tasty tomato 61 Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 So, I asked my mother three days agoif my litle brother is a child from an affair and she just threw my math book at me and left...... and now she doesn't talk to me and my older brother anymore- She also doesn't talk much with my father and my little brother and is always in her room. Fuck Was that a yes or a no credits owner Since he was born I noticed that he doesn't look like the rest of my family. I'm russian-german and we all have blue eyes, blond hair and our skin tone is pale. But his skin is tanned and he has brown hair. ( He looks like an Italian) My mother and my father seem like that they love me and my brother more than him. I bring him every morning to his kindergarten and then my brother or me collect him. Every day. I play with him, I go to the doctor with my little brother and co. what normal parents do with their child. When my mother was pregnant, she and my father had a huge fight and he moved out for 3 months. Should I ask her... I'm sure he has another dad. He is six and very wild . I feel like I'm his parents thank U sorry, my English is so bad Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bang 5,318 Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 girl, that's a yes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abra 40,910 Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 well it is possible for him to look different than all of you and still be your dad's kid... it could be due to recessive genes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ANTI 7,017 Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 take care of him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xxxnamie 897 Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 oh, i remember your other post. that seems like a yes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ccynd 912 Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 Yes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rapmon's Ahjussi Husband 2,299 Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 So, I asked my mother three days agoif my litle brother is a child from an affair and she just threw my math book at me and left...... and now she doesn't talk to me and my older brother anymore- She also doesn't talk much with my father and my little brother and is always in her room. Fuck Was that a yes or a no credits owner Since he was born I noticed that he doesn't look like the rest of my family. I'm russian-german and we all have blue eyes, blond hair and our skin tone is pale. But his skin is tanned and he has brown hair. ( He looks like an Italian) My mother and my father seem like that they love me and my brother more than him. I bring him every morning to his kindergarten and then my brother or me collect him. Every day. I play with him, I go to the doctor with my little brother and co. what normal parents do with their child. When my mother was pregnant, she and my father had a huge fight and he moved out for 3 months. Should I ask her... I'm sure he has another dad. He is six and very wild . I feel like I'm his parents thank U sorry, my English is so bad I think no matter matter what happens, you still have to remember he is still your brother; I also think you should tell your mom you sorry about asked her if your brother it's from an affair, first because it's not of your bussiness to bring it up so lightly, and second because you may had hurt your mother feelings; the worst a son / daughter can do in situations like this it's take part from one parent or the other, your parents relationship problems it's them to discuss not yours, not matter what one or the other say; you should also remember that your brother it's 100 % innocent of all this, and imagine how hurt and unsure he would be in the future about all this issue; just give support and ask less Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iamayam 1,081 Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 So, I asked my mother three days agoif my litle brother is a child from an affair and she just threw my math book at me and left...... and now she doesn't talk to me and my older brother anymore- She also doesn't talk much with my father and my little brother and is always in her room. Fuck Was that a yes or a no credits owner Since he was born I noticed that he doesn't look like the rest of my family. I'm russian-german and we all have blue eyes, blond hair and our skin tone is pale. But his skin is tanned and he has brown hair. ( He looks like an Italian) My mother and my father seem like that they love me and my brother more than him. I bring him every morning to his kindergarten and then my brother or me collect him. Every day. I play with him, I go to the doctor with my little brother and co. what normal parents do with their child. When my mother was pregnant, she and my father had a huge fight and he moved out for 3 months. Should I ask her... I'm sure he has another dad. He is six and very wild . I feel like I'm his parents thank U sorry, my English is so bad Please post updates! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silaxyfank 521 Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 probably yes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
♩ ♪ ♫ ♬ 730 Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 i'd throw your math book at you regardless Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seulchu 9,452 Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 You're a good person Stay strong Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dishdash 1,556 Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 girl, that's a yes. i think the same. also i think you were within your right asking. he's your little brother, and quite frankly if he is being treated differently simply because he has a different father i think you especially have a right to know, since from your previous post it seems as if you are the one who mothers him and gives him care and affection. tbh i feel really sorry for your little bro, its not like he can help what happened at all Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hyoyeon~Minzy 12,109 Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 I'm sorry but I have no sympathy for your mom. She has made it glaringly obvious that she rather not care for your little brother. If a simple question like this has hurt her feelings, then just imagine what your 6 year old brother must think and feel when his mom and dad don't want to give him the time of day? Her reaction seems like an admission. Your parents' behavior towards your little brother might never change... And thats absolutely heartbreaking :(... But please, take good care of him, give him all the love in the world, and always remind him that he is loved and will always be loved no matter what. Sometimes the child needs to become the adult of the household; as much as that sucks, it is necessary for the sake of those we cherish and hold dear. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ron Swanson 6,677 Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 Sounds like a yes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HÅ“Ë™ 318 Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 Take DNA samples and test them? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arceersro 1,004 Posted October 25, 2014 Share Posted October 25, 2014 your mom's inital reaction screams a definite yes haha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScarletWhimsy 2,203 Posted October 25, 2014 Share Posted October 25, 2014 I'm pretty sure that's a yes. She didn't even try to deny it, and it's obviously a sensitive spot for her. (OMG she threw a textbook at you?! Are you okay? ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
00ca 104 Posted October 25, 2014 Share Posted October 25, 2014 omg take care of your younger brother! It seems like your mom doesn't love him as much as you. It isn't his fault who his real dad is. Your conflict with your mother will eventually resolve but take good care of your brother. You're a really good person and good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tasty tomato 61 Posted October 25, 2014 Author Share Posted October 25, 2014 I'm sorry but I have no sympathy for your mom. She has made it glaringly obvious that she rather not care for your little brother. If a simple question like this has hurt her feelings, then just imagine what your 6 year old brother must think and feel when his mom and dad don't want to give him the time of day? Her reaction seems like an admission. Your parents' behavior towards your little brother might never change... And thats absolutely heartbreaking :(... But please, take good care of him, give him all the love in the world, and always remind him that he is loved and will always be loved no matter what. Sometimes the child needs to become the adult of the household; as much as that sucks, it is necessary for the sake of those we cherish and hold dear. He is sad that his mother doesn't care about him and I'm not able to assume the mother role. But I try. I'm his brother. My mother and my dad fly every year about 6 times to another country but they don't take him with them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hyoyeon~Minzy 12,109 Posted October 25, 2014 Share Posted October 25, 2014 He is sad that his mother doesn't care about him and I'm not able to assume the mother role. But I try. I'm his brother. My mother and my dad fly every year about 6 times to another country but they don't take him with them. :( I'm in a slightly similar situation as you... which is why I have reacted the way I have. I still stay at home and have to take online classes because I need to be there for my younger siblings. I don't trust my mom to take care of them and our dad has been absent for the past four years. Its suffocating, stressful, and unfair that I have to assume the position of the parent but I would do anything for my siblings. Like you, I can't really be a parent to them and give them the same kind of attention that a mother or father would but I try. I've found that the thing that helps the most is just being there for them. Giving them affection when my mother avoids it, being a shoulder to lean on when they're feeling down, treating them as if they were my own children, and encouraging them in whatever they feel or whatever they want to do. I still love my mom, but I'm not going to sit there and wait until she decides she can handle being a good mom. More than a normal nuclear family life, children need a nurturing enviornment. And as long you provide your brother with that, then it doesn't matter who gives it to him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yerowan 1,006 Posted October 25, 2014 Share Posted October 25, 2014 He is sad that his mother doesn't care about him and I'm not able to assume the mother role. But I try. I'm his brother. My mother and my dad fly every year about 6 times to another country but they don't take him with them. You don't need to be his mom. Being a great older brother and someone he can rely on to be there for him and look after him is what you've been doing and should keep doing. But please try to keep in mind that you don't know the details about how he was conceived. It may be as 'simple' as your mom having an affair, but it could also be much more complicated and awful - which might explain why she also distances herself from this child in particular. But as others have said, it's not HIS fault, and if your parents can't bring themselves to understand that and show him affection, you're doing the best you can and that's important. I say all this as someone who's mom went through some terrible things in her childhood and it resulted in all of us kids spending *our* childhood with a mostly emotionally absentee mom who also had substance abuse problems. I didn't know about what had happened to her until I was in my last year of high school; when I found out, it changed how I thought about my childhood. Maybe someday your mom will be ready to talk about it, whatever 'it' is. Until then, all you can do is take care of your brother and try not to judge when you don't know the whole story. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vixen 8,635 Posted October 26, 2014 Share Posted October 26, 2014 Happened to me once. As soon as I found out that my younger sister's blood type is an A, I was taken by surprise because neither of my parents has the same blood type as her. They are both O+. But what's really worse is that when I got hospitalized last January, I found out that my blood type is also A, too. Lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil 139 Posted November 12, 2014 Share Posted November 12, 2014 Probably yes.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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