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So I was having a conversation with one of my uni classmates and we were talking about high school friends and how they usually stop being friends during university. She shared with me her own experience, and I saw some similarities between her own friends and mine:

 

a- I've been trying to communicate with them through Facebook and phone chats, but they don't answer (even though they see the messages) or answer in the most boring way possible (boring as in "k", "lol").

 

b-I usually try to hang out with them, but they never can. They show excitement at first and then begin making up these excuses.

 

My life isn't exactly interesting, so Idk if they're just bored with my talk or if they genuinely just don't want to be close as before. What do you think?

 

And do you think it's a signal if you just don't feel appreciated by your friends?

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High school to university transition is normally like that. I also have some pretty "close" high school friends who I don't hear a word from nowadays. Not even a "happy birthday" on Facebook  :unsure:  People naturally drift apart during this transition, so it's normal.

 

Go out and meet some new people :lol:

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It's perfectly normal. Some realize it sooner than others.

 

In high school, some people feel that it is a requirement or necessity to have friends, even if it means being with people you have nothing in common with. 

 

After I was done with high school, I already knew that I wouldn't keep in touch with any of the "friends" I had socialized with. All but one of my current friends are not from high school, and we've been the best of friends for well-over 10 years. 

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It's normal. I experienced most of that with my elementary school friends to high school. Our group consisted of 11 girls but 4 of us went to a different high school and all 4 got into different classes. We (all 11) tried to hang out but after 2 years, most of us completely drifted away and have our own set of friends. The others who remained in our original school though are still a bit close...

 

I only have 3 high school friends and we all went to different universities. We try to find time to hang out though. I would say at least once a year but we haven't seen each other for almost 2 years now although we are planning to get together this Christmas. All other people who I considered close in high school and college, I never really keep contact. We were probably close at one point because of some shared interest like maybe same classes, same clubs at school but after we graduated - there's really not much to talk about and life goes on... :unsure:

 

I guess you can say it's a signal. It can't only be you trying hard to keep the friendship. Go out and meet new people as what someone posted here.

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This is normal.

 

If I were you, I wouldn't make any attempt in keeping a friendship if you have to chase them down constantly. You'll only be wasting your own time.

 

I only keep in touch with one friend from HS, but then again we've been bffs since the 3rd grade. And I had a handful of friends I use to call "close". But inevitably, you'll drift from them.

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I don't know why people would want to keep friends to the people you were with in high school,people change,its best if u don't be with them if they don't want to be friends with you,i'm sure you will find friends you would enjoy spending time with than those ex- friends of yours.

 

once you enter uni you would be 'like why did i even bother with school friend's'....there's a big world out there with lots of amazing people.

 

I have three best friend's from high school that i keep contact with and even though we have work,and two of them got married they also have other friends and just busy with our lives we meet up every two months not to forget that we chat frequently,you don't have to spend 24/7 with your best friend,u will enjoy space when you will leave high school...

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"Friends" come and leave,only time and challenges will show up if they're true friends

example; you tell them something about yourself that they find unattractive,if they are true friends they will accept it

if they're not they'll just leave

And if you try to communicate with them 2-3 times and they didn't do nothing both 3 times,just stop communicating

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High school friends. Oh this high school moments. Hahaha

It's perfectly normal. I have a really close friend when I was in high school. But after we graduated,we drifted apart. Eventho we sometimes met every 6month or 1 year, this all is because of our friend that go to foreign uni to continue his study come back. So we hangout at that time only. After that I've never heard of any my high school friends anymore but they 2.

Life goes on. Friends come and go.

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Yeh i just finished high school and a lot of people say that they'll keep in touch but i haven't heard a peep out of them, and quite frankly i don't really care cause having friends for the sake of trying to keep high school friendships alive are pretty stupid. I pretty much only chose to communicate with the people that i can guarantee will be loyal to me because loyal friends are hard to find :) . Other than that i wouldn't really call anyone from my high school "friends" at all. If you feel unappreciated by a "friend" then you should probs stop talking to them unless they actually start making an effort to see you. 

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