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Do you mind if your partner has had several relationships in the past?


Lee Dong Wook

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I just found out this fact about my current partner... and I feel really insecure and uneasy

 

it feels awkward...like if I am another one in his list and he will soon break up with me and go to the next victim :-/

 

I do not know what to do... some advice please?
 

should I run away?  :cry:

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Just, be careful.

 

There are those individuals out there who gets bored of relationships and have to jump from one another to feed their boredom (Also there are individuals who finds a partner simply to get their daily dosage of false validation that they don't get from anyone else in their lives). Essentially, they use their partners until they get bored of them and throw them away like a chew toy.

 

HOWEVER he may have just had bad relationships that didn't work out... like the rest of us (or at least most). I don't think that's a valid reason enough to break up with him... or even be concerned UNLESS there's an obvious pattern. Also you can usually tell these people apart by their behaviors.

 

Usually they offer a big game but never deliver. They like to feed you with fantasies but rip them away whenever they want and can. So yeah, be careful... just know that not everything is meant to work out and if it doesn't, then just move on. That's all you can.

 

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Good Luck ~

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I wouldn't not care but I would try not to let the past relationships affect me. I think what should matter most is what the two of you have together, getting along or knowing each other well - if you feel that you have something great the past relationships shouldn't matter -- but again, maybe you should talk to him about it if it bothers you so much. 

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before I start dating someone I know that stuff ahead of time. Its okay to want something in a relationship that you can also give. However I think that its important before you start dating someone to get to know them, so that you can decide if your able to handle whatever past a person had.

Basically this. I'd also ask why those relationships ended.

 

Did he hide it from you? If yes, ask him why.

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It depends on your boyfriend's attitude towards it and the reason for the break-ups.

 

 

Before we got together, my boyfriend had several girlfriends. Many ended just because it didn't work, a few because of his infidelity.

I don't feel insecure at all. We openly talk about past relationships and laugh at it and stuff. I knew some of them as well and some even try to talk to me, it's weird. There was a time when I thought that I would be just an addition to it but that was long before when we were just starting out. I think what mattered the most is that I was open about it and didn't act like a complete psycho towards any of his ex-girlfriends. I practically acted like I don't really care, except when one of his ex girlfriends tried to meddle and second, his exes are the psychotic ones.

 

We've been together for five and a half years now so I don't think any of it matters at this point in time.

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