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  1. 6 hours ago, loveablejoy said:

    He's only defending her because he doesn't want his movie to flop.

    But the movie was well received despite her being a part of the project....

    2 hours ago, Nev Schulman said:

    Gonna share a personal opinion in regards to people dragging KJH and blaming him for following orders.

    But TBH he (Kim Jung Hyun) cannot escape responsibility. I experienced something like this. A guy I knew became a narcissistic person because he suffered narcissistic abuse his entire life including his ex GF. The guy mirrorred what she did to him to me. I suffered through narcissistic abuse because of him not recognising that behaviour and because he likely already had a untreated personality disorder. 

    Personally even if he is a victim (just like the male actor), when the victim becomes the perpetrator they should still be held a 100% responsible for what they did. And I agree.  We cannot blame Yeji for him doing what he did. In my example the ex is out of his life and he is still treating certain people like crap and gaslighting people.

    I think people aren't trying to shift the blame towards him but they just want to hold him accountable regardless of whether he's a victim of abuse or not. It doesn’t change the abuse he put through others so he still holds in a way equally as much responsibility... I think that's what people mean. In the end people are just dragging him along because it feels like they are letting him scot free because he's a victim. The comment isn't completely right but I can see where it stems from because I personally went through narcissistic abuse by a victim that became the perpetrator... I wish people would just say all this! 

    I was lucky to recognise this behaviour and not mirror it up to others. I am not saying he is to blame for following orders while being manipulated but I am highlighting that he's a perpetrator too. His victims cannot blame anyone but HIM and not Yeji and that is what people are trying to say to me in the wrong way I hope. I cannot blame that guy's ex girlfriend for him putting me through mental abuse either. I can only blame him. And that's fair. So yes KJH deserves the heat regardless.

    But this only works in a place where Mental health and male abuse victims are taken seriously. None of the works with netizen comments because they don't. All of the vitriol he's received has been as a perpetrator (against Seohyun and staff) and any mention of him being a victim of abuse on their end is met with backlash. It's always he's too weak or he's equally as bad as Seo Yeji despite the proof of her being a repeat offender. 

     

    Wanting to hold him accountable is perfectly fine because being a victim does not excuse becoming a perpetrator it only explains the reasoning behind it. My problem is that far too many people are going past accountability and straight up verbally abusing him. 

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    7. [+181] Lee Byung Hun, who cheated on his pregnant wife, is doing just fine shooting CFs and dramas... so why not Seo Yeji?

    10. [+51] Why would anyone assume that just because her movie is doing well, that it means people are changing their minds about Seo Yeji too? ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ People watched the movie as a member of an audience, not as a member of her fan meeting. And there are a ton of other actors in the movie aside from Seo Yeji too

    Spill 

    Edit: Being a shitty person does not take away from her skill but people can decide whether or no they want to continue to support her. I just hope the same people offering her sympathy are extending the same to KJH as a victim of her abuse 

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  3. Yes she did. 

    Rumors are rumors but she certainly didn't help the situation with her behavior towards Zhao Liying during a (staff dinner?). The mess during Legend of Fei and pissing off a respected actress and her fanbase was honestly the dumbest thing she could do. She has no one to blame but herself.

    Unfortunately sponsors are not uncommon in the entertainment industry but most people have enough sense to try and hide it or at the very least work hard enough to make up for sliding through with connections.

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  4. On 4/18/2021 at 11:14 PM, melancholic autumn said:

    It was unfair of Kim Junghyun to treat Seohyun like that, but can people stop downplaying him being emotionally manipulated and abused by Seo Yeji? Why do people act like a person can't both be a victim and a perpetrator at the same time? How people are gaslighting KJH being a victim of domestic abuse is the reason why male domestic abuse victims are never taken seriously

    (btw I'm not even a KJH fan because I only watched him on Mr. Queen, which I watched primarily for Shin Hye Sun, so don't at me)

    While this is true none of that excuses the fans extreme behavior (which is the current topic of discussion) 

  5. I feel really bad for Kim Jung Hyun and I wish people, especially the Korean public would stop acting like being a victim and perpetrator are mutually exclusive. He can be and he definitely was both. He was a victim of Seo Yeji's manipulation but also a perpetrator against Seohyun and the staff he was working with. I feel like people aren't taking his abuse seriously because he's a man and because SYJ is pretty. Everyone's simply writing her off as a crazy gf instead of an abusive narcissist and master manipulator sans a couple western drama fans/a few knetz. The man literally had to take hiatus on a doctor's recommendation due to how bad his eating habits and sleeping disorders were progressing. He

    absolutely, 1000% needs to apologize to everyone that he hurt with his actions, especially Seohyun but I also wish people would cut him some slack. I really don't like how much people are glossing over the abuse he received. There way to many sexist comments about what he should have done versus empathetic statements about what he could have done. Too many "take it like a man/grow some balls" comments coming from people who are supposedly feminist first and pro victim. This entire situation is leaving a really bad taste in my mouth and I hope after he apologizes to everyone he gets the therapy he needs to heal from that relationship.

    I didn't mention my thoughts on Seohyun because she is receiving the overwhelming support she deserves after everything she went through. She's being showered with nothing but love and support so I'm not too worried about her.

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