sasuke_uchiha 65 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 Let's say you're in a relationship where both of you are allowed to see other girls and boys. Would you feel comfortable with it? I personally prefer exposing myself to novelties of women, and absolutely hate when a girl wants to keep me exlusively. That's why I set the frames of the relationship from the start so that she doesn't feel "cheated" later on. Especially when you're a young guy, I don't see any point of a serious relationship at the moment. It's important to have rooms for adventure. What do you prefer? P.S let me clarify, the type of open relationship I'm talking about is a relationship where you both love eachother's and have good chemistry with eachothers, but you allow room for adventure (sexually). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lord Soshistar 9,394 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 I don't have boyfriend anyway Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hyoyeon's lines in check 6,413 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 hell no. the point of relationships is that they're exclusive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sasuke_uchiha 65 Posted December 19, 2014 Author Share Posted December 19, 2014 hell no. the point of relationships is that they're exclusive. Uhh... There are different types of relationship. Not always 100% exclusive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yummy90 31 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 Hmm then you shouldnt get into a relationship. I mean in most cases people in a relationship love each other and if you love a person you shouldnt feel the need to be with other women. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ashelin 2,418 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 Yeah, that's not for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grape Soda 12,004 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 No. Anyone who would doesn't want a 'realationship' in the first place. People just like to call it an 'open relationship' so they dont seem like sluts who sleep around. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yummy90 31 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 Uhh... There are different types of relationship. Not always 100% exclusive. Its actually bullshit that there are "different types of relationships" (at least in this context) If you dont want to be commited then why get into a relationship ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Midnight Circus 3,341 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 Not comfortable. Open relationships are almost always messy. If i can't commit, might as well not get into a relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shimjoohyun 1,137 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 What's the point of the 'relationship' then? Go on with your adventure, you dont need to be in@call it relationship each time you have sex lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rapmon's Ahjussi Husband 2,299 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 I respect myself so no Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sasuke_uchiha 65 Posted December 19, 2014 Author Share Posted December 19, 2014 Its actually bullshit that there are "different types of relationships" (at least in this context) If you dont want to be commited then why get into a relationship ? Because we have different values and interests? i know on the surface this seems odd and unacceptable according to society's standards. People will shame them as "players" & "sluts" , but I know a lot of people like that. They do love eachother's and have great things in common, but they are open to explore here and there. Of course that doesn't mean you completely disregard your partner. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ulmicola 1,981 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 Unlike some of the people that have previously posted on here, I don't think they're immoral in any way, but they're not something I'd like to try either. If I got in an exclusive relationship with someone, I'd have all sorts of irrational fears about me not being good enough for them; those fears would only get much, much worse if I were in an open relationship. I'd give open relationships a try only if an open relationship was the only way to make a relationship with someone I like work. And even then, that person would have to be someone I'd completely, entirely trust in any situation, all the time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xiah.junsu 3,364 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 Absolutely not. I'm 100% monogamous. If I'm into any relationship, it better be exclusive. It's the only thing I will never be sharing. If my future spouse wants to be adventurous, go on but I'm done with him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nev Schulman 7,948 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 No. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yummy90 31 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 Because we have different values and interests? i know on the surface this seems odd and unacceptable according to society's standards. People will shame them as "players" & "sluts" , but I know a lot of people like that. They do love eachother's and have great things in common, but they are open to explore here and there. Of course that doesn't mean you completely disregard your partner completely. Well i dont think its "bad" to sleep with lots of different people and calling people sluts or players is wrong but if you really love a person and you are in a relationship why would you want to "explore here and there" ? I just cant understand the motive behind it you know Lets say sex has two purposes "fun" and "being intimate" (Well and reproducing) then why would you chose another person over your s.o. ? You can be intimate and enjoy the physical feeling. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sasuke_uchiha 65 Posted December 19, 2014 Author Share Posted December 19, 2014 Unlike some of the people that have previously posted on here, I don't think they're immoral in any way, but they're not something I'd like to try either. If I got in an exclusive relationship with someone, I'd have all sorts of irrational fears about me not being good enough for them; those fears would only get much, much worse if I were in an open relationship. I'd give open relationships a try only if an open relationship was the only way to make a relationship with someone I like work. And even then, that person would have to be someone I'd completely, entirely trust in any situation, all the time.I see where you're coming from. Most people are worried because of the fear of "abandonment". You're worried that your partner will be interested in others more than just sex. But to be honest with you, this might sound too generalizing but men by nature are attracted to novelties (on a sexual level only). He might be with the best , high status girlfriend, but his natural tendencies is experiencing what else is out there. Most men won't physically go have sex with other girls while being in a relationship, but you can see that in their behaviour and the videos they watch privately.. Too bad most guys these day aren't man enough to admit that. Again, that doesn't mean his partner is lacking at something. I think open relationship can be positive in a way, if it's done correctly. I mean if it's just sex and nothing more, why not? And of course, I believe it should be done in a way that's respecting eachothers boundaries. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ulmicola 1,981 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 I see where you're coming from. Most people are worried because of the fear of "abandonment". You're worried that your partner will be interested in others more than just sex. But to be honest with you, this might sound too generalizing but men by nature are attracted to novelties (on a sexual level only). He might be with the best , high status girlfriend, but his natural tendencies is experiencing what else is out there. Most men won't physically go have sex with other girls while being in a relationship, but you can see that in their behaviour and the videos they watch privately.. Too bad most guys these day aren't man enough to admit that. Again, that doesn't mean his partner is lacking at something. I think open relationship can be positive in a way, if it's done correctly. I mean if it's just sex and nothing more, why not? And of course, I believe it should be done in a way that's respecting eachothers boundaries. Um... I'm a guy. A straight guy. I wasn't talking about men... XD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tzuyoncé 633 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 i love myself so no Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julien6672 69 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 Slut. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
valentinna 14,313 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 No.. Too many selfesteem problem for that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MELIBE 3,629 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 no Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fufu 580 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 No way. I'm open to multi person relationships, because who other than Hallmarks and their greetings cards has the right to say love can only be a two way thing? But being totally open isn't even a real relationship to me. It's hard to trust at the best of times, and I think sex is something special between two (or more) people who have a certain level of intimacy. Sharing that intimacy with an outsider is a betrayal of the bond. I am kind of living in my own world thinking that, given how promiscuous modern day society is, but that is where I stand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupipoo 1,619 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 I don't have a boyfriend anyway Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julien6672 69 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 Possessiveness will always result in cheating. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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