LaFlo 25 Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 There is this guy from my church, I like him and I think that he likes me too.My parents are not very conservative, I actually think that they would be ok with it but I am still ashamed. I have huge fear of relationships and I am very shy around guys. Maybe it's the way I am brought up but I feel lake a whore just because I like someone. Btw I am 16 and he is 18. What should I do? I am scared of this whole situation. Do you have any advice? edit: but I have to tell them because I would fell guilty if I don't, and if they found out before I tell them they would be mad.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
camelliabloom 4,557 Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 Don't tell them then Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaFlo 25 Posted November 23, 2014 Author Share Posted November 23, 2014 Don't tell them then You see, it is not that simple for me.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iamayam 1,081 Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 Tell them and then kiss infront of them! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScarletWhimsy 2,203 Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 You see, it is not that simple for me.... Why? Do you feel pressure to tell your parents? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Symphonyâ„¢ 11,329 Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 You should tell them if you want to go on dates with him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yuri 2,662 Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 Your shyness and fear of being in a relationship won't improve if you don't try. If you like this guy, then you should tell him. If you think he likes you in the same way, then all the better! As for your parents, if you're uncomfortable telling them right away, give it some time with this guy, and see how it plays out. Personally, I only ever tell my parents about guys I am serious with and been together a while. When they see how happy you are, I don't think they will mind tbh. Good luck~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
llyx 1,300 Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 Be really open and meet up with the guy regularly. When you guys are together with your parents, do what you normally would do to a boyfriend. Your parents would definitely get the hint soon and you wouldn't have to go through the pain of explaining. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaFlo 25 Posted November 23, 2014 Author Share Posted November 23, 2014 Why? Do you feel pressure to tell your parents? I feel that I should... but for some reason it is very hard for me to do so Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KissontheW1nD 5,731 Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 Talk to them about it! They're your parents so you shouldn't be afraid of what they think! They know better than you and can give you good advice such as "we don't approve cuz he looks like a drug dealer" - he might be a drug dealer he might not but sometimes parents especially moms are on point. Besides that, unless they don't care about you, they're going to love you regardless of who you date - it's the parent thing. I say go for it and talk to them! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nev Schulman 7,948 Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 You're so young, but try starting by asking them what they think of the guy then drop the bomb and tell them you have some feelings for him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScarletWhimsy 2,203 Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 I feel that I should... but for some reason it is very hard for me to do so Ah.. I understand I felt like that too once upon a time. Get to know him a bit better. I think if you and the guy have a talk, and decide that you both really like each other and want to go out, then you can tell your parents. Because then they'll see that you are both serious about it and have made a decision on it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoshiStar 1,650 Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 why would they get mad if you didn't tell them?it's your privacy they need to respect that p/s:I know they are your parent Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr Bunny 4,115 Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 girl your parents were kids once too ..it normal for people to feel attracted to others at this age and you said it yourself that your parents aint conservative...if you cant say it directly in one go drop a few hints for them over a few days or something Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosetty 1,342 Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 If you think they won't object just tell them then.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rapmon's Ahjussi Husband 2,299 Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 If everyone meet at church they'll know eventually, tell them you have a crush on this guy; don't feel ashame because it's nature at work, so ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starryknight 1,113 Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 Do your parents also attend the church cuz if they do I'd think they'll have little objection to you pursing a relationship with the young man seeing as he's also a part of the congregation. I know if I were a parent I'd be happy knowing my kid is pursing a relationship with someone in my church cuz I could easily meet their parents (if I don't already know them) and get to know them (the bf/gf) myself as well. Anyway get to know the guy better first, become friends and see if you really want peruse a relationship with him then tell your parents. In fact after you become friends introduce him to your parents that way if you decide you want to go out with him when you approach your parents concerning the matter it'll be about a person they already know Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ToBeABitchPatrol 1,503 Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 You should really sit down and talk to them. I use to be afraid to talk to my mom on subjects like these, come to find out I was afraid for no reason. She was so glad that I came to her and that I trusted her enough to even talk about these things. So not only that you're doing yourself a big favor, you'll be doing your parents a big favor too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 In my case I never had a special need to tell my parents about my relations, in fact I'd rather them not getting involved at all. They're not strict or conservative in that regard but I just don't like people getting involved in my relations, not even my friends. Your situation is totally different because you say you will feel bad if you don't tell them so the best you can do is to tell them. I would only advice you to tell them when things get more advanced, like when someone asks you out or confesses to you. If you just like a guy you just met there's really no need to feel bad or make a big deal about it. Of course you could share those experiences with your parents if you want to but try to approach your mother first, your father might freak out . As for this guy they might feel uncomfortable with him being older than you but I don't think they are going to prohibit to see him or something like that. The "worst" it could happen is that they would want to meet him when you start dating or something like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boo! 111 Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 You should do what you feel is best and what would make you happy regardless of what others say/think. Life is about making decisions and your parents won't always be around to make them for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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