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Please please please let the news not be real. I just keep staring at my posters and crying.
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They are all me.
DIED at that part
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Hello! I am gay!
Not sure if this is the right topic here, but I am needing some helpful advice (for anyone willing to provide)
Yesterday, I was at the club with my closest friends having a very good night. I met somebody (we will call him C) that I had been speaking to for some time and we started dancing together, one of my closest friends (we will call him A) knows everything about this, we are almost like brothers. So during the night I ended up making out with C, I opened my eyes as I noticed that the way he was kissing me seemed a bit off, and I then noticed that he was busy eyeing the gogo dancer. So I pulled away and said, "You seem distracted, I mean, you could stare all you want but really? While I am kissing you?" and stormed off. I ended up getting pretty drunk after that cause I was feeling depressed.
A short time after all that, I caught A dancing with C and getting pretty close (I never saw them actually kiss though) and they were doing it around me. It made me feel even worse about myself. So when the club was over, a majority of us were sitting outside, chatting and sharing stories and I saw A and C cuddling nearby. As I was saying my goodbyes I completely ignored A. In doing so, A called out to me and I said in hand gestures "You broke my heart." And continued to walk away, he came chasing after me and I told him exactly how I felt. C ended up coming over and the both of them apologized to me, I in turn said, "This is how it is nowadays. The majority of our community fails to have much of an understanding what it means to hurt somebody else.
Everyone thinks with their d***ks while I have to be the idiot who thinks with his heart," they both stood around listening to me and trying to explain themselves to me. Eventually, C ended up walking away to make a phone call and I talked to A a bit more. He said he would never want a man to come in between us and we hugged it out. And while I am hurting and I forgave him to an extent, he and C were still lingering around each other and when I eventually left, I am pretty sure they went home together. I do not know what to do now. I feel so hurt and betrayed and I am honestly at a loss of what step to take next, because clearly, no matter how it made me feel, none of what was said to them mattered at all.
Drop em both. If they don't have basic respect for you AFTER you explained how you felt (even before since they should have known to not cross that boundary), then they aren't people you want in your life. Unfortunately you can't make them have concern, so its best to just stop associating with them. Your feelings are going to be hurt, have a good cry, and remember this if they try coming back to you.
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so, i have a question, sort of haha
how long into a new friendship do you usually wait to bring up your sexuality and/or gender identity?
i'm always a bit on the fence about this tbh... on one hand, i am not ashamed of being bisexual, and i'd rather not waste time trying to befriend someone who turns out to be a bigot or something like that; on the other hand, i don't want to be defined by my sexuality, or to have them think i'm hitting on them, or even to feel like i have to be out to absolutely everyone i know
it's kind of a mess, basically lol
so for me, i usually wait until the person has made it clear they're not homophobic or biphobic or whatever, and then try to mention it as casually as i can
I never tell my friends my sexual orientation unless they ask. But I don't hide it either. It's a part of who I am so if I think a girl is hot i'll openly check her out or say how hot she is. Or if i'm discussing exes with a friend i'll talk about my ex, who just so happens to be female, so its on them if they pick up on me using the 'she' pronoun. Most people will give you an answer about their prejudice just by their response (verbal and physical) to those actions, without you having to have a dragged out conversation coming out (which is so tiring after you do it a thousand and one times). At the end of the day they're either going to be ignorant or not so you might as well be yourself.
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Hey!
Not sure if you all will even care about this or not but I work at a Walmart Supercenter in Tampa, FL and yesterday a BTS song came on in the store. Walmart has it's own separate radio station so I was shocked and happy. Way to go BTS! Never thought i'd hear Walmart playing kpop
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if i'm not mistaken it was kyle hanagami
Thank You!
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Who choreographed IDLYG ?
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170729 HYUNA at Waterbomb Festival
I love when you she takes off her heels when the floor is wet.
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About Amber is like this, what is the difference between her and Taeyeon or Sunmi or Kahi et. al? Nothing. Not about genders they are/have dating so why does Amber get the lesbian labels besides her style and fans assumptions interest she shows in guys is fake? I’m not labeling her but it’s not like we can know if she’s a repressed lesbian but I wouldn’t bet on it because of the way she is. Amber is not a lost little gay puppy finding her way in the world she knows who she is. The problem starts because she also knows how others see her like and how dangerous that is to her career so yeah she deflects and who can blame her? But that’s publicly, privately she has no real reason forcing herself to date guys so if she date guys and she’s super aware and comfortable in her own skin is repressed lesbian the logical conclusion instead of she just likes both? No it isn’t so that’s why I put her in the likes both category it's the logical explanation for how she lives. Repressed lesbian isn't impossible but less likelier than she simply likes both she could like one more than the other but that's hardly important.
I don't throw the lesbian label around so easily most queer women end up somewhere in the bi side of things. Lesbian over here lesbian over there isn't true anywhere but most fans feel threatened to admit their fave idol likes guys for real like it means she can't like girls too when chances are she if she likes girls she'll like guys too, only a minority will like only girls just like everywhere else.
Amber gets the label the same way any others (including Taeyeon since you mentioned her) get the label. Cause they do and say some stereotypical lesbian shit.
Of course Amber knows herself and is pretty solid in her sexuality (whether it be het/les/bi/pan/ace/etc.)
I'm not saying she doesn't know herself. Everyone falls on a spectrum, she just seems to feel stronger for females than males and thus her interactions with people are mixed (as in her response to them) cause she does still have attractions to both genders (hello, spectrum).
She's mentioned that she has dated a male in the past, literally means nothing (for or against her lesbianism).
Just because someone thinks another person is homosexual doesn't mean they're "threatened" if someone has opposing views.
"I don't throw the lesbian label around so easily ... most fans feel threatened to admit their fave idol likes guys"
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hi everyone
I saw that the sexuality of amber and luna is a lot discused in this topic
but what is your opinion on krystal because she always ping as a queer
bi but with more of a preference/comfort with men
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Their friendship was intense for a while (some of Amber's 'fans' or Kryber fans started leaving quite a bit of hate and shipper comments on her instagram though, asking about couple items and all kinds of shiz)
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<Ellin's hands Didn't they delete pics of eachother off their instas and haven't been seen together since? Huge flag for me.
Amber gets so attached in her friendhsips (I remember Ailee saying people use her cause shes so giving)
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Same Amber, same (minus the photoshoots lol)
She's already kissed Luna
i lost my shit when this happened
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That look away at 00:19
Every time i think i'm over her she pulls me back!
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Why is that a bad thing?
That song is so good. Might be the white suit and the hair doing it for you.Besides, this song, XL Uber, is R&B
Here's a clipAmber singing.... girl why is you trying to kill me?!?!?!
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Regarding Jiyoon's possible Album, I did some backtracking and found this, but there's no source.
what is going on in your sig?????
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amber orgies on the regular
omg i remember thinking they were dating for the LONGEST.
I for sure think she was dating that one chick from Crayon Pop (Ellin?)
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Gayoon - likes women
Hyuna - likes women but dates mostly guys
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Amber - likes both
I have always gotten hella vibes from Gayoon and Hyuna, finally someone said it!
Also, why both for Amber? I ask cause i've had times where I thought she was bi too but more and more the girl just screams repressed lesbian
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Where from?!?!
Luna has no chill and I love it !!
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Do you have any unpopular opinion?
Cause, unpopular opinion: Irene doesn't ping. Like at all.
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So happy WTP is back !
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Just missing Amber and mentally ranting. Using this gif to try and cheer myself up.
this one works too
eh, no, I'm crying on the inside. She's so cute. She should always be smiling
Why does she always like to squish her ear with her cap?...
ahhhh so adorable Why is she so cute gah I shouldn't have done this while listening to On My Own. My heart is aching
GASP!!! where is the second gif from???
<Ellin's hands 
amber orgies on the regular 
ahhhh so adorable 
Why is she so cute
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I've had a psychiatrist question my reasons for my depression, saying 'thats not a good reason to be sad,' some people should NOT be doing the work they are doing
That is very upsetting and I hope it's not true. As someone who fights suicidal ideation daily, I can see how this would push some people over (i've had to curb my own thoughts cause it's like you're sad and this person you looked up to finally did it so why not you) but SHAWOLS PLEASE FIGHT THROUGH IT AND BE STRONG FOR JJONG!!