˹AS˼ 3,610 Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 people that used to be overweight and became healthier and skinnier should apologize or feel the need to apologize when saying something that offends overweight people? I feel that more then ever, people are becoming over-sensitive about things and this whole "fat is beautiful" and I just thought to myself......what if the person making the "offensive" comment was actually overweight at one point in their lifetime and changed their lifestyle to become healthier. I mean they've been through what others have been through so they somehow have the right to comment on something they've experienced first-hand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
modella 2,015 Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 Well it honestly depends on what they're saying. Are they saying it to be rude, or are they saying it to help the person who they're talking to. The truth hurts sometimes, but if they're genuinely trying to help someone, I don't think they should apologize because they've been there. They understand how that person feels. If it were me, I'd apologize for the way that they feel, but not for my words if that makes sense. Like, I'm sorry that I'm making you feel uncomfortable, but for your health and safety, I'm not sorry for telling you this. My Mom does it too me all the time. I can't get mad at her because she's just trying to make sure that I'm okay. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GUILD 3,195 Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 Being rude for no reason is a no either way. Speaking against it or speaking to someone you love is a different story Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TaeYuSu 3,082 Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 i have a friend who is quite overweight but keeps laughing and making fun about other overweight people like wtf Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BadBadNotGood 11,616 Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 It depends. Did the overweight person ask the other for advice? Or are they just speaking their mind unwarranted? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
x-lover 72 Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 its impossible not to offend overweight people these days. A doctor cant even tell them to be healthier without them saying they're being fat shamed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupipoo 1,619 Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 no because what applies to them (their weight loss story) may not apply to others They don't know how healthy the other person is or if there's an underlying issue leading to them being overweight Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
omejkle 11,748 Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 Being rude for no reason is a no either way. Speaking against it or speaking to someone you love is a different story i love your signature Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
˹AS˼ 3,610 Posted February 2, 2015 Author Share Posted February 2, 2015 It depends. Did the overweight person ask the other for advice? Or are they just speaking their mind unwarranted? Well it honestly depends on what they're saying. When I was writing the question, I guess I was referring to how someone who used to be overweight would be asked about their opinion on the whole "overweight shouldn't be insulted, it should be embraced" and they would make a comment that would offend overweight people. And they would reply by saying how it's silly that overweight people are trying to accept and initiate a movement that shouldn't be followed. That the true key to happiness is not loving yourself for being who you are (overweight), but loving yourself for making a change in your life that will help you in the long run. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GUILD 3,195 Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 i love your signature Thanks! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dianun 2,094 Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 Depends Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
modella 2,015 Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 When I was writing the question, I guess I was referring to how someone who used to be overweight would be asked about their opinion on the whole "overweight shouldn't be insulted, it should be embraced" and they would make a comment that would offend overweight people. And they would reply by saying how it's silly that overweight people are trying to accept and initiate a movement that shouldn't be followed. That the true key to happiness is not loving yourself for being who you are (overweight), but loving yourself for making a change in your life that will help you in the long run. Oh! Now I see what you're trying to say. That's a tough one that I think about sometimes. As a soon to be nurse, I sadly get to see the effects of obesity on patients that I deal with on a day to day basis. Its so sad. At the same time, I'm overweight myself. As much as I love myself, I know I need to loose weight. Although I think the whole self-esteem movement is positive, it has a downfall. Obesity can adversely affect your health. Point blank. To me, the answer is a little bit of both. In the long run, you should learn how to love yourself regardless of what you like. In loving yourself however, you should also want to keep yourself safe and healthy. Its hard because I understand and somewhat agree both sides :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BadBadNotGood 11,616 Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 Oh! Now I see what you're trying to say. That's a tough one that I think about sometimes. As a soon to be nurse, I sadly get to see the effects of obesity on patients that I deal with on a day to day basis. Its so sad. At the same time, I'm overweight myself. As much as I love myself, I know I need to loose weight. Although I think the whole self-esteem movement is positive, it has a downfall. Obesity can adversely affect your health. Point blank. To me, the answer is a little bit of both. In the long run, you should learn how to love yourself regardless of what you like. In loving yourself however, you should also want to keep yourself safe and healthy. Its hard because I understand and somewhat agree both sides :( I agree with you. It really is a hard topic. :/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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