shutupihateyou 21,439 Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 i dunno like with our culture now and all, do you still wanna save it after marriage or do you already consider it as old fashion to do so? Link to comment
Gloupsidou 2,047 Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 Uhm yes. I consider who I give myself to valuable and important. But saving your virginity before marriage is... Link to comment
Fi.N 1,690 Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 Not for marriage, but definitely for someone who I feel emotionally close to. I don't think I could really enjoy sex with someone I feel like I don't know well. Link to comment
Venom Rose 6 Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 I'm forever keeping it . The "s#x' conept is just nasty anyway. Link to comment
fgt 1,210 Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 i'm not a woman but i lost my virginity to someone who meant a lot to me and i totally regret it lol a very strong connection between love and sex was created so it's painful to even do anything sexual with anyone else, anymore 1 upvote = 1 prayer for my sex life Link to comment
ToBeABitchPatrol 1,503 Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 Yes I value my virginity and don't plan on loosing it until marriage. i'm not a woman but i lost my virginity to someone who meant a lot to me and i totally regret it lol a very strong connection between love and sex was created so it's painful to even do anything sexual with anyone else, anymore 1 upvote = 1 prayer for my sex life I prayed for you my brotha. Link to comment
hiraishrimp 5,413 Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 Hmm well I was 16 or 17 (can't remember) when I first lost it. I was "in love" and we waited 5 months until we did it, mainly because we were so scared. But now that I'm older I really don't think it's something that needs to be "cherished", if I think someone's hot and they think I'm hot we will do the thing for sure. But I'm not someone who does the whole one night stand thing, something about that is fairly degrading to me. Link to comment
abra 40,910 Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 i'm not a woman but i lost my virginity to someone who meant a lot to me and i totally regret it lol a very strong connection between love and sex was created so it's painful to even do anything sexual with anyone else, anymore 1 upvote = 1 prayer for my sex life +1 I'll pray that one day you'll be able to become a shameless player, free of shackles Link to comment
B612 22,399 Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 Uhm yes. I consider who I give myself to valuable and important. But saving your virginity before marriage is... this Link to comment
Basketcase789 30 Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 Waiting for marriage Link to comment
Nyuu 336 Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 I'm waiting until marriage. Not for religious reasons, but for myself. Want to keep it for the right person, whom I can trust and who I'm truly loving from the bottom of my heart. Link to comment
Ryan 288 Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 i'm not a woman but i lost my virginity to someone who meant a lot to me and i totally regret it lol a very strong connection between love and sex was created so it's painful to even do anything sexual with anyone else, anymore 1 upvote = 1 prayer for my sex life +1 Brethren. May the prayer circles intensify. Link to comment
Brooke 507 Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 i'm not a woman but i lost my virginity to someone who meant a lot to me and i totally regret it lol a very strong connection between love and sex was created so it's painful to even do anything sexual with anyone else, anymore 1 upvote = 1 prayer for my sex life the video in your sig is the best thing to have ever been bestowed upon me ever Link to comment
Butters 461 Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 I've always felt theres way too much emphasis put on virginity and how much it seems to be romanticized in society. Its a hymen, who cares? Link to comment
fuckJohnny 14,775 Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 I've always felt theres way too much emphasis put on virginity and how much it seems to be romanticized in society. Its a hymen, who cares? This. I mean I think it's important to have sex with someone you like, for the first time. But like why is virginity so valued/important? Makes no sense to me. Short answer: No. Link to comment
SchoolNote 6,178 Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 Idk if I'm waiting till marriage because I'm still waiting on CL to put a ring on it. Link to comment
Butters 461 Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 This. I mean I think it's important to have sex with someone you like, for the first time. But like why is virginity so valued/important? Makes no sense to me. Short answer: No. Agreed. Link to comment
denizen mars 5,911 Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 I've always felt theres way too much emphasis put on virginity and how much it seems to be romanticized in society. Its a hymen, who cares? it's not even that, because the hymen doesn't break during sex (or ever) and that is a myth perpetuated by the patriarchy in order to commodity virginity by saying women have some sort of 'freshness seal' /pedantic rant I think people who want to save it for marriage, or a person they love, or whatever, are completely within their rights to do so if that's how they feel. But the fact is that one's sexual debut is just a beginning, not an a end or a climax, and making it such robs us of being able to see sexuality as a process that happens throughout someone's whole life, not a single a event that someone's entire worth is predicated on. Also blah blah my nerve disorder blah blah first time sex can suck balls blah (this topic has come up on the forum a lot, and I think a lot of people know my view on it already). Have sex with good people that you trust and be prepared for some disappointment that may or may not happen. Be knowledgeable about sex, sexual health, and pleasure before you decide to have that monumental sex with your soulmate, or whatever, so at least you two can treat each other well if everything doesn't go perfectly. Link to comment
Tokki the Awkward Potato 5,878 Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 Uhm yes. I consider who I give myself to valuable and important. But saving your virginity before marriage is... Link to comment
TheProphetLaLa 1,123 Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 The question you should be asking is are women still valued for their virginity/virtue in the eyes of society? The answer to this question is yes and so for most woman in society the answer will be yes. They do value their virginity because that is what they are valued for. Link to comment
denizen mars 5,911 Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 The question you should be asking is are women still valued for their virginity/virtue in the eyes of society? The answer to this question is yes and so for most woman in society the answer will be yes. They do value their virginity because that is what they are valued for. that is a very good point. though I hope you're not also implying that we should all accept this status quo.... Link to comment
fuckJohnny 14,775 Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 it's not even that, because the hymen doesn't break during sex (or ever) and that is a myth perpetuated by the patriarchy in order to commodity virginity by saying women have some sort of 'freshness seal' /pedantic rant Then why did I bleed when I inserted a finger in my vagina when I was younger? The question you should be asking is are women still valued for their virginity/virtue in the eyes of society? The answer to this question is yes and so for most woman in society the answer will be yes. They do value their virginity because that is what they are valued for. My mind just got slayed. Link to comment
TheProphetLaLa 1,123 Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 that is a very good point. though I hope you're not also implying that we should all accept this status quo.... Denizen, what do you think? It's just such a frustrating topic because there are so many systems in place right now that make people deaf to this kind of logic. Religion being a huge and obvious one. I mean just look at this forum. There's a ridiculous amount of slut shaming that goes around, and its mostly perpetuated by females. Honestly, there's a long way to go. Link to comment
ScarletWhimsy 2,203 Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 I feel like virginity for women is over-rated, but nowadays, girls are sometimes so unleashed, to the point of making a mistake that they regret. To be safe, I'd rather wait until I'm married. Mostly because first times are undeniably special, and I want to save it for my future hubby But honestly, I don't think it's so much as valuing your virginity, but more like valuing your personal dignity as a woman, and self-respecting yourself and your own body. Girls should lose it when they feel truly ready. Whether that's early or late, or never, it's all okay <3 Link to comment
TheProphetLaLa 1,123 Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 I feel like virginity for women is over-rated, but nowadays, girls are sometimes so unleashed, to the point of making a mistake that they regret. To be safe, I'd rather wait until I'm married. Mostly because first times are undeniably special, and I want to save it for my future hubby But honestly, I don't think it's so much as valuing your virginity, but more like valuing your personal dignity as a woman, and self-respecting yourself and your own body. Girls should lose it when they feel truly ready. Whether that's early or late, or never, it's all okay <3 Yes my dear, but may I ask why your personal dignity as a woman and self-respect has anything to do with your virginity? Link to comment
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