xLeeChaex 46 Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 Would you say that making friends in college is alot harder because they tend to mind their own business or they just dont care? Im in college right and in all honesty ITS A WHOLLLE lot better because I dont have to deal with the annoying ass students in my high school lol I feel in high school everybody has their own clique and im sure its has always been like that with every high school, but i feel much relieved that i dont have to see the majority people in high school since they were just fucking obnoxious. I doubt im the only one who felt this lol But would u say once u get into college, ur pretty much on ur own? I have seen some people tend to distance themselves even with their high school friends since their so busy with college lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sinnfb 10,968 Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 For me it was easier too. I have really good friends from high school and had a nice experience overall but it's undeniable there's more pressure to fit in while in college everybody minds their own business and since everybody is on the same boat and in a new environment, people are more open to making friends and talking. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SlayingSeohyun 6,688 Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 My school doesn't so much have cliques, more so that most people get along and talk to eachother, save for a select few. Perhaps, that's american secondary (high) school's, we have a better standard, overall. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emi95chan 313 Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 I had the same experience in high school like you and when I went to college I was so surprised. I've met a lot of great people, I wouldn't call them friends though. It's a very strong word for me and I have only 1 friend since elementary school. But I think that people in college are more open to new people imo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Besouloved 835 Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 I agree in that in college people tend to be more in their world, and I honestly, appreciate that....I can be without contact with my college friends for days and we're not mad at each other at all for that.... In high school is different, everyone is with everyone trying to fit in and minding other people's business. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScarletWhimsy 2,203 Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 For my uni, if you're a commuter (non-resident student), it sucks The res students have it so easy. Friends and more potential friends everywhere. Whereas most of us commuters are loners for the most part. It gets better, though, as you get into the upper years, because then, whatever area you choose to study in, you'll probably be seeing the same group of people more and more, so there's that.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pocket Hyung 3,962 Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 not really... I got my own circle of friends in two days even though we never met before ^^ (college) my other friend once asked me if I met them before and when I said no she was surprized because she thinks we're very close kkk I agree that highschooler tends to have cliques,my former high school had it too... though I prefer to stay away from it.. still have some friends there tho.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupsidou 2,047 Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 Actually I went to a super small college (900 students) and knew just about everyone... it was impossible not to hear gossip about others, even if I wasn't friends with them. And my uni program is super small (all 4 years combined we're 120 students, about 38 in my year now) and some students bully others, ocstracize them and etc. There's tons of lil cliques and backstabbing and bitching and gossiping, which pisses me off. They act like they're in hs when they're the ones that'll teach in hs/elementary schools... That's why I hang out a lot less with them now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
!~Aishak~! 1,813 Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 Oh college>> high school ...I remember what teenagers talk about I'm feeling I'm losing my brain cells~ groups on their own and annoying immature don't make remember at least my excpreince was bad -__- Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Uaena 1,895 Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 I go to a cc and its a quarter system. The classes are mostly lecture based (rarely do we get in groups) and you can go through the entire 3 month course never learning the names of the people beside you. Meaning yes, I have no college friends. Yes, OH is my life now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
K a t 232 Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 You're closer with your high school friends since you see each other nearly every day, eight hours a day. In college you just go to classes, hang out during breaks and only call each other about group assignments. It's both a good thing and a sad thing. I agree that you're pretty much on your own for your college life. College friends to me are more like colleagues, really. When I needed someone to talk to about really emotional stuff I turn to my old school friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xLeeChaex 46 Posted November 13, 2014 Author Share Posted November 13, 2014 Actually I went to a super small college (900 students) and knew just about everyone... it was impossible not to hear gossip about others, even if I wasn't friends with them. And my uni program is super small (all 4 years combined we're 120 students, about 38 in my year now) and some students bully others, ocstracize them and etc. There's tons of lil cliques and backstabbing and bitching and gossiping, which pisses me off. They act like they're in hs when they're the ones that'll teach in hs/elementary schools... That's why I hang out a lot less with them now. I go to a cc and its a quarter system. The classes are mostly lecture based (rarely do we get in groups) and you can go through the entire 3 month course never learning the names of the people beside you. Meaning yes, I have no college friends. Yes, OH is my life now. LOL tbh i feel its just better off to be on your own and not deal with people it just means less BS. U have no idea how much of a pain in the ass the majority people in high school were!! And i knew so many people who tried to fit in!!!! ITS LIKE WHY!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paruru 2,265 Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 For me, making friends at high school was alot harder than college, I also feel alot more liked and less judged at college? Does that sound weird? >< Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alex crossing 2,895 Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 I feel like my classmates at uni are just coworkers, if that. I find it easier to get emotionally close with my professors than my classmates. Which is probably a good thing in the long run. For me, making friends at high school was alot harder than college, I also feel alot more liked and less judged at college? Does that sound weird? >< Definitely not weird u_u I get the same impression. I feel more open than ever before to express myself in words and dress without worry, and it's great ^^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xLeeChaex 46 Posted November 13, 2014 Author Share Posted November 13, 2014 For me, making friends at high school was alot harder than college, I also feel alot more liked and less judged at college? Does that sound weird? >< Nooo it does not sound weird, people in college are alot more open minded and better lol I feel ur pain..people in high school were just jerks and assholes!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paruru 2,265 Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 Nooo it does not sound weird, people in college are alot more open minded and better lol I feel ur pain..people in high school were just jerks and assholes!! I guess they are, and yeah that sums up high school pretty well :') Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
awkyj 1,499 Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 made 0 friends in both high school and college lmao Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thatashyleo 926 Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 Making friends in college for me was really easy. All of them take the same classes as me. I don't even remember physically meeting my friends in class; it kinda just happened and now we're hanging out 24/7. There are definitely cliques here at my university. In my case, all the science majors hang out with each other. The acting kids hang out with the other acting kids. The same goes for business majors. You really only know someone outside of your field through roommates or clubs. The majority of the people I know all have something to do with science. Also, I feel like I lost a good portion of my friends from high school. Since I go to a college in a different state from where I was born, I lost contact with almost everyone. Only a couple of friends from high school stay in contact with me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
potaeto 1,933 Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 I go to a cc and its a quarter system. The classes are mostly lecture based (rarely do we get in groups) and you can go through the entire 3 month course never learning the names of the people beside you. Meaning yes, I have no college friends. Yes, OH is my life now. This sounds exactly like my cc D: it's harder making friends in class when there's no time to even get to know their name and it sucks.. unkess you run into them outside of class Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
♥SNS-Shinomiya♥ 420 Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 its about your level of maturity and the stage you are in your life. In HS you want to fit in and you are discovering yourself, likewise you will have friends or meet people who are also immature. In college (first of all your an adult) and at this point your not so insecure about who you are so you don't feel like just to have a friend you have to put up with anyones BS. College friends tend to last longer but you may have your best memories with HS friends, at least in my experience. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
minoseungyoon 403 Posted November 19, 2014 Share Posted November 19, 2014 In my case,I like my high school friends more and they're more sincere in friendship than those college friends..yes u can definitely get some true friends in college but sadly most of the so-call college friendship is fragile and some of them treat the friendship as means to achieve smtg, such as to copy ur assignment or get other benefits from u... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OhJeonJazzy 28 Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 I can't actually compare all of my experiences because initially, I'm a freshman in college so can't sum up my experiences in high school then compare it to just two semesters. BUT as I can see in two sems, it's nothing from my high school friendships, maybe at least not yet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ravioli 247 Posted November 27, 2014 Share Posted November 27, 2014 yes uni is so lonely omfg im such a LONER in between classes and stuff Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
imideal( ͡°ᴥ ͡° ʋ) 2,497 Posted December 7, 2014 Share Posted December 7, 2014 yeah in college you really have to make an effort to make and stay friends with people either through class or clubs. in high school everyone has the same class schedule and many of your friends you have known since elementary school. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Midna 2,032 Posted December 8, 2014 Share Posted December 8, 2014 it was scary at first but making friends in uni (or acquaintances at least) was a lot easier ^^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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