KpopLover1986 261 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 I've always identified has a lesbian ever since the age of 13yrs old, But I don't hate guys I like guys but I love girls a lot more, I never had a boyfriend or a girlfriend I've been single foreverish put it that way I'm 28yrs of age. I've been bullied for being myself in school years and such, but I've always noticed I always had bisexual phases where I would crush or fan girl over boy groups, and I really like them, and I have posters of em' as well on my wall big into Kpop so it's the Koreans that did it to me cause they are extremely sexy guys I love the woman as well, but now since I'm older I def wouldn't mind going and doing something new having a boyfriend or trying a boyfriend, I never found a girlfriend girls where always users to me online relationships they played around with my feelings, hurt me and used me Cause I was nice I never had any girls has friends I only hung with boys when I was younger. I know it's the other way around when Girls are lesbians they don't go to guys, its girls that are straight go with girls and give a girl a chance, but I never had a experimental with a guy a girl back when I was 18yrs old she was just a one night stand and also a user. I mean I've had bisexual phases on crushing on guys has well all through out my life maybe I was scared to considered my self has bisexual as well? Cause I considered it whorish witch I know it's not and I never liked bisexuals cause maybe I was one the whole time? I'm saying I'm bisexual cause I don't hate guys I never did, and I find them sexy and such as well. I had such homophobic parents they treated me like shit when I came out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bearclaw 3,543 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 Sexuality is fluid. whatever you feel comfortable with then do it and don't let the labels wear you down so much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abra 40,910 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 Being lesbian has nothing to do with hating guys Sounds to me like you're bisexual but much more attracted to women, but idk how these things work. Or maybe you're lesbian but bi-curious, however that works out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SHITNEY 30 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 Lol, I was in this situation once upon a time. I guess, if you find yourself sexually attracted to both then I'd say bisexual, but, even some straight guys are willing to admit when another guy is sexy so I guess it would take some experimentation to know for sure. But really though who needs labels? Do what makes you happiest (within legal parameters of course)~~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grape Soda 12,004 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 well a lesbian likes only girls so bi maybe...idk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eric Sogard's Glasses 623 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 you are asking this question when half the people here barely lost their virginity you should really go to a therapist with this shit Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kc157489 3,758 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 Don't try to define yourself by what society likes to label some people just be yourself and I'm sure you'll find that right guy or girl or alien. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Affection90 2,412 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 i think u are bisexual tho, but i agree with someone above me, dont put any label on yourself, just follow ur heart cause.. *ariana grande whistle note mode:on* this is the part when you break freeeeeeeeee ~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Temptastic VII 6,473 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 idk i crush on a lot of kpop girls so i consider myself bicurious because im mostly straight but who knows what could happen. Anyway, like someone said above, you don't need to worry about labels, love who you love... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
masketta 2,783 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 you're not going to figure out your sexuality until you explore your sexuality Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
awkyj 1,499 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 i think you're bi... but you def should experiment with both genders first this is the only way you can know what you really are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dandelina 326 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 i think you are a bisexual if you feel like having sex with both men and women. but if you are not sexually attracted to men and feel the desire to have sex with women then maybe you are a lesbian. but there are straight women who simply love or are obsessed with beautiful women but are not into them sexually. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ehmy 1,931 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 Labels can be really lame when they are causing more problems than they are helping. Generally, if you are sexually attracted to guys and want to be with a guy in that way (in addition to girls) then you are bisexual. However, you do you. I can find a guy attractive and even could see the possibility of being romantically attracted to a guy. I could not see myself ever wanting a long-term relationship with a guy or actually wanting to have sex with a guy. Thus, I consider myself a lesbian and if anyone has a problem, they can go shove it. There is nothing wrong with trying new things though. You are not forbidden from ever being with a guy just because you considered yourself a lesbian at the age of 13. -edit- To answer your question: I wouldn't say you are anything as it isn't my role to label you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JaynaeNicole 3,465 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 honestly you are,who ever you wanna be you can call yourself lesbian,bi whatever but just be kpoplover1986..and anyone that doesnt like it..they can shove up there bum hole Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
camelliabloom 4,557 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 The only way to know is to experiment. The way I identify is bi-romantic lesbian, meaning I can romantically like both genders but I only like sex with women. I know people are telling you not to question it, but the closest way to identify your sexuality is think about how you feel and if you could have pleasurable sex with either (or both) genders. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ancor288 3,306 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 Only you know that answer....have fun exploring and experimenting Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ringo 4,146 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 Just think about the sort of person you want to be with on your own terms without worrying about fitting a label. I thought I only liked women for a long time, so when there did come a guy I became very attracted to, it was very confusing because of labeling myself earlier on. So just do what feels natural to you. Don't take fangirling over someone as proof that you like men. Ponder your desires without thinking of labels and such and you'll figure out what you like. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hoplz 2,333 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 Ur bi But u should probably experiment with both Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boooo 2,469 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 I know it most be confusing but sometimes we think to hard on putting labels to what we do and what we like. My advice is that you should experiment with both genders in an intimate way and if you like both, so be it. Don´t think too much, you have to feel it. I hope it helps! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sane 16,342 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 Sexuality is about who you want to have sex with. If you want to have sex with both sexes, you're bi. If you only want to have sex with women then you're a lesbian If you're not sure then the answer is porn. Lots and lots of porn of many flavors Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
030413 802 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 A lesbian can find guys sexy. But a lesbian won't date or have sexual relations with men. So it's hard to say whether your bi or lesbian since you never tried dating a guy. Let's say you find a guy sexy can you actually see yourself sleeping or being in a relationship with one? If your still not sure I wouldn't label yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barrio baby 833 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 sexuality is confusing, so just identify with the label you're most comfortable with. i'd say you're a lesbian Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tousle 1,178 Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 bi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KpopLover1986 261 Posted September 17, 2014 Author Share Posted September 17, 2014 Thank you for the answers Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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