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Literally the best smile on this planet.

a~chan makes me so happy. she seems like a very genuine and down to earth person :') she's a cutie baby princess
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Eh hello everybody...
I'm...well, I don't know. I haven't given too much thought to my sexuality, because it's not very important to me tbh. For most of my life I've been heavily attracted to guys, but when I was about 13 I developed a crush on my girl friend, and somehow during the year we started dating. It was never about her gender though, I was just attracted to her for her...she was wonderful. I kept this hidden from my parents but my mom eventually caught us heh, and my brother already knew... Given that I was kind of an impressionable girl, I think my mom thought that my girlfriend was like...influencing me to be lesbian or bi? Which I thought was true for a long time, because she influenced me in a lot of other ways, good or bad...
Anyway, it's something that isn't talked about around the house, it's like it never happened. I used to ignore it as well (because we had kind of a messy breakup and then lost contact), and tried to put her all out of my mind when I went to high school. I never had a crush on another girl after that. Now I'm 19 and in a relationship with my longtime guy friend.
So...yeah. That part of my life in not very fond of examining. I dont know my sexuality (my friends think I'm pan though). I dont feel like a legit member of the lgbt community...like I never felt any kind of camaraderie with someone just because we shared minority status...this goes for any community I technically fall into (black, woman), etc. Like...do I belong here? Am I just a dumb straight person who was heavily influenced by someone who isn't even in my life anymore? Am I bi because I like watching gxb and gxg porn? Am I pan because I wouldn't mind dating a girl if I liked her enough? Idk. I don't know if I belong here. I'm sorry for writing a huge wall of text... I guess I don't like to think about my sexuality much because it confuses me too much. And it's not like I identify with it or anything? I don't particularly identify with my race or gender either, I've always been more concerned in identifying with what I like or what I've accomplished...the other stuff just isn't as important to me?
I don't know. I'm messed up. I'm sorry.
you said you would date a girl if you liked her enough but there are some things you can think about to help you try to figure it out. are you romantically (and/or sexually) attracted to women, even only sometimes? if you dated a girl, would you BECOME sexually attracted to her? think about your future; would you rather be with a man or with a woman? how often do you fantasize about women? pansexuality infers that you're already attracted to women in some shape or form so you shouldn't let your friends confuse you because they assume your sexuality for you.
i know you're confused because you dated a girl at some point but that's totally normal. you were 13 when you dated your girlfriend so you might have actually been influenced by her which isn't uncommon at that age. it's also easy to mistake an admiration for someone as a form of romantic attraction. also, don't base your sexuality on the porn you watch LOL i remember when i was in high school i used to watch porn other than gay porn, like lesbian and straight even though i'm a 100% gay man
i mean, at the end of the day people can give you some advice on figuring out your sexuality, but they can't tell you for sure whether you're bi/etc. that's something you'll have to figure out on your own. i know a lot of people like saying that "labels aren't important" but if being able to label yourself makes you feel more secure/confident then you should continue on your journey of ~self discovery~ but if that journey only leaves you with more and more questions then it's just best to drop it, or at least find a simplified label that you can at least relate to in some form.
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Cuando hacer las cosas en otros idiomas no es suficiente.... El español viene al rescate!





todavÃa me acuerdo cuando mi abuelita miraba esta novela en la tele!! y ahora es un meme
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Girls why do you put on makeup when you look so beautiful without it?
a lot of women don't wear makeup to look beautiful for men so they don't care how "beautiful" you think they look without makeup
why do guys expect girls to be hairless everywhere (excluding scalp, eyebrows, etc) but then guys have like hairy balls and crap that you expect to be sucked
is hair = manly?? orz
it has less to do with "preference" and more to do with how society infantilizes women and the oppressive construction of femininity but that's a story for another time!
women are human, they have body hair. if a man ever complains about body hair on women drop him faster than a hot potato
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are guys romantic or not?
if you're in a relationship with a guy who's not romantic then he's not mature enough to be in a relationship in the first place, tbh
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Sorry, I meant to exclude relations and behavior upon the sex whom you're attracted to. It does play a huge part in that. But I meant your general everyday personality. For example, many homophobes or ignorant people think gay males are extremely happy-go-lucky, jazzy, or feminine. Which are traits that anyone can have, and just because you are a gay male, you don't have to obtain those traits. But based on how you act with people you find attractive or relationships, this reflects your sexuality. But you can't assume someone is gay because they like broadway or they are compassionate. But you can assume if they act a certain way with the sex they are attracted to. Sorry, for the confusion, I hope you understand where I'm coming from now. ^^
i agree that not all gay guys are feminine, but if a guy IS feminine he's more likely to be gay tbh. i think it's kind of iffy to base accusations on stereotypes but i mean, how common is it for straight guys to be feminine or exhibit more feminine behaviors compared to gay men? i personally don't fall under stereotypes but most of my gay friends do
maybe it's because men in general are socialized to be masculine/aggressive in a world where gay men are already labeled as being not "real" men so we're not as uptight about dumb gender roles and are able to showcase ourselves more freely? idk maybe if our society wasn't so femmephobic more straight men would be more feminine : ))))
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my most iconic pic :stud:
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[/spoiler]excuse my hair :lol:
omg punch me in the face. choke me with my own legs ZADDY
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i really wish they would come again too because i don't remember 95% of the concert... i was too turnt
anyways can someone tell me if toumei ningen (the b-side of the recent single) is any good? i don't wanna listen to it until my CD arrives!! i don't wanna spoil the surprise :')
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I need more Perfume selfies in my life.
they NEED to make instagram accounts!!
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It is degrading. Not because there's anything wrong with being female or feminine, but because intentionally misgendering somebody is a direct attack on the legitimacy of that person's identity. The idea that gay men are "kinda men but kinda women" and that it's appropriate to treat them as such is so pervasive that the idea has even infiltrated the gay community, and it's why most gay men refuse to associate with the community at all. No self respecting person of either sex would put up with that, and it shouldn't be tolerated in a thread like this.
Seriously, can you imagine somebody saying "hey girl lemme lick your girl-dick" or "I wanna fuck you in your front-ass"? Most women would not put up with something like that.
oh ok. i never thought of it like that tbh

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Why the fuck do people say shit like this? The entire point of being attracted to males is that they don't have vaginas, and most gay guys (that I've seen at least) agree that it's really gross when people feel the need to feminize men's bodies. I mean we don't masculinize women's bodies, even lesbians. Why do it to guys? It's just another way of saying "he's a man but he's not really a man though"

'boy pussy' is gay slang for a dude's ass. i think it's funny how offended you got by such a harmless post, you're acting as if it's degrading to associate men with female characteristics/femininity.
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I am liking Relax In The City a lot.
i like it better than pick me up tbh

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Posted here :) . Thank you for your patience: http://onehallyu.com/topic/158395-perfume-pick-me-up/
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Slay ladies!! Achan looks like she's about to save the world ala Final Fantasy

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i'm gonna sound like such a k-netizen but my cousin's friend who's studying abroad in korea saw a member (i ain't about to say who, i don't want backlash) from the group m.pire ~fooling around~ with guys at a club
you didn't hear this from me tho

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Perfume and their feels inducing presence
BTW, Relax In The City will be previewed on perfume locks on April 6th
it's gonna be released on itunes april 8th i think
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Username: penis colada
Request:#_this week: 1 accepted by tokpopandbeyond
Artist: Perfume
Song: PIck me up
Video/Audio(optional):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vhfYis6VuXY
Original Lyrics(optional): i can't find the lyrics :/ hopefully it won't be too hard
thanks in advance~
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a~chan hugging a~chan has got me so fucking emotional
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omg when's the PV gonna come out i'm dying
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I'm going mid August (I have a placement test, but don't actually start until September)
hopefully, on the bright side I've began to use just traditional :ahmagah:
ooooh i'm gonna study in taiwan too. i'm planning to go next year when i transfer to uni (i'm in community college atm) and hopefully i have enough money saved up by then : ))
i've started learning chinese and my new year's resolution was to be somewhat fluent in chinese before i hit 20 but that's only 3 months away lmao :unsure:
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nocchi's hair in that pic makes her look older but like, in a cute way






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LGBTQIA Community Thread! If you're queer come here~
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demisexual is a completely valid identity! tbh, i think demisexuality is a lot more common than people think.. the only reason it goes unnoticed is because not many people know what it means or they may not even know such a label exists