much harder to find friends as you get older, and even in college it was difficult for me because i'm the sort of person who is hardcore about studying and will take huge course loads and feel bad if i get anything under 100%. and since i didn't go to a place like MIT or harvey mudd a lot of students also quietly hate your guts when you know all the material and they don't. i like being alone and i always have but sometimes it's too much. I hate being lonely and dick-deprived, but I've been having dates left and right for the past 2 weeks so I guess I'm good. Not knowing anyone in Korea is stressing me out but I think I'll make friends fast dates with korean guys? i'm (hoping) to live there while i get my masters but i've been wondering about the dating scene since it's such a different culture. is it hard to meet single dudes? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupipoo 1,619 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 i am. it's much harder to find friends as you get older, and even in college it was difficult for me because i'm the sort of person who is hardcore about studying and will take huge course loads and feel bad if i get anything under 100%. and since i didn't go to a place like MIT or harvey mudd a lot of students also quietly hate your guts when you know all the material and they don't. i like being alone and i always have but sometimes it's too much. dates with korean guys? i'm (hoping) to live there while i get my masters but i've been wondering about the dating scene since it's such a different culture. is it hard to meet single dudes? I'm going to SK on thursday lol so no it's not Korean guys In SK you have 2 types of guys: 1. The curious-about-foreigners guys that'll date you but not wife you up and 2. Those who wanna ride the white horse and check it off their bucket list Very few stray from this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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